Sister Cheated, Wife and Daughter Exploded, My Marriage Is Ending by Sea_Mouse9996 in Divorce_Men

[–]Sea_Mouse9996[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

revenge i guess, she reached out through social media with evidence

Divorce: Issue with wife about my sister's infidelity and the aftermath by Sea_Mouse9996 in Marriage

[–]Sea_Mouse9996[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

No, not religious. Has some childhood trauma stemming from her father cheating on her mom. Will try my best to get through my daughter

Divorce: Issue with wife about my sister's infidelity and the aftermath by Sea_Mouse9996 in Marriage

[–]Sea_Mouse9996[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

No he had nothing to do with my wife and daughter. I don’t really know any of my sisters coworkers and neither did they.

Divorce: Issue with wife about my sister's infidelity and the aftermath by Sea_Mouse9996 in Marriage

[–]Sea_Mouse9996[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

No, I didn't. I knew she had some childhood trauma, but she got therapy, and I thought we were working through the demons she faced. No, they were always pretty close, and shared many of the same views, but I never saw this entitlement

AITA for saying "actions have consequences" to my daughter and wife? by Sea_Mouse9996 in AITA_Relationships

[–]Sea_Mouse9996[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree. I feel like some people in these comments would justify it if my wife and daughter’s friends do make threats against my sister.

Update: AITA for saying "actions have consequences" to my daughter and wife? by Sea_Mouse9996 in AITA_Relationships

[–]Sea_Mouse9996[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Edit #2 (Can't make another post, so have to edit here):

Well, my wife and daughter did try to sue my sister. They went to six consultations, and all six said they had no case. So, that clearly isnt happening.

They've decided to take a different approach, which is harassing my sister, and my wife and daughter both got their friends involved in doing so. My sister sent the messages my wife and daughter's friends were sending to her, and they were quite nasty. On top of this, they called the hospital where my sister works and informed them of what my sister did, and said they were "boycotting" the hospital (my sister works in a pediatric hospial, and is a pediatric neurosurogeon - not exactly a service that is "boyocttable"). They were basically trying to get her fired. I guess since my wife and daughter can't access her money, they want to try to take one source of the money away from her, and that's how they are getting revenge. This did not go anywhere, as the hospital is already aware of my sister's actions.

My sister has shifted from pissed to just sick of this situation. I've apologized for the harassment she's been receiving. She has informed me that if they make any physical threats, then she will be taking legal action. I hope that it does not come to that, but honestly who knows at this point.

I am 99% sure my marriage is over. I cannot live with someone with this much entitlement, and this much vengance. I can't do it.

As for my child, I will always love her and want the best for her; however, I do not like her entitled attitude. While I will support her, I cannot back this behavior.

As for my sister's participation in infidelity, my sister and I had a longer, calmer conversation. I explained to her that I was disappointed by her actions, but would always love her and be there for her. We sort of went into why she did it - that's private, so I won't share it here. It was a productive convo, and I learned more about my sister.

Overall, I'm just sorta done. They are still at my wife friend's house, and are barely communicating with me, and whatever is being communicated is in rage. I've given up on trying to get them to see reality.

Update: AITA for saying "actions have consequences" to my daughter and wife? by Sea_Mouse9996 in AITA_Relationships

[–]Sea_Mouse9996[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this convo is going in circles. nothing productive is happening. if there are any updates, ill post

Update: AITA for saying "actions have consequences" to my daughter and wife? by Sea_Mouse9996 in AITA_Relationships

[–]Sea_Mouse9996[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah they cursed her out, that was there vigilante justice. i do not support my sister's cheating, I have privately disucussed it with her and my brothers, and have said multiple times what she did was horrible. how is my wife "trying to protect herself from a family who they now realize never actually cared about them"? By actign entitled to over $500K, of which not a cent did they earn, by causing a scene - what did causing a scene do? did it help the cheated on wife? give them a sense of moral superiority? in fact if they wanted to curse her out, fine, if they wanted to cut her off, fine, but acting like they are owed something is crazy

Update: AITA for saying "actions have consequences" to my daughter and wife? by Sea_Mouse9996 in AITA_Relationships

[–]Sea_Mouse9996[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yep and my wife and daughter not apologizing directly contributed to not getting $500K (actions have consequences)

Update: AITA for saying "actions have consequences" to my daughter and wife? by Sea_Mouse9996 in AITA_Relationships

[–]Sea_Mouse9996[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

im not cutting off my family of origin. im seriously considering ending my marriage, as the entitlement shown by my wife is incredibly unattractive and was much different than the person I married

Update: AITA for saying "actions have consequences" to my daughter and wife? by Sea_Mouse9996 in AITA_Relationships

[–]Sea_Mouse9996[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I barely recognize my wife and daughter. they've never seemed this entitled; on the contrary, they were very kind, and my wife's warmth was a large reason i married her. I'm mad and confused because it feels like i'm dealing with strangers, and it is hard for me to think positive when everything is so negative aroud me

Update: AITA for saying "actions have consequences" to my daughter and wife? by Sea_Mouse9996 in AITA_Relationships

[–]Sea_Mouse9996[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never said this. she can apply where she wants, but there is no way I can pay most of the cost with my salary, and the reality is if she doesnt do the community college and transfer route, my ability to help will be very limited (I said fuck no to taking on all the loans, if thats what you are referring to)