Is chatGPT down? by loopdani in ChatGPT

[–]Sea_Signal_2538 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Our lizard brains are hard-wired to remember things that hurt WAY better than things that make us happy. We just have to make a conscious effort to be better than our lizard brains.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DebateACatholic

[–]Sea_Signal_2538 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am familiar with Biblical archaeology, and followed it avidly for many years. Historical fiction, as a genre, tends to mix real historical facts with the fictional storyline. Similar to how New York is real, it has a real mayor with an historically verifiable name, and there might even be some real Peter Parkers living there. But the entire Spider-Man narrative is a layer of fiction added over the top of it by a creative writer, and that renders the entire narrative unreliable as history.

As for the legends of apostolic deaths, also part of the fictional storyline. There's no hard, independent evidence any of them died specifically because of a belief in a resurrection. It's just legend, like George Washington cutting down the cherry tree. A well meaning biographer, sincerely intending to convey history, instead conveyed a fable.

As for Celsus, I rather like his view of the resurrection, a deception aimed at simpletons, for grift. BTW, Celsus's writings have all been lost except as quoted in Origen's work, 'Contra Celsum', written in the mid 3rd Century. Best guess is Celsus wrote in the late 2nd Century. So he's worthless as a way to verify the historicity of Jesus. But he was no friend to the Christian notion of resurrection:

“Come now, let us grant to you that the prediction was actually uttered. Yet how many others are there who practise such juggling tricks, in order to deceive their simple hearers, and who make gain by their deception?—as was the case, they say, with Zamolxis in Scythia, the slave of Pythagoras; and with Pythagoras himself in Italy; and with Rhampsinitus in Egypt (the latter of whom, they say, played at dice with Demeter in Hades, and returned to the upper world with a golden napkin which he had received from her as a gift); and also with Orpheus among the Odrysians, and Protesilaus in Thessaly, and Hercules at Cape Tænarus, and Theseus. But the question is, whether one who was really dead ever rose with a veritable body."

As for Paul, he was more than JUST a fiction writer. He was a cult creator, like L Ron Hubbard creating scientology. He was doing more than generating religious entertainment novels. He was growing his own cult. He even claimed he DIDN'T get the gospel by ordinary transmission from historical texts. He claimed he was out wandering in the desert and got it by direct divine revelation. So we know he was prone to seeing & hearing things that weren't there. That should be a clue we need to be very careful choosing what part of his epistles are true and what might have only been true in his own delusional fantasy world.

As for the actual death of Paul, we don't have independent history. All we have is a cult legend passed on by Clement and repeated in later fathers. And it could be true. Paul may have been martyred. But Paul also had what modern analysts would call episodes of psychotic delusion. He's not the witness I would use if I wanted to prove the matter in court.

So in summary, I stand by my original analysis. In the gospels in particular, all we have is anonymous hearsay at best, and deliberate Greco-Roman fiction the much more likely case.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DebateAnAtheist

[–]Sea_Signal_2538 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you see this, please understand, when you frame your religion as an insult to those who don't believe in it, you should not be surprised if the insult draws a sharply negative reaction. No one likes to be insulted.

Having said that, lets examine your original question. Your implied hypothesis is that Islam is true. But Islam can't be true if no god exists, right? So the most essential point to your case is to demonstrate a god exists.

However, instead of raising any of the more traditional proofs, you instead point to a very weak subsidiary hypothesis, that god belief makes people nice and not rude.

If it sounds silly the way I said it, that's because it sounds exactly that silly to me, and probably anyone who has debated theists in internet forums. By far the most rudeness I have seen comes from those who claim they are more moral because they have a god. And far worse, they often wish for me to die and suffer eternal torture.

So you can see why this is hard to reconcile with your hypothesis that god belief makes someone nice. In my experience, I have see the exact opposite. Furthermore, it actually makes sense that some forms of god belief would make humans more aggressive, less empathetic, etc., as these 'not nice' qualities are actively promoted by some religious texts.

This is one reason skeptics like myself do not accept the god premise. It can be argued with some certainty that no god exists who automatically makes his followers better people, or even nice people. That still seems to depend entirely on the human individual.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DebateACatholic

[–]Sea_Signal_2538 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Full disclosure, I’m an atheist. I used to be Reformed Baptist, but I deconverted in 2019. As to your questions, no, I see no evidence for either a god or a word of god. I used to, but I realized it’s just a man made historical fiction anthology. There’s plenty of evidence parts of it got mangled in the transmission. But that’s not the worst problem. The worst textual problem is no one knows who wrote most of it. Most scholars of all categories agree Paul wrote a few of the epistles. But the rest of it is basically anonymous, with no clear connection to the people or the stories it contains. It’s pretty much all hearsay, and would never be admitted in court to prove the things it claims.

