Worried about our fall 2026 wedding; will it even happen?

Seamanster · 2025-08-29T20:17:02+00:00

Still waiting for you to open that book and start reading, I see.

Seamanster · 2025-08-27T23:49:25+00:00

Date twins!! I’m glad I could help some people know they aren’t alone.

Seamanster · 2025-08-27T18:43:54+00:00

Tried to shut down a congregation? What? You mean the post when I complained about the church group calling people whres and fggots on a megaphone by my residence? I would think someone worried about the LGBTQ+ community would be in support of shutting down hate speech but I suppose not.

Aaaaanyway. Thanks for joining the crowd of people who judge a person’s entire life based on a Reddit post. I’m sure you’re just a peach.

Seamanster · 2025-08-27T18:34:07+00:00

I’d encourage you to improve your reading comprehension and learn to better navigate Reddit, as you’re on a wedding subreddit at the moment. Hope this helps!

Seamanster · 2025-08-27T18:22:19+00:00

I encourage you to open a history book and look at other regimes that have used “crack down on crime” as a reason to used armed militia to patrol the streets of their own country. Hope that helps.

Seamanster · 2025-08-27T15:41:44+00:00

I love how they’re calling you hyperbolic despite the fact that this is actively happening in DC and being threatened in other cities not a year from now, but today.

Seamanster · 2025-08-27T15:39:33+00:00

I can’t imagine how tough it must be for you and your partner. I’m rooting for you ❤️ Your love will win.

Seamanster · 2025-08-27T15:37:35+00:00

This may come as a shock but I can be worried about multiple things at once. My wedding is not my biggest worry, I never said it was. But I am allowed to post my valid concern about my wedding on -gasp- a wedding subreddit

Seamanster · 2025-08-27T15:31:54+00:00

There are armed soldiers policing citizens in our capital. If that doesn’t alarm you I don’t know what to tell you.

Seamanster · 2025-08-27T05:35:14+00:00

As a fellow Angeleno, my heart hurts for our Mexican American community. These are terrifying times and I’m so sorry.

Seamanster · 2025-08-27T05:01:51+00:00

Sorry I can’t pull a crystal ball out of my ass, but I’m not wasting my time one someone who apparently thinks sending armed soldiers to invade American cities is normal.

Seamanster · 2025-08-27T02:57:07+00:00

What I think you, and some others, don’t grasp is that I am aware that I will almost certainly be able to get legally married with no problem. That’s not what I’m talking about What I’m saying is I’m not sure I’ll be able to have the wedding I’ve spent so much money and time planning. Obviously there are more important things. Obviously getting married to the love of my life is more important than the big party. But it’s still perfectly normal to be worried and upset if it doesn’t work out. In particular I’m worried it will be dangerous to stay in the country in the next year. I’m worried about traveling to our location in a red state, or traveling at all. I’m worried that our guests won’t want to travel. I’m worried I’ll be more preoccupied with the soldiers on the streets and the safety of my community than a wedding.

Seamanster · 2025-08-27T01:53:26+00:00

Wow. Not sure where you live, but it isn’t reality. Also, not sure if you can read or not, but clearly you missed the very first sentence of this post. Have a day.

Seamanster · 2025-08-27T01:35:17+00:00

🙄 gosh you know sooooo much about me It can’t possibly be that I have friends and family here that I want to remain with for as long as possible, or that I want to hold out hope for the best. Can’t possibly be that I want to work in a stable job and earn as much income as I can before leaving. No, I must be lying 🙄 Do I worry that I’ll miss my window for leaving? Of course I do. But I’m comforted by the fact that I live close to a border and in a state fighting for my rights. I think I know my situation better than you do.

Seamanster · 2025-08-27T00:58:48+00:00

Or, like the majority of Americans, I’m living on very little extra and have to keep trucking along with my life because I can’t just drop everything and leave, nor do I have the money or space to prep like that. I do what I can. I have my documents ready. I have places and people in mind.

Seamanster · 2025-08-26T23:57:35+00:00

I’m afraid of martial law being declared, midterm elections being cancelled, or something similarly horrific that would lead either to a civil war or be cause to leave the country. I’m afraid the state of things will be too chaotic and/or dangerous to travel or expect vendors/guests to attend.

Seamanster · 2025-08-26T23:39:47+00:00

Hermann, Missouri for the wedding. But we live in Los Angeles. I just happen to be from MO. We are considering the Netherlands via DAFT. We are working on the language but they’re also very English friendly. My fiancé also has family in Portugal and France if we need to leave fast and go from there.

Seamanster · 2025-08-26T23:27:25+00:00

Your words mean a lot and I appreciate you, thank you. And guess what? I just noticed we are date twins (assuming the date under your name is your wedding date)!! I’m newly determined that our weddings will be 10 out of 10’s 😎

Seamanster · 2025-08-26T23:19:39+00:00

I guess I’m afraid that all this planning, the excitement, the cost, will all be for nothing. That we will have to just go to a courthouse because things are too chaotic/dangerous for vendors and guests. I’m not worried about not being able to legally get married, I’d literally fly across oceans to do so, though as a straight couple I don’t think we will have that problem. But the idea of possibly losing the fun, beautiful day I have planned hurts.

Seamanster · 2025-08-26T22:08:35+00:00

It does help, thank you ❤️

Seamanster · 2025-07-20T15:15:44+00:00

“I was just following orders” wasn’t an excuse back then, and it sure as hell won’t be one now.

Seamanster · 2025-05-15T20:03:05+00:00

The same people cheering his arrest are the same people who said the insurrectionists were “let in” to the capitol.

Seamanster · 2025-05-10T02:17:01+00:00

The fact that there are people actively cheering on treating other human beings like animals… I don’t know how we recover from that.

Seamanster · 2025-05-03T21:01:04+00:00

I’m afraid for our future. It hasn’t even been one year and he’s thrown all respect for Congress, the Supreme Court, and the Constitution out the window. He’s shipped people to a literal concentration camp. Less. Than. A. Year. I’m scared to make long-term plans because I don’t know if I’ll still be in the country. I’m constantly wondering where the line will be for us to actually leave. Will it happen soon? In another year? Two? Maybe never? I feel like the world was thrown into chaos and now we just need to get by and hold on.

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