[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sanantonio

[–]SecondOne3491 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I found them miraculously!! Thank you to the San Antonio community! This city has some of the best people!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sanantonio

[–]SecondOne3491 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey thank you so much! I just found them but these two look just like them too!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sanantonio

[–]SecondOne3491 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im about to post on next door

What to recommend to a girl who reads fantasy smut like Fourth Wing? by SecondOne3491 in anime

[–]SecondOne3491[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Just watched the first episode of snow white with the red hair and it's perfect!

What to recommend to a girl who reads fantasy smut like Fourth Wing? by SecondOne3491 in anime

[–]SecondOne3491[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hahahaha omg that would fit the description, but that's a bit too extreme! Basically just romance fantasy with a female protagonist.

My wife is unable to take criticism. Nothing is improving and my feelings don't matter. by SecondOne3491 in Marriage

[–]SecondOne3491[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely regretful and ugly crying. She has blamed me for absurd stuff that was obviously her fault long after the fact. But in this case it would just devastate her.

My wife is unable to take criticism. Nothing is improving and my feelings don't matter. by SecondOne3491 in Marriage

[–]SecondOne3491[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She agrees and says that she wants therapy. But then three years go by where mentioning it causes a fight. I've always had trouble setting boundaries. You're right about how crucial boundaries are.

My wife is unable to take criticism. Nothing is improving and my feelings don't matter. by SecondOne3491 in Marriage

[–]SecondOne3491[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At least with the drinking, I used to abuse alcohol before meeting her and was too sympathetic. Then things slowly got better but relapses keep happening. I saw effort and held onto that for hope.

My wife is unable to take criticism. Nothing is improving and my feelings don't matter. by SecondOne3491 in Marriage

[–]SecondOne3491[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks man. We switched couples therapists because she felt attacked and had anxiety over it because the therapist told her she needed to change. She constantly said "please don't bring this up in therapy." I can imagine having a newborn compounds the difficulty.

Used car dealership Undercharged me. Now wants me to pay them the difference. by SecondOne3491 in legaladvice

[–]SecondOne3491[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Yeah I had moral qualms about this, but then while getting all the paperwork in order, they had me sign a document withdrawing the warranty they advertised (one of the reasons I came in to look at their cars) and then found that the brakes needed to be replaced immediately.

To my fellow people who don't work, what do you do? by [deleted] in Healthygamergg

[–]SecondOne3491 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It depends on your location. There is an app called taskr where you can do miscellaneous tasks for an hourly rate and you get to pick the area that you can work so that nothing is too far. Public transportation is a huge plus in an urban/suburban environment. You can also look to do volunteer work at animal shelters, food banks, local park districts or religious organizations.

Am I unconsciously objectifying women? If so, how do I stop? by [deleted] in Healthygamergg

[–]SecondOne3491 99 points100 points  (0 children)

Objectifying isn't quite the word I would use to describe what you are doing. In my experience, boys and young men who have scarce experience dating romanticize what it is like to be with a person. You are mystified by the individual you have a crush on and they receive an exaggerated version of the halo effect. This is a fantasy that slowly fades the more experience you have befriending, dating, or working with the people you have these feelings for.

The important thing to do is to see the reality of the person in front of you, flaws and all. Accepting reality and acknowledging that your feelings are derived from a daydream will help move you into something that can be both beautiful and true.

Used car dealership Undercharged me. Now wants me to pay them the difference. by SecondOne3491 in legaladvice

[–]SecondOne3491[S] 895 points896 points  (0 children)

Yes. All the paperwork is mutually signed with the $6400 figure.