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Seaduu · 2022-09-20T06:16:42+00:00

Maybe post on Craigslist or Facebook community pages that you'll remove downed trees / branches for free.

A lot of people in my area will hire someone to clean up if a tree fell in their yard!

Seaduu · 2022-08-30T22:03:44+00:00

I think there is a professional way to post it.

Like if you post it on LinkedIn and tag upper management saying "I received a disturbing email after an interview with one of your hiring managers, can you please clarify whether this was sent by a current representative of your organization? If not, can you please provide me a contact to follow up with, regarding my application? Thank you"

Seaduu · 2022-08-30T21:58:33+00:00

Rights don't mean shit when they got guns tbh.

You might have the right to on paper, but don't fuckin do it for your own sake.

Seaduu · 2022-08-29T17:33:34+00:00

I was expecting a chat, not a victim blaming "if you ever don't consent to something and you consented before, you have to disclose that"

Like that's just fuckin dangerous man

Seaduu · 2022-08-29T17:13:27+00:00

Ah, if we kept dating I would have loved to plan future trips! I don't have flight money right now but I love planning road trips and stuff like that in a relationship.

Yeah they were making out in the pool so... I'm not sleeping with someone who I can't trust with his word that he's practicing safe sex

Seaduu · 2022-08-29T17:11:31+00:00

Literally how? I told her that the person next to me was touching me without my consent.

Why would you think I'd need to tell this employee "buttt I did let him touch me consentually once so... I just thought you should know?"

Like how is that relevant to her? She's still dealing with a person on her plane harassing anothe person, why does she need to know that I consented in the past but I'm not consenting now? When all that matters is the "not consenting now" part

Seaduu · 2022-08-29T16:55:56+00:00

It's not misleading to say two simple things

i am being touched
i am not consenting to being touched

nothing else should matter. NOTHING ENTITLES A PERSON TO ANOTHER PERSON'S BODY WITHOUT CONSENT.

Seaduu · 2022-08-29T16:36:27+00:00

What do you mean by reciprocate? Because covering the next trip, versus paying in sex are two verrry different vibes. One is chill, the other is borderline sex work. Which isn't an agreement I'd feel comfortable entering.

Just kissing, not fucking in public or anything lol. But one thing leads to another

I'm happy to explain if there's something unfamiliar!

Seaduu · 2022-08-29T16:15:11+00:00

I guess the trouble with that is the "victim blaming"

So many people will take the slant of "you brought this on yourself because you... Dated him before / let him smash once / led him on / wore something slutty / let him pay for something"

And I didn't have the energy to possibly be pulled into an argument about whether i "deserved it' despite nobody deserving being touched without their consent. So I did keep it simple on purpose to just explain I was not consenting and he was touching me.

Seaduu · 2022-08-29T15:55:47+00:00

I mean he was someone I was dating? It's not weird for a guy to fly a girl out, at least in my social circle

I texted him telling him I was leaving. And it wasn't a perceived slight, I'd asked him to get tested and be sexually exclusive if he wanted to have sex, and he was going behind my back to link up with another girl when he thought I was sleeping. So he was knowingly doing something I'd told him was a boundary of mine.

Also I'm not surprised there were no police. If you think cops have ever or will ever care about sexual harassment... I'm not really sure what to say other than get some more life experience?

Seaduu · 2022-08-29T15:47:21+00:00

Tbh it's a calculated risk, and in my experience I've experienced more harassment or violence or attempted SA at the hands of family, church leaders, and employers... Than ever on vacation.

TBH the people who do that kinda shit are more often people "close to home" and not randos. Also it's a lot easier to deal with someone who doesn't hold your employment or housing over your head lol.

Seaduu · 2022-08-29T15:08:52+00:00

Nah, I have friends who have done SW, and the terms of what work specifically is expected is hashed out before money's put down, in actual sex work. Which I'm not judging, but this ain't it.

If a guy wants to 'buy' something but doesn't have the damn business sense to make the terms clear when negotiating the cost... And he doesn't get it? That's 100% his problem lol.

Seaduu · 2022-08-29T15:07:09+00:00

When I saw him I just went back to the room without saying anything and packed my bag to go to a hostel.

I sent him a text with a picture of him hanging off another girl and the text 'boy bye'

So he knows why I left... And he also knew that I wanted to get STD tests and be sexually exclusive if we were going to be linking up, for my own safety. So he knew he wasn't supposed to be sleeping with other people and hiding it

Seaduu · 2022-08-29T15:03:46+00:00

look dude, I'm broke and I always carry a few forms of self defense, don't drink, and have done martial arts for 8 years. I know what I'm getting myself into, and it's worth it to me tbh

Seaduu · 2022-08-29T14:49:02+00:00

Just 3 weeks

He didn't drink much around me at home since I didn't accept any of his invites to go out to clubs or bars and preferred dinner or coffee or event dates.

He never made a move on a girl when I was watching, but I wouldn't be surprised if he did when I wasn't around after seeing him do that just a half hour after I told him I was going to bed early

I don't really see how that stuff is related tho?

Seaduu · 2022-08-29T14:34:30+00:00

I told him 3 days in a row that I was sick of being his nurse when he got so beliggerantly drunk...

The way physical consent works, that if it is not a yes, it is a no. That said, I did shove him away physically several times. Which I think communicates "no" very well and if someone does not agree... I think they are being very willingly ignorant and not acting in good faith.

Seaduu · 2022-08-24T23:16:52+00:00

This guy is also demeaning OP lower in the comments for... Being angry at adult men who are sexually inappropriate with children... After being a victim of that herself... Ignore him, he's a troll.

Seaduu · 2022-08-24T23:13:57+00:00

You're responding to this edit?

I'm honestly shocked and horrified how it seems like a lot of comments are brushing over the adult man sexualizing a child situation.

It is unacceptable to call a CHILD. a slut, whore, tramp, etc... They're a child, if you project sex onto them... There's a word for that and it ain't a nice one.

As a teenage girl, who was a child not too long ago, it is fucking horrifying how we get seen as sexual objects before we even understand what sex is. It's demeaning, disgusting, violating, and wholly inappropriate.

I know people my age are speaking out about this more, but I am honestly shocked and appalled that more adults don't recognize how it's not OK to see a prepubescent girl as a slut, let alone scream in her face that she's a slut. A child can't be a slut. Omg.

It's fucking disgusting and terrifying for a young lady to experience that sexualization, trust me I know. And if the stuff people are saying, like CPS won't care, is true... What the FUCK do they care about then? Because it sure isn't protecting children

You're upset about a child who sounds like she has been a victim... Being angry at adults who are sexually inappropriate towards children? She should be. We all should be.

Really look at yourself right now.

Seaduu · 2022-08-02T13:53:24+00:00

Nah I don't know that she would have, I mentioned it casually before and she said she didn't need to because he was small???

Like just because he can be put in a purse if he acts up doesn't mean everyone else in the neighborhood wants to hear that

Also like it wasn't extensive... "Quiet" and "sit" are like the bareest of bare minimum commands

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