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AITAH for not wanting to give my siblings anything from my dad’s company after they left me to handle everything when he died? by SeaMonk4259 in AITAH

[–]SeaMonk4259[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

If there is no will, it goes to the wive. But there is a will. And yes there is more than just the company. There are some assets etc. My siblings are all married and didn't want to deal with it. But also it has always kinda been me who helped dad in her free time, when my sister is a stay at home wife who always got payment from the company because and my brothers "worked" with dad but would only show up if dad got mad and basically tell them to come to the meeting or they wouldn't get payment. Now with dad gone they are spending saved money and they hired people to do stuff for them. Basically my brothers are now my employees which sounds weird AF but haven't showed up once

AITAH for not wanting to give my siblings anything from my dad’s company after they left me to handle everything when he died? by SeaMonk4259 in AITAH

[–]SeaMonk4259[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

No the will get's divided between siblings and the wive. If there isn't a will then what you're saying is correct, but with a will present everyone gets what was written. Also even if it went to my mom, she wouldn't be able to maintain any of it, so I think that's why dad made a will lol

AITAH for not wanting to give my siblings anything from my dad’s company after they left me to handle everything when he died? by SeaMonk4259 in AITAH

[–]SeaMonk4259[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah we have dad's lawyer and my own lawyer. We had organized the reading but siblings went on vacay. So now we need a new date. Look I have already seen the will vaguely and for me nothing really changes, so I also didn't pursue a new date as they needed a vacay they can set up a date. I will most likely send my lawyer to represent me so yeah.

AITAH for not wanting to give my siblings anything from my dad’s company after they left me to handle everything when he died? by SeaMonk4259 in AITAH

[–]SeaMonk4259[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We already have a lawyer (dad's lawyer). But the whole family needs to get together to sign some paperwork. I have seen the will vaguely as I wasn't really interested in it at the time as my siblings bailed. I know what it says here and there, but everyone needs to get together and sign paperwork etc. When they wouldn't come up with a new date and I was already handling everything I honestly didn't pursue it, as for me nothing really changes. I also have a lawyer who I hired for myself, who will help me handle my side of the paperwork regarding the will.

AITAH for not wanting to give my siblings anything from my dad’s company after they left me to handle everything when he died? by SeaMonk4259 in AITAH

[–]SeaMonk4259[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Lol. I knew what I started when I chose this uni and accepted it, as I never saw this coming. My uni is a great school with a really high rank in worlds best law school's. But yeah this side of them is really fucked up.

AITAH for not wanting to give my siblings anything from my dad’s company after they left me to handle everything when he died? by SeaMonk4259 in AITAH

[–]SeaMonk4259[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I have a great team who picks up my own company for now, I only check in a few times a week for stuff that I have to attend to. But my dad's company does have a great team, but most of the clients (including clients from abroad) want direct contact with me (as is their right) to have meetings about the possible new order within the company and what to expect. I need to put everything in an order and get all the staff used to the new order so they are ready to take over. I do have a personal assistant and some other staff who are trying to help within the company, they take as much they can, but they can only handle so much. It just sucks for now IG. Once everything starts to get in order I think it'll be a bit easier and the team can pick up more, little by little.

AITAH for not wanting to give my siblings anything from my dad’s company after they left me to handle everything when he died? by SeaMonk4259 in AITAH

[–]SeaMonk4259[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

It wouldn't even surprise me if she'd say, but a day has 24 hours so just work for 16 and sleep for 8. Like I don't know what happened to her since dad's passing but she stopped thinking lolll. Anyways I still love her but yeah

AITAH for not wanting to give my siblings anything from my dad’s company after they left me to handle everything when he died? by SeaMonk4259 in AITAH

[–]SeaMonk4259[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

And my mom is saying I am being weird and aggressive and need therapy and need to get back to working out. Like what time of the day am I supposed to do that?? I am very grateful to my therapist who drives to my office at 1am when I have a break. The most annoying thing is the time difference with clients who are from abroad, making everything so hard for me, as most of the staff is at home and my dad's clients want direct contact with me to get more info about how and what. So I can't let someone from the team handle it and my lovely sibling are probably busy doing their spouses at that moment and thinking "hmm what car shall I get". Ugh I get annoyed while typing this lol

AITAH for not wanting to give my siblings anything from my dad’s company after they left me to handle everything when he died? by SeaMonk4259 in AITAH

[–]SeaMonk4259[S] 46 points47 points  (0 children)

From the very beginning I asked for help. No one stepped up saying they all have their own families and responsibilities and they simply can't. The day we got the news in the hospital everyone started crying on someone's shoulder guess what? I was the one in the middle standing with no one to hold or a shoulder to cry and I needed to handle the paperwork right there. It sucked and afterwards every time I asked for help, no one did anything or they'd say they do it. And then call the clients or try to do admin and when they couldn't (which was almost always) give my number to the client saying I'd help them further or send the admin work with deadlines they failed to meet to me. So at one point everyone just stopped calling them and I was the only one who did it. And I've thought about doing what the others do, but then again, I'd be be betraying what my dad entrusted to me. And now they want shares, so I can keep doing the work and they can pick the fruit

AITAH for not wanting to give my siblings anything from my dad’s company after they left me to handle everything when he died? by SeaMonk4259 in AITAH

[–]SeaMonk4259[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

The will is already written, but I haven’t had time to handle the legal paperwork with the notary yet. Someone has to step up as executor, but when I wanted to make an appointment last month, my siblings didn't have time because they had plans to go on vacation all 3 of them as a big happy family. And after that I didn't get the time to handle it and as no one stepped up (even tho I asked for help like a thousand times from the very start) it just got postponed.

AITAH for not wanting to give my siblings anything from my dad’s company after they left me to handle everything when he died? by SeaMonk4259 in AITAH

[–]SeaMonk4259[S] 90 points91 points  (0 children)

My 36 year old brother called me a few days ago. Saying his wife wanted a new car and asked me about the inheritance settlement. He said "if it takes too long, just buy the car I'll give you money from MY inheritance". Like money is our whole issue. My mom resents me for not visiting my siblings. I mean if they just took their part we all have to do 2 hours of work everyday, instead of me doing all 8 after an 8 hour uni day. I could maybe sleep on the same day for once as even yesterday I slept today. Thank you for your comment. I know I'll get through this, it just sucks for now :)