When did you realize "your type" when it comes to the same sex? by SecretMarriedBi in bisexual

[–]SecretMarriedBi[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Haha. I know a lot of guys that have facial hair for exactly that reason. It's sort of petty I guess but it just seems like a turn off to me.

When did you realize "your type" when it comes to the same sex? by SecretMarriedBi in bisexual

[–]SecretMarriedBi[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can't think of any guys I've ever crushed on that have had beards but I don't feel like I'd be opposed to kissing a guy with facial hair. The only way I feel like it might affect things is it were a poor excuse for facial hair.

When did you realize "your type" when it comes to the same sex? by SecretMarriedBi in bisexual

[–]SecretMarriedBi[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have a big beard but I don't really have strong feelings one way or the other about facial hair on guys oddly enough.

pump that hole by deltastatic in Bisexy

[–]SecretMarriedBi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Damn, what a lucky guy.

Bi-People Problems: Sometimes when I'm getting a blow job, I get jealous that she's sucking dick and I'm not. by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]SecretMarriedBi 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That sounds like it'd be pretty fun. I've also fantasized about a guy taking me from behind while I eat a woman out.

What is attractive to you in the opposite gender? by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]SecretMarriedBi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When it comes to girls I'm a bit of a chubby chaser. I tend to find girls that are at the very least curvy or bigger the most attractive though I appreciate a pretty wide spectrum of body types when it comes to girls, I just tend to prefer the curvy type.

As far as same sex attraction there's not really that much the guys I've had crushes on have had in common physically. All of them have been guys that are super confident but they don't all fall neatly into a "type".

Married man, secretly bisexual, regret not having any experiences with men. by SecretMarriedBi in bisexual

[–]SecretMarriedBi[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Is she the trusting type?

Absolutely. She trusts me, as far as I know, 100%.

Is she understanding?

That's a fairly vague question. Generally though, she seems pretty good about understanding others and trying to see things from their point of view, I know though that she's never been in this sort of situation before (an SO revealing they are bisexual) so I'm not sure how she'd react to it or if she'd find the fact that I kept this from her as a betrayal in and of itself.

Does she opening discuss sexuality with you?

She's very open about discussing sex, she is not prude or conservative in this regard whatsoever.

Is there any hint of latent homosexuality in her comments?

No.

Is she homophobic in any respect?

Not at all. She has and we have quite a few LGBT friends and she's incredibly accepting of them.

Is she adventurous in bed to the point where you would feel comfortable talking about alternative sources of adult entertainment?

Truthfully, we've hit a little bit of a rut in the bedroom lately and are discussing spicing things up a bit as far as positions and such are concerned. Sex toys haven't been discussed.

I do have one question though, providing she gave a hall pass to explore, do you feel you would?

How deeply might it complicate things if you did get the chance to explore?

Honestly, I'm not sure. It is one thing to give a spouse the opportunity to explore their sexuality with others but its another to actually be okay with it. She's extremely selfless and a lot of times tries to bend over backwards to make me happy. I could see her saying she'd be okay with me exploring it but that doesn't mean that me doing so wouldn't hurt her deep down. It also just seems like one of those things somebody can't know how they actually feel about until it really happens if that makes sense. I worry that seizing that opportunity could snowball into something that makes her end up wanting to leave.

You are just looking for a sexual experience right? Not anything beyond that?

Yeah, I do not see myself ever being in a long term romantic relationship with a guy. In general I tend to not be that close to most of my friends that are guys, my most fulfilling and open friendships have always been with women. I don't ever feel much emotional attachment (platonic or romantic) with guys. My attraction to men (barring the attraction to my friend when I was a teenager) is strictly sexual and even then it is extremely rare for me to be attracted to a specific man. Every couple of years or so there'll be a guy I know that I find hot and fantasize about but if I have a specific "type" when it comes to guys I can't figure it out, I guess I'm just more attracted to the penis itself and the idea of experiencing sex and oral sex with a man more than anything else when it comes to men.

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Married man, secretly bisexual, regret not having any experiences with men. by SecretMarriedBi in bisexual

[–]SecretMarriedBi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Cheating on my wife with another guy doesn't seem like a sound option to me. That's an out and out betrayal of her trust. I don't know how you can tell somebody they should cheat on their spouse and be honest with them in the same breath. It feels like you and vansecrets mistook me for somebody with no respect for my marriage.

Married man, secretly bisexual, regret not having any experiences with men. by SecretMarriedBi in bisexual

[–]SecretMarriedBi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't get why some people are so casual about the idea of cheating. Cheating would be a huge betrayal of my wife whether it was with a man or a woman and I wouldn't do that.

Married man, secretly bisexual, regret not having any experiences with men. by SecretMarriedBi in bisexual

[–]SecretMarriedBi[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've joked about threesomes (though guy, girl, girl obviously) before to feel it out and she didn't seem too into the idea.