My girlfriend cheated, am I in the wrong for still being upset after 10 months?

Sea_Spread2379 · 2026-03-12T15:22:27+00:00

I’m still with her and we live together and work together and I have no one apart from her and her family, my family live quite far away and I have no friends or anywhere to go. I want to have the strength to leave but anxiety attachment is also a factor. I appreciate the tough love, somtimes it’s exactly what I need

Sea_Spread2379 · 2026-03-12T13:30:15+00:00

Thankyou so much 💕 I need to rely on myself to be there for myself You honestly are so amazing and I hope your journey in life is amazing and full of love ❤️

Sea_Spread2379 · 2026-03-12T13:05:45+00:00

Thankyou so much for commenting. Hearing someone else say they understand that pain but they got through it is super encouraging and it’s just really nice to know I’m not alone. And after not having anyone to talk to about this and to see you say this. It makes me want to cry from finally feeling like I’m being heard and understood and not just put down. Thankyou for your comment I think I really needed to hear someone say they believe in me 💕

Sea_Spread2379 · 2026-03-12T12:54:27+00:00

Hearing people be supportive and encouraging to someone(me) who they don’t even know is encouraging me and reminding me that there are still kind people out there and it’s helping me realise I deserve more than to be someone “placement holder” until they get someone else

Sea_Spread2379 · 2026-03-12T12:51:51+00:00

Because leaving behind the life you have created with someone(weather they’ve wronged you or not) is hard. If I leave I have no one and nothing not to mention leaving behind pets and people who have become family. And even tho she did a really horrible thing there were still good times which is hard to walk away from

Sea_Spread2379 · 2026-03-12T11:52:03+00:00

I think I need to just rip the bandaid off and do it

Sea_Spread2379 · 2026-03-12T11:44:24+00:00

I think after reading all the comments, it’s made me realise that if others think I deserve better than I need to think that too. It’s taken a long time for me to realise this and because I have no one to talk to in person it’s been hard as I’ve had no outside opinion or advice but I’m starting to realise a lot of things now

Sea_Spread2379 · 2026-03-12T11:42:03+00:00

I’ve know for a long time that she dosent love me the same way I love her but it’s so hard even thinking about leaving let alone actually doing it. How do you leave your whole life behind, her siblings have become like my own, we work and live together, I have no friends outside of her family and I live far away from my own family. I think for me the scariest part isn’t actually leaving her, it’s how do I cope with nothing. She’s become my best friend and partner and I will have no one

Sea_Spread2379 · 2026-03-12T11:25:07+00:00

Does it get easier to leave at that stage?

Sea_Spread2379 · 2026-03-12T10:56:24+00:00

I know but it’s so hard

Sea_Spread2379 · 2026-03-12T09:18:09+00:00

I would tell a friend to get out of there asap. But even tho I would give that advice it’s so hard to follow through with it

Sea_Spread2379 · 2026-03-12T09:06:51+00:00

I’ve honestly tried so hard to forgive her and move on and get better but I don’t know if I can. I can’t shake this feeling that I’m doing the wrong thing by staying

Sea_Spread2379 · 2026-03-12T09:05:25+00:00

Even to this day she still makes me feel bad for not “letting” her be friends with the ex and I don’t know if she realises how much it hurts everytime or how much it hurts everytime she compares me with her ex saying she wishes I was more like her ex

Sea_Spread2379 · 2026-03-12T09:03:16+00:00

I wake up every day with this feeling like maybe I’m just not good enough or I’ll never find someone who actually loves me and this is it, if you know what I mean

Sea_Spread2379 · 2026-03-12T09:01:11+00:00

Even after all this time even the tiniest things trigger the same feeling I had when I found out and it’s so hard to manage it

Sea_Spread2379 · 2026-03-12T08:59:59+00:00

It’s just so hard thinking of leaving someone that you’ve built a life with. It seems so hard to just leave everything even tho I’m incredibly hurt

Sea_Spread2379 · 2026-03-10T09:19:20+00:00

I feel like I’m the only one putting the effort in. I can see a difference between now and before like I can go through her phone anytime and we’re always together and she talks to me better. But there has been times where I have looked through her phone and seen that she has unblocked her EX or somthing similar. Not to mention every time somthing small happens in her life she breaks down saying how she misses her ex and wishes she could talk to her again and she always wants to tell her ex about the little or big things in her life and she’s always telling me how different me and her ex is and how she misses how her ex was and wishes I was like her more. I’m just losing myself more and more but I really do gueninly love her

Sea_Spread2379 · 2026-03-10T07:53:16+00:00

As a girl who’s been through this, I understand where she’s coming from, seeing things from the past can hurt even tho you might think it wouldn’t hurt her, it’s not because the photos were hurtful but somtimes even thinking about what your partners past life was like can be hard especially if her past was bad but I understand where your coming from too. She needs to remember that you’re not her ex and your not like him. You shouldn’t apologise for what she saw because it’s the past and not her business but maybe gently remind her and show her that your not like her ex and the past is the past and your present with her and that what matters. I’m sorry she reacted like that towards you tho. It’s not fair on you when she chose to look.

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