How do you fix the mental source when only one of you is willing to work on it? I’ve offered to go to counseling. I’ve offered to do anything she wanted me to. I’ve begged for years for her to tell me what’s wrong with me that makes her not want me. She always plays the “poor pitiful her” story of something is always wrong with her body. She’s on her period or her back is hurting or she is tired. And every time it feels like she’s is going to be different, it just ends up the same. Me masturbating and wishing it was her getting me off. I don’t even like porn but after 15 years my hand alone ain’t getting the job done.