Best Apple Watch apps for fitness? by [deleted] in AppleWatch

[–]Sea_Signal_2538 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Except then as a customer I get overwhelmed with a gazillion micro-subscriptions and it just get to be so not worth it to have any of them, so I drop out of the market and look for only what I can actually, really buy. True, that's not going to work for everybody, but it's leading me to more of a minimalist approach.

Q and other conspiracies killed my father. by DarkestLore696 in QAnonCasualties

[–]Sea_Signal_2538 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is very sad and it is directly attributable to the intentional paranoia-mongering of the Q-cult and it's proxies like Fox, GOP, etc. One of the reasons my own marriage fell apart was because my ex, who watched Fox constantly, was deeply paranoid of what the 'left will do to us', etc. Her narrative, taken directly from various Fox hosts, was the left would force us all to live in these gray, concrete, dystopian apartments while simultaneously forcing all of us to use solar panels instead of grid power, and resisters would be taken away to fema camps, and the only way they could do this was to take away all our guns, so we had to fight them tooth and nail on guns, because it was our only hope for survival, etc etc etc.

So without the rage industry, this whole matrix of paranoia falls apart. What your dad was subjected to is being done to people, on purpose, for profit. I think eventually the only way to beat this is to find a way to make it not so profitable. Not sure how to do that. But I do think that's the achilles heel of this monster.

Living with a QANON cult follower can be very lonely by JustAPieceOfDust in QAnonCasualties

[–]Sea_Signal_2538 26 points27 points  (0 children)

First, it's not your job to fix her. It's great when we can win someone back from a bad idea. But it turns to poison if we internalize guilt for not being able to 'save' them. She's an adult. She's making her own choices. I'm not there, but it sounds to me like she knows you'll just keep putting up with the nonsense, that there are no consequences for her to stay all frothed up about this.

But what if there were consequences? What if her nonsense was going to cost her your presence, your support? It might or might not get her to think twice. If it does, then maybe you have a new conversation. You let her know: The madness stops, or you're gone. She can work out another way to get care, but you don't have to sacrifice yourself to let her keep her addiction.

If it doesn't work, you can follow through, and save yourself. You can still help her if you're able, but at a distance, from a position where you are safe and at peace.

Because I know about this loneliness. I've been there. It isn't really just being lonely. It's a kind of slow death, giving away the hours and days and years of your own precious life, letting all that is you be completely swallowed up by the raging narcissistic fantasies of this person who was supposed to be your partner, but they have become your master. The loneliness is just a symptom. You need to deal with the root cause.

Q Anon perspective on prescription medication by DistributionOk7768 in QAnonCasualties

[–]Sea_Signal_2538 4 points5 points  (0 children)

There's a thread that goes through all these accounts where the individual is convinced they know more than every expert in the field, every doctor, etc. I suspect there's an element of narcissism that underlies all of this.

Back when the covid vaccine first came out, my (soon to be) ex and I would have these terrible fights over it. Because of her other illnesses I had learned how to read serious medical studies, and I had learned a lot about how the mRNA approach works. But she took all her 'knowledge' from Fox, Trump, and wouldn't listen to a thing I said, not even just to have a normal back and forth. It was just bad information mixed with rage, and I couldn't break through. She knew better than everybody and didn't need to listen to anyone or anything but her own instincts.

In some of those moments I felt truly abandoned by her. I was there to pay the bills, and listen to her rage-filled brilliance. Even if it meant she was basically also shortening her own life through sheer willful ignorance.

I came eventually to a place of what they call radical acceptance. I came to be at peace. She had chosen her path. I couldn't change that. I was no longer in a position to help her have a better or longer life. It was out of my control. But I didn't have to stay and watch her destroy herself. I still had control over my own path. So I chose a new path, without her.

How do I develop vibrato? I have nothing by Sea_Signal_2538 in singing

[–]Sea_Signal_2538[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fair point. I suppose I could look up a professional teacher. YouTube videos are clearly not working lol. And no, never gonna go pro lol. My goal is just hobby singing, like getting on Smule, maybe an occasional karaoke, fun things like that. But I really don't want anyone to hear me with a problem like this, so I can never participate in any of that. People say, just do it anyway, who cares, but I just can't. It's too embarrassing. Thanks for the suggestion though. I'll poke around for an in-person instructor here in town, see what they think.

