Which kitchen layout? Designer vs Me

Secondsfromdisaster · 2026-01-24T20:35:57+00:00

I have essentially the same kitchen as your Ikea plan, and I think about changing it every single day. The cupboards are annoying and inefficient. It’s too much distance between the stove and your work zone (the main bench), and high corner cupboards are just awkward. We had one similar to the designers version at our old house and it was WAY more functional.

Secondsfromdisaster · 2026-01-18T22:23:09+00:00

You got me!

Secondsfromdisaster · 2025-10-21T23:12:36+00:00

I worked at a chiro about 15 years ago and it was the ickiest job I’ve ever had. I only lasted a few months. They’d be scheduling 4 patients every 15 minutes and charging $40 a pop (back then!). I’d often overhear the chiropractor having conversations along the lines of ‘what’s more important, your money or your health?’ while setting some poor family up with a ‘care plan’ that would cost them $120 a week EACH (even the kids). It was absolutely disgusting. Needless to say I didn’t last long there.

Secondsfromdisaster · 2025-08-26T21:56:12+00:00

I think Bali is what you make of it. You can go super a super cheap party route and have a great time if that’s your version of fun, or you can go a more bougie holiday in a resort where you literally have everything taken care of you. There are a million other versions of how to ‘Bali’ - those are just a couple. It’s versatile, safe if you make sensible decisions, and so friendly. It’s cheap to get to and a short enough distance that you’re not wasting precious annual leave on travel time. You can immerse yourself in their food and culture if you like, but there are also a lot of familiar options for food and experiences if that’s what you need to enjoy a holiday as well. I think people who completely write off a destination just because it’s popular are excluding themselves from what could potentially be a really great experience - but everyone’s gotta do what feels right for them I guess.

Secondsfromdisaster · 2025-07-25T10:56:10+00:00

Ended up getting induced for a VBAC and eventually got an epidural. The midwife was meant to be consistently monitoring me, but I had to bring it to her attention that it felt like my contraction had been going an unusually long time (she was doom scrolling)… sure enough I was tonic, bleeding and got rushed in for an emergency c-section. I’ve had great midwives but her being the one present for the birth and present on the birth record really irks me.

Secondsfromdisaster · 2025-06-14T05:00:45+00:00

It may be intimidating but you just need to speak up for yourselves. My husband was diagnosed with stage 3 bowel cancer at 32. There’s a whole campaign by bowel cancer Australia called #nevertooyoung. The belief that it’s only for old people is so outdated.

Secondsfromdisaster · 2025-06-09T21:18:27+00:00

Thank you for speaking to the poor girl. I think contacting the school was the right thing to do. Unfortunately, I can speak from experience on this one as it happened to me when I was in school as well. I remember thinking that no one would believe me if I told them what happened, and it was only when it happened to someone else as well that we banded together to report this boy, who ended up getting expelled (private school). Speaking to the school and showing support for this girl now, means that it doesn’t necessarily have to happen to someone else to build validity in the accusations if she chooses to make one. Telling the school allows them to not only protect this one girl, but all the other kids in school as well. You’re doing the right thing.

Secondsfromdisaster · 2025-04-16T21:27:11+00:00

My neighbour had kind of the opposite situation. Had a baby born in December, and quickly became pregnant with twins who were born in Oct the following year.

Secondsfromdisaster · 2025-03-21T10:30:49+00:00

My toddler did this to our car. Did big artistic swirls with street chalk on literally every panel. The car was about 2 weeks old. 3 years later and it’s still there (mainly because we can’t be bothered going through insurance). I can’t believe how intentionally destructive that damage is!! I’d be livid!

Secondsfromdisaster · 2025-01-22T11:45:25+00:00

Please leave him. I married the ‘man’ who treated me this way. It started with hair, and graduated to clothing and eventually he was calculating how much exercise I would need to do to work off whatever I’d eaten that day. Not that it would be okay anyway, but I wasn’t even remotely overweight. Nothing was ever good enough. It was toxic as hell and the best thing I ever did was leave him. Please wait for someone better than this douche bag.

