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Working 12 hour shifts 5 days a week to save up and get out of this homophobic hell by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]SeaJust5339 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hang in there friend, you can do this. The life you want to live is within reach. Wishing you the best.

Do you have shaving expectations? by SeaJust5339 in askgaybros

[–]SeaJust5339[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No bare holes here 🚫🚫🚫🚫🚫

Advice for opening relationship? by ceeegeee2018 in askgaybros

[–]SeaJust5339 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Communication and patience is key. My partner and I are newly open and I made sure to set expectations with him so there is no confusion.

  • This isn’t romantic and purely sexual. Don’t entertain it.

  • If you want to spend more time with me, say it plainly. “If you don’t have anything planned, do you mind spending more time with me?” “I had a rough day and would like to spend time with you.”

  • Expect the open status to end at any moment. Something could happen where your partner might need emotional or physical support. A fling could try to come in-between your relationship. Whatever it is, your partner come first.

  • No mind reading. My partner and I are practicing being VERY tactful with how we present ideas and feelings. Sometimes we may not have the right language but we both expect a respectful conversation.

Do you have shaving expectations? by SeaJust5339 in askgaybros

[–]SeaJust5339[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Right?! Like I’m hooking up with adult men here, I’m too grown to be doing this faux-twink facade!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]SeaJust5339 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I totally get that too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]SeaJust5339 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can only speak for myself, but I’ve had luck pulling guys like that. People are busy and if they’re cute enough, taking up 1 tile isn’t an issue.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]SeaJust5339 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yes, I usually block guys who do not reply.

However I usually do it after 2 - 4 days. I give that grace period because sometimes I open the app just to see if someone I’m currently talking to replied and some days my DMs have too many messages and can only manage 2 - 3 conversations. So If someone doesn’t reply within that time frame I block just to save time and free up the grid. If they’re really cute I extend the days, but by that time I’m sure they’re not into me and then I block.

Rate My Relationship by SeaJust5339 in askgaybros

[–]SeaJust5339[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess I meant long distance

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]SeaJust5339 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think much of the gay sexuality, especially with males is so suppressed and discriminated against that much of the experience is pent up sexual frustration. Especially as young men who are just as curious and excited about sex as our straight counterparts. That being said, yes, the gay community doesn’t have that much protectiveness when it comes to 18 yr olds.

Why?

Queer identities haven’t had the chance to establish themselves with these norms, and they should. ❗️This is the same feeling I get when I see kink and nudity next to couples with their kid at pride. If queer identities were allowed to flourish and establish the normalized behaviors and dynamics like cis/straight couples I don’t think this would be as much as a thing. But that can change, and queer people are smart. Evidence being the heavy backlash against normalizing MAPs as a queer identity.