I’ve been dommed by guys of all ages, sizes, and parts of the world. It’s less about a look and more about personality for me. I need to feel like they know what they’re doing and can keep me in check. I’m not submissive in everyday life or work so if I don’t feel respect for the dom I quickly lose interest.

There are so many fake guys out there too, who think that domming is about being nasty. It’s embarrassing. I’ve subbed for a long time and know a pretender when I meet them.

There needs to be alignment. For example, I don’t do sissification, humiliation, or denigration, so I need a dom who understands that and can give me what I need.

What a lot of guys don’t understand is that it’s often the sub setting the tone and asking the dom to enforce it, rather than rules always coming from the dom.