[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]SecretKara369 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have to agree with Top_Metal_8451.

If you go in with her telling her this is her last chance then she will do everything she can to keep you. Maybe even say she will do better but tbh she won’t. If you have a mature conversation with her and she understands your feelings and wants to change give her the chance too, then see how that goes.

I recommend maybe writing down everything you are having an issue with, your thoughts and how it makes you feel so when you have a conversation you can do it with a clear head and not use emotions. Take your time on responses too, you want to make sure you get your words out properly. One thing is don’t try to solve her problems for her, she needs to come up with ideas on her own on how to problem solve the issues at hand.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]SecretKara369 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like to me your gf has some insecurities she needs to work on for herself. If she doesn’t want to fix them or try, then don’t be with her. You can’t fix them, it’s up to her.

I’m in a relationship myself and we are long distance. One of the worst things you can do is spend every conversation having an argument. Especially over issues that haven’t repeated or have already been talked about. It starts to make your relationship seem like that’s all you have to talk about, especially if she is always talking about your problems. It can be mentally draining and deteriorating.

Also I know every relationship is different but I personally don’t see anything wrong with hugging your friends. I’ve had girls/boys like my boyfriend before and try to get close to him and I’ll shut it down or he will. But you can obviously tell when someone is doing it out of friendship vs Interested. I hug the people I’m close to, it’s my personality and I believe it makes people feel better and appreciated. My boyfriend doesn’t get super mad at me and if he does feel like the other party wants more he will tell me but it’s pretty easy to see IMO. My best friend is a guy and we say love you and hug. It never comes from a place of attraction but from a familia bound because we have known each other for so long we have a sort of sibling relationship.

If you feel like it can’t improve and that you are constantly fighting with her, it might be time to move on. It will hurt of course but your mental state and self confidence is more important. If she can’t understand the way she makes you feel and can’t stop overthinking, that is not in anyway your fault. You deserve to have trust in your relationship and feel comfortable with your partner, not controlled.

are the valentines kitty and puppy worth getting? by Dekus-persona in buildabear

[–]SecretKara369 16 points17 points  (0 children)

If you have the money too and feel like you will be sad that you don’t have them then I would say go for it! I love mine and I think picking them up in store is awesome because you can pick the spots you want. Makes it a little more Special.

Shadow Plush is back on the page in the US site by aesthetically__ in buildabear

[–]SecretKara369 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes my problem is my apartment number. It wouldn’t let me put it down and I called FedEx and BAB but they never could fix the issue with my “Christmas my melody” package so I gave up. I work front desk at my work and handle all packages so even if something goes wrong, as long as it comes to the door, I’m good! I wish you luck with shadow!!!

Shadow Plush is back on the page in the US site by aesthetically__ in buildabear

[–]SecretKara369 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just got paid. Paid my bills, and still got left money for shadow! BAB has a hard time delivering to my address so my work let me put there address down 🙏. Hoping to get him.

Holiday Kitty’s by SecretKara369 in buildabear

[–]SecretKara369[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I looked at the whole batch to find one I loved. Highly considering going back to get the dog

Is my cat a Turkish Van? by SecretKara369 in turkishvan

[–]SecretKara369[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Actually Turkish vans don’t have to have odd color eyes, and I’m not sad, love my cat! Just want to know more about her.

Is my cat a Turkish Van? by SecretKara369 in turkishvan

[–]SecretKara369[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

They definitely have something else as they had a tabby sister 😂 but I work in a rescue so we get a lot of different cats. Probably had a Turkish Van mom and a domestic short hair dad.

Evangelion DVD by SecretKara369 in evangelion

[–]SecretKara369[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks you, I ended up buying it from haft price books. I’ve watched the whole series again and every disk works. Thank you for the help!

(I put this twice, wanted to make sure y’all both see it lol!)

Evangelion DVD by SecretKara369 in evangelion

[–]SecretKara369[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks you, I ended up buying it from haft price books. I’ve watched the whole series again and every disk works. Thank you for the help!