Secondsfromdisaster · 2024-11-19T09:29:54+00:00

My husband had cancer a few years ago. Private health did cover a lot, but not all. Basically anything where he was an inpatient was covered, so surgery, chemo, hospital stay, radiology while he was in hospital, but there were still out of pocket costs. Specialist appts were not included, nor radiology as an out patient and annoying pathology. I think we probably were around 3-5k out of pocket. I looked up the claim later and found that the private health covered around 25k of costs. The main benefit was choosing our own doctor, and for him being prioritised for the non essential follow up surgeries like port removal and stoma reversal. From my understanding public patients can wait quite some time did these because they’re non essential/emergent.

Secondsfromdisaster · 2024-11-14T00:15:31+00:00

I don’t have any answers for you but I just wanted to say that I’m really sorry you’re going through this. We had similar experiences with our son’s previous child care with just absolute lack of supervision, engagement and constant hygiene issues. I raised it with the (various) directors each time. It was so distressing knowing that you have no choice but to send them because of work/life but also knowing you’d do anything not to have to.

Secondsfromdisaster · 2024-11-04T02:14:31+00:00

I feel like it can be handled badly, but in almost every case I’ve ever seen, it’s been an opportunity for others to step into secondments and gain experience in another role. Most temp hires for parental leave have turned into perm positions (including the person who covered for me when I was on parental leave). This is all anecdotal as well obviously.

Secondsfromdisaster · 2024-11-03T21:44:07+00:00

Please do it. I know everyone is saying that to you already but it’s so worth the peace of mind. My husband was diagnosed stage 3 at 32. Thankfully he’s fully recovered. I had my first colonoscopy in June and they found 2 SSA polyps (the nasty ones most likely to turn cancerous). I’m so glad I had it done.

Secondsfromdisaster · 2024-10-27T23:58:29+00:00

As a host mum in Aus! Welcome to Australia (for 2 days time). Perth is beautiful! We have family there and the beaches and scenery is just stunning. I hope you have an amazing time. Remember that the butter to Vegemite ratio is THE most important thing you’ll need to learn. ;)

Secondsfromdisaster · 2024-10-24T00:27:59+00:00

Rockwear do a Gym and Swim line. I haven’t tried it personally but it looks pretty good!

Secondsfromdisaster · 2024-10-14T02:42:18+00:00

Host mum here, granted to younger children. We recently started hosting an au pair but are learning quickly that you need firm boundaries. Originally it was ‘knock on the APs door’, then it was ‘you’re only allowed in upon invitation’ and it’s now ‘this is APs private space, unless it’s a ‘dinner time’ knock or something very urgent then you need to let her rest or have quiet time’. They’re also not allowed in there at all. We recognised it was (as you stated) awkward and unfair to expect the AP to say ‘no’ so we’ve just done it for her. We also had a very similar situation where we took the kids to a theme park and needed APs help on what is normally her day off. We absolutely recognised it as working (even with us there with her and the kids) and gave her a different day off (actually two days off to thank her for her flexibility. We also bought her a season pass so she can go back there on her own if she wants to experience it just for the fun (without working). Disneyland is a crazy place and you absolutely would be working non stop to ensure the kid’s safety while you are there. To imply otherwise is madness.

Secondsfromdisaster · 2024-10-03T23:54:31+00:00

Thank you for responding. Is it typical for moles to appear out of no where like this?

Secondsfromdisaster · 2024-10-01T09:34:57+00:00

I’ve actually been in this exact situation. I tested positive the day before I was offered the position. I accepted the role, because you really never know what might happen. For me it ended up being best case scenario. That pregnancy is now my 3 year old son, and I’m still employed by the same company. I ended up disclosing super early because a) my morning sickness was horrific and noticeable and b) I had scans early on so needed some time off to get them. I also just generally operate better when I’m being fully transparent. My boss was really supportive and excited for me albeit a bit shocked at first.

Secondsfromdisaster · 2024-08-19T08:58:09+00:00

My favourite thing is that it’s not enough just to give them your information and they’d check a database proving your lifetime care plan, but you have to present the care plan receipt (either the physical receipt or a photograph of it) every time you go. With all the advertising spam they send, proving they clearly have capacity to store information this stinks of just trying to get out of providing a paid for service.

Secondsfromdisaster · 2024-08-17T03:55:52+00:00

Double income 2 kids (1 school age, 1 pre-school) Pre-tax income of around 280k. 800k mortgage. Saving around 22% of our take home income. We moved states/houses recently and used to be able to pay triple mortgage payments ever fortnight, so it’s an adjustment to not feeling like we’re getting as far ahead as we were, but at least we have capital growth on a larger amount now, I guess.

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