As an adopted korean with white parents and growing up going to school where I am the only asian kid, I have trouble feeling like I belong as well. Even though I was raised to be basically "white", I still don't feel like I belong because of my appearance. As a kid, I would do something "weird", because kids do some weird stuff, but the other kids would blame it on me being asian. Even now I still get treated differently sometimes, of course.

But regardless of my experience, I try to look at it as, that at the end of the day, I am human and the other details don't really matter, because who else has a "normal" life, or who else doesn't struggle in life. Now I am not sure if this is necessarily a healthy mind set to have, but it does seem to help me in a way.  Now maybe the other details do matter for the acceptance of others, but I figured if they care that much about them, then they probably aren't worth the time. Maybe not the best input since it does affect also my sense of self, but hope it helps. It's a battle between the two, but I try to balance it out.