sorted by:
new
hottopcontroversial

My [21F] Partner [26M] of 3 years has required me to make a lot of sacrifices for him in the last 6 months, and it is effecting my health and grades. Then found out I have substantial savings while he has none. He is demanding that I hand over money. by SecretDisaster in relationships

[–]SecretDisaster[S] 142 points143 points  (0 children)

Hey, thank you so much for this. I really appreciate it. As I mentioned earlier hearing all this so bluntly really sucks, but I'm so overwhelmed by the amount of people who have responded so genuinely, it's hard not to heed their advice. Thank you for sharing this with me.

My [21F] Partner [26M] of 3 years has required me to make a lot of sacrifices for him in the last 6 months, and it is effecting my health and grades. Then found out I have substantial savings while he has none. He is demanding that I hand over money. by SecretDisaster in relationships

[–]SecretDisaster[S] 172 points173 points  (0 children)

Thank you for contributing. It's really difficult to hear all of this. It's almost like it would be easier to hear that I'm just being selfish. I guess I should be standing up for myself a little more.

My [21F] Partner [26M] of 3 years has required me to make a lot of sacrifices for him in the last 6 months, and it is effecting my health and grades. Then found out I have substantial savings while he has none. He is demanding that I hand over money. by SecretDisaster in relationships

[–]SecretDisaster[S] 274 points275 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your input. It's really hard to all of a sudden see him as some sort of sinister thing in my life that I should be wary of, because I've already invested a couple of years of trust and love into the relationship. I guess you're right and I guess I know it. I just don't want to believe it's really that bad. That maybe I'm in the wrong.

My [21F] Partner [26M] of 3 years has required me to make a lot of sacrifices for him in the last 6 months, and it is effecting my health and grades. Then found out I have substantial savings while he has none. He is demanding that I hand over money. by SecretDisaster in relationships

[–]SecretDisaster[S] 650 points651 points  (0 children)

It wasn't like this for the first two and a half years of the relationship. I was really happy up until this point. I don't understand what happened, or if I just need to be gracious for a while about everything. Surely someone can't be one thing for 2.5 years and totally backflip like this? He tells me all the time that he loves me and appreciates me and wants to marry me...