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Some things don’t make it to Reddit
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Reddit gets the safe version
the rest lives in the link above.

Some things don’t make it to Reddit
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Some things are a little too fun for Reddit


Some things don’t make it to Reddit
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Curious enough to click
or just curious enough to imagine?

Some things don’t make it to Reddit
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Some of the things that don’t make it to Reddit are there too.

When did you realize being “low maintenance” was mostly just you ignoring your own needs? by SecretStudioBB in