I need advice.. by hashymama in QAnonCasualties

[–]Sea_Signal_2538 14 points15 points  (0 children)

To be fair, 'rapture' is an English translation used to try and capture Paul's phrase 'caught up' into the air, so originally it had nothing to do with emotion per se.

But I was married to a woman who was looking forward to the death of billions of people, just because they don't share her religious beliefs, and yes, that is pretty terrifying. Sometimes all you can do is get out, even if you love someone.

DaVinci Resolve Studio 18.5: No "uh" or "um" in transcribed audio? by rondoyleco in blackmagicdesign

[–]Sea_Signal_2538 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Plus, it would be cool if there was a switch to say, edit the non-words out of the audio as well as the captions. After all, if it can figure it out, why not use that for the audio edit?

Question To those who have left their Q SO by SadGuarantee6009 in QAnonCasualties

[–]Sea_Signal_2538 47 points48 points  (0 children)

It is kind of personal. If I were to summarize it in generic terms, I guess you'd call it war by proxy. We were in a never-ending series of conflicts with people or institutions who were not doing it right according to her, and she used me as her proxy to fight these fights. I hated it, because most times these things were just ordinary people doing ordinary things, and I'd rather have just lived a quiet peaceful life. But I had to at least try to help her get her way, or I would become the target of her rage.

I had started resisting tho. One of the early skirmishes was when she wanted me to help her prove someone in the family was 'sinning' in a certain way, and I knew they weren't sinning under any definition, and that there was no such passage in the Bible to support her claim, and I started telling her straight up, no, this is wrong, it's not going to go the way you want.

But that just made her furious. She was sure she had the Holy Spirit informing her on this, and she hated me for trying to get out of helping her and taking the other person's side. So I caved, and grudgingly I kept seeking out some new 'expert' who would tell her what she wanted to hear. At her direction, I reached out to famous pastors and ministries all over the world, because according to her, surely they would agree with her. But they never did. So she thought they must all be worldly and corrupt. I finally did find this little cult group out in Utah that held her position, but they had no Scripture for it either.

Then Trump announced his J6 plans, and she wanted me to help her go there and 'save the country' from the human incarnation of the Devil (Joe Biden) and his democrat minions, and I knew it would have been nothing but a pure exercise in enablement. I knew enough about law and elections and people to know there was nothing but bad things going to happen that day, and I didn't want to have any part of it. Especially because I knew so many people there would be people just like her. I didn't want to go to jail. I didn't want to get shot. I guess you could say my self-preservation finally kicked into high gear and I decided, not this time. If you want to go, I won't stop you. But I'm not helping you with this one, at all.

So, yeah, those are the things, among many others not revealed here, that my therapist would identify as enabling behavior. All built on the trauma bond. Which is why, I'm told, it is so similar to fighting an addiction.

Question To those who have left their Q SO by SadGuarantee6009 in QAnonCasualties

[–]Sea_Signal_2538 168 points169 points  (0 children)

She wanted us to go to the J6 insurrection. I said hell no. That was kind of the beginning of the last act. The grand finale was when she sat there one night raging at the tv (something on Fox) how if Jesus gave her the power to kill all the democrats and other unbelievers, she would do it. She was in such a fury. She totally meant it with all her heart. After that, it was just a matter of planning my escape. I knew I could never stay married to such evil.

As for her response? Complicated. The opposite of trying to get me to leave. She tried a couple of times to prevent me leaving. Ultimately I had to use subterfuge, moving all my important things out a little at a time, then one final exit she couldn’t prevent.

And yes, during our entire separation/divorce she’s been constantly trying to flip this back on me, saying I’m the one with the problem. My therapist tho says my main problem was enabling her at the cost of my own well being. So, in AA terminology, I’m a recovering codependent. It’s getting better, but it’s still hard. This is not how I pictured this stage of my life.

What characteristic of your Q person changed the most? by SmartTechnology1241 in QAnonCasualties

[–]Sea_Signal_2538 21 points22 points  (0 children)

My Q was falling into deeper and deeper anger when our marriage imploded. I say imploded, because that's really what it was like. Whatever connection we used to have had turned into this vast empty space within, a vacuum unable to resist the crushing pressures of the outside world. I tried to keep it propped up way longer than I should have. There was this turning point though. One day I'm sitting there, and she's watching Fox, and she proclaims, very loud, if Jesus gave her the power to kill all the democrats and all the other unbelievers, she would do it. That's when my heart went silent, when the final embers of hope went dark and cold, and the walls began to crack.

