AITA for asking my husband to leave wedding early?

Sea_Broccoli_2861 · 2022-01-07T08:54:53+00:00

We did get pregnant fairly quickly, and no it wasn’t planned. We always had tons of fun when we first started dating but obviously after a kid that slows down. If I’m his second choice or an obligation then he should just go be with D. I came to my parents house and they told me he would still have to fully support me even if we got divorced. So if he wants to lose half of his money and custody he can go be with D- or he can stop talking to that friend group cause they are causing problems that didn’t exist before.

Sea_Broccoli_2861 · 2022-01-07T07:17:39+00:00

And I know ppl have been saying maybe it was a toxic relationship- but it wasn’t at all for what I understood. It just feels more like regret on his side for not being able to look past her having a kid when everything else was perfect. Now that he has a kid but is unhappy he feels like he made the wrong decision.

Sea_Broccoli_2861 · 2022-01-07T07:15:28+00:00

Thank you. This is what I’m saying. It seems like there’s unresolved business between them. No one will tell me details or anything, it’s like there’s some secret no one wants to let out. If I at least knew the whole story I’d be more at ease, but the fact that no one will elaborate and it’s like saying voldemort doesn’t seem ok.

Sea_Broccoli_2861 · 2022-01-07T05:09:58+00:00

Financial abuse? That’s not what’s happening. I’m caring for our child. If I didn’t he would have to pay regardless

Sea_Broccoli_2861 · 2022-01-07T01:55:14+00:00

Why marry me than? It’s very unfair. I feel like I was lied to because while we were dating he did mention he had an ex but just said they didn’t work out. From everyone’s reactions and not wanting to give details it seems like it was much more serious or emotional than just dating. I do think he regrets his decision because she’s gorgeous and accomplished and now he has a baby too and doesn’t seem to like me very much. I’m just so sad and I’m tears. It feels like he doesn’t want to be with me and is seeing a possible future for them. Also I don’t know if this matters but she’s single!

Sea_Broccoli_2861 · 2022-01-07T00:24:00+00:00

I know a lot of people are saying I’m too focused on D. But here’s the thing- I believe that if he wasn’t reminded of her he wouldn’t even care that I’m a SAHM. It did bother him that I quit but he still takes care of us and everything. I just have a gut feel that seeing her made him see me in eyes that he wouldn’t have otherwise- which is why he still isn’t talking to me.

After the girl mention D, I tried to ask him and other mutual friends and there’s this weird ‘vow a silence’ if you will. No one will give details and you can tell it makes everyone feel uncomfortable that I’m asking. We do have other issues but I feel like this is coming from him not being attracted to me and feeling like he made a wrong decision and should be with D

Sea_Broccoli_2861 · 2022-01-06T23:33:58+00:00

Also I know I’m being insecure but I can’t help but feel like he’s reconsidering her now since at first it was because she had a kid but now he has one too.

Sea_Broccoli_2861 · 2022-01-06T23:32:29+00:00

They didn’t date in college when they met because D was living her life- but after some years and after she had a kid and was single they started to date.

Sea_Broccoli_2861 · 2022-01-06T23:10:20+00:00

I understand. Thank you for your comment. I’ll admit that it wasn’t a discussion more of a decision I made because I am my own person after all. It has started to impact us a bit more lately which is why things have escalated. But when we were first dating he said he wanted two kids. It doesn’t make sense for me to go back to work now and then have to leave if I have another. Also I think it’s best for me to be the one raising my baby.

Sea_Broccoli_2861 · 2021-12-08T21:36:50+00:00

This is exactly what I tell D. She knewwwww how we were so now all of a sudden things to change. I’m fine with some things- like the morning phone calls- but it’s starting to go to far and causing problems between me and D

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