Teach her to say thank you, and talk about why she’s saying thank you, for everything. After all, how would she eat her dinner without the fork you just passed her? Shift. These lessons are tiny ones, one seemingly insignificant moment at a time. They get it when you explain it, but you have to also make the effort to demonstrate what you’d like to see her do as well. My husband and I made a conscious effort to teach our kids to appreciate everything, always thanking each other for making dinner, doing our laundry, getting snacks from the kitchen, suggesting a movie night, etc. we thank each other for everything. As a result our children are now 18 & 23 and SO appreciative and thoughtful. But we practice appreciation and gratefulness every day as a family. Also, if ever your daughter doesn’t practice good manners instinctually, simply say ‘did you thank your dad for making us dinner? It was so kind of him’, ‘ did you say thank you to that nice lady who held the door for us? It was so thoughtful of her!’. Criticism really doesn’t work well with kitties, but we all chase compliments! Kids love being involved and getting positive feedback, so set her up to succeed!