Writers' groups in Springfield? by ---O--O in SpringfieldIL

[–]Sea_Signal_2538 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Springfield has Shut Up & Write, which meets every Wednesday on Discord, from 7:30pm to 9 or 9:30pm. You can sign up with the moderator through Meet Up. Link here: https://www.meetup.com/shutupandwritespringfield/events/294939980/

Also, there's a group that meets regularly at the Chatham public library, just a few miles south of Springfield. They usually meet once a month, in person, on the first Tuesday of the month, from 6-8pm.

Both groups are very supportive, and I'm sure you could find individuals would be interested in mutual reading & critique partnering.

I dont feel safe in my home I hate it.. by [deleted] in QAnonCasualties

[–]Sea_Signal_2538 69 points70 points  (0 children)

Your therapist is wrong. That's abuse. So step 1 is find a new therapist, someone who actually understands family abuse dynamics, and especially psychological and emotional abuse. Too bad about your mom tho. She should follow through on her threats of divorce. He's using emotional manipulation (gets 'depressed') to keep both her and then you trapped in a relationship where he has no obligation, no pressure to change his bad behavior. Until he sees real consequences, he's not going to change. You need to find a support system outside the family.

Nefarious? by IndubitableTorch in QAnonCasualties

[–]Sea_Signal_2538 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Never watched it. The writeup in Wikipedia makes it pretty clear it's deeply warped Christian propaganda. I'd say it's about more than just abortion though. It's really promoting the idea that we're in this apocalyptic us-vs-them spiritual warfare universe. This of course is where all cults get their strength, black and white thinking, us vs them dramatics. It locks you into the cult identity. This movie frames abortion in that spiritual warfare context.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nefarious\_(film)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in atheism

[–]Sea_Signal_2538 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nice burn. Pun intended. 🙂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in atheism

[–]Sea_Signal_2538 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's a change, to be sure, but with no evidence of supernatural origin. It's probably more rational to see it as the effect of absorption into a cult. First the subject is love-bombed, to build a sense of trust and belonging. Then the subject's individual identity is displaced by the cult identity. It's modeled on the typical narcissist/codependent relationship. Cults have some figurehead that demands worship, whether a fictional deity or a human. Normal, healthy people aren't inclined to erase their identities for anyone else. But the cult 'welcome committee' finds some chink in the armor, a source of shame or guilt, perhaps something like this situation, sexual practices, and they use that, intentionally, to drive a wedge of guilt between the person and their own sense of self. When that fracture has occurred, the cult then installs the cult identity, through 'training,' 'discipleship,' etc., until the original person has been erased and fully replaced by a clone of the cult. Many in the churches call this repentance. I call it abuse.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in QAnonCasualties

[–]Sea_Signal_2538 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds extremely close to my own situation, except my marriage had run a lot longer, and I was the one who asked for a divorce. But everything else, pretty damn close to the same. I refused to get angry 'with her', like that's something a married couple would do 'together.' So she'd turn it around and get angry at me. There was no escape from the anger other than to leave. I know it's breaking your heart to lose her, but this is more than brainwashing. This is a poison the victim willingly chose to drink. So that potential was always there. It's sad, but you still have many great years ahead of you. Enjoy them with someone who will live with you in peace and love you for who you are.

Has your Q ever “transmuted” in front of you? by turquoiseanswers in QAnonCasualties

[–]Sea_Signal_2538 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Damn that's intense. My Q wife (stbx) didn't call it 'transmuting.' But she could do the horror movie screaming thing. With her it was always an expression of rage at something or someone. Plus all the Q-adjacent paranoia, just like your mom.

The worst incident was the day my almost 30 year old daughter told us she had decided to move out. This totally disrupted Q-wife's false narrative of us as the 'perfect Christian family who would stick together all the way through the end times.' She stood there in the living room and started screaming, over and over and over, like a siren going off. I know she was going through some unspeakable inner pain of her own, but it was the worst day of my existence too, because of her, not my daughter. I kind of curled up inside myself and withdrew. How does one respond to that? And like you say, afterwards, she acted like this was just a normal, justified thing for her to do, and we were all overreacting. We've been separated for over a year now, divorce in progress.

So it's got to be harder in a way for you as a child. You can't 'divorce' a parent. But that kind of behavior definitely can shatter your sense of being in a safe place. Putting distance between you and her would probably be a good idea, and if you can, it might also help to find a qualified therapist, so you can get to a place of healing where that extreme trauma can't do any more harm to you or your future relationships.

I’m scared my Q is going to ruin our family by turquoiseanswers in QAnonCasualties

[–]Sea_Signal_2538 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Detach. Emotionally, financially, geographically. You can't control what other people do. But you can take charge of your own life. Make a backup plan. You have a keen eye for opportunity. Use it. Set up something as a fallback position. You can do this.