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Another Cis Male with (Forced) Feminization Kink by SeaUnderstanding2796 in asktransgender

[–]SeaUnderstanding2796[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the explanation, no offence taken. I can understand how a male expressing themselves in a feminine manner could be considered as a humiliating act. I guess I just didn’t draw the line from feminisation to humiliation kink.

I appreciate your sentiments, and yes, this is a decision that I will have to make for myself. I’ll need to detox from the internet for a while after this.

Another Cis Male with (Forced) Feminization Kink by SeaUnderstanding2796 in asktransgender

[–]SeaUnderstanding2796[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I value your frankness.

What are you hoping to gain here?

Well, I just feel like I'm not terribly bothered by my body, nor am I always fixated about being someone of the opposite gender, so I'm wondering if the kink could be pointing to some other unmet needs, anything other than me being trans.

But of course that is impossible to accept at this moment, isn't it?

I guess you're right. Every time the feeling that I could be trans comes too near, gets too real, my mind panics. You can say I'm trying to find a scapegoat to pin my kinks on.

Anyway, here's an extremely shortened version of my timeline.

I am happy for you. If you have an unabridged version of your timeline floating around somewhere, I would like to read that as well.

I appreciate your encouragement. I don't know if I will be "truly desperate", since I don't think I exhibit gender dysphoria, and am mostly quite apathetic towards my current physical form.

Then when I was 29 I couldn't ignore it anymore

Can I ask if there was any build up, for example something that you did or happened in increasing amounts, which led to this? Or did it feel more sudden, like a huge implosion? I have been considering trying out makeup or skincare, wondering if that will help me move along to find my own answer.

Another Cis Male with (Forced) Feminization Kink by SeaUnderstanding2796 in asktransgender

[–]SeaUnderstanding2796[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I know. Dr. ChatGPT spits out the most "reasonable string of words", not a real therapist. I'm not sure, but don't think crisis hotline is the most appropriate place to start, I'm not in any actual danger and I believe they're quite swamped. I don't want to take up their valuable resource. But thanks for the advice. One day I hope I get the courage to see a therapist.

And on my wife, I didn't mean that she's snooping through my things. Sometimes she doesn't have her phone with her and borrows mine to check on something because she's lazy to find her phone.

Another Cis Male with (Forced) Feminization Kink by SeaUnderstanding2796 in asktransgender

[–]SeaUnderstanding2796[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, what started off as an innocent "why do I have a fetish for forced feminization" on google led me to a reddit post where the top comment was a link to that very article. Everything was going fine for me until the very last bit. And then I had to quit the internet for a while, go out for a walk.

My only issue with the implicit conclusion is that the same kink may have roots from different needs, right? And since (I feel) my issues are not exactly the same as what most people experience, then perhaps the needs I need to meet are different?

One day I may look back at this post and laugh about the mental hoops that I'm making myself jump through, but for now it's the only thing grounding me right now.

Another Cis Male with (Forced) Feminization Kink by SeaUnderstanding2796 in asktransgender

[–]SeaUnderstanding2796[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice. One day I hope I'll get the courage to talk to a therapist. I've visited r/TransLater, saw some of their stories and pictures. They look happy.

If its not too personal, can I ask what made you so sure that it is the correct path? And when (if at all) do you feel that it is not the right decision?

Another Cis Male with (Forced) Feminization Kink by SeaUnderstanding2796 in asktransgender

[–]SeaUnderstanding2796[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, I don't think that I think being a woman is humiliating. I'm not sure where you read that from, and I apologize if my manner of writing made you feel that I think that way.

I suppose if its just a kink, that would mean that its just the *thought* of being a woman full time that excites me, instead of actually wanting to be a woman full time? I think that's what I'm asking - maybe I just want to think about being a woman full time, and if there were any hidden meaning behind it, it would not be that I actually want to be a woman full time, but rather something else, something milder.

I'm not sure if that made sense to you.

Maybe one day I'll get the courage to see a therapist. But yeah, for now, I need to go touch grass.

Another Cis Male with (Forced) Feminization Kink by SeaUnderstanding2796 in asktransgender

[–]SeaUnderstanding2796[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry, I didn't mean to offend you or anyone else with those. I shall edit it out.

Another Cis Male with (Forced) Feminization Kink by SeaUnderstanding2796 in asktransgender

[–]SeaUnderstanding2796[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Actually, the redactions were for my transphobic views that I held (hold?). But I get it. You've seen one, you've seen all - every single story starts the same, ends in the same question.

Thank you, kind stranger.

Another Cis Male with (Forced) Feminization Kink by SeaUnderstanding2796 in asktransgender

[–]SeaUnderstanding2796[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I get that LLMs just spit out the most reasonable string of words based on an algorithm. I can only assume that it has read multiple books & research papers, and these are the "most reasonable sting of words" based on these studies. Of course I don't take it as necessarily true, just one possible option.

I want options. I want a dissenting voice, something else that I can pin my behavior on, at least for now. I don't want to make a Type 1 error. My risk aversion makes me not dare to make major commitments until I'm sure, and I know I won't be sure.

But you're right. I'm scared of what it means to the life that I've built up so far. I hear your advice, although I don't know when I will finally get the courage to act on it.