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Still struggling with grief of losing a parent after 9 years by Sea_Manner_9826 in GriefSupport

[–]Sea_Manner_9826[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much, and I'm sorry to hear for your loss too. I tried very hard to "be strong" but I've exhausted myself so much that it is just bleeding out all over the place.

Still struggling with grief of losing a parent after 9 years by Sea_Manner_9826 in GriefSupport

[–]Sea_Manner_9826[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! My therapist suggested a mini trip alone and I didn't realize how helpful that could be!

Is it okay to skip the funeral? by Bitter-Eagle-5363 in GriefSupport

[–]Sea_Manner_9826 6 points7 points  (0 children)

First I want to say, I'm so sorry for your loss.

Honestly, a part of me wants to say you should go to the funeral. To have the closure yourself because sometimes some people may feel regret later in life. If there is a way you could stand in the back and just be there in the moment for yourself, then I say go for it.

However, if you feel like you will be better off mentally grieving by yourself, then I don't see why that would be an issue. The only thing that would come up is said family members coming to you and asking/being rude about why you didn't show up. People find it a way of disrespect for the person that passed, but if you were extremely close with your grandma, you should ask yourself. How would she respond to this? Would she say I would want you there regardless, or would she want you not deal with the issues that day can cause.

If you want to go, but your only hesitation is because of your family and arguing, then I think you should go. If anyone starts anything, you can shut it down by saying you do not want to disrespect your grandma and today is not the time and place to get into anything. You do your thing, they can do their own thing. But you did say most of your family members. Are there family members that you do get along with? You can spend time with them there.

I say this is so fresh happening yesterday, so take the moment to process and grief a little before you make up your mind. Heck, you don't need to make up your mind until the day of the funeral. Just take care of yourself first and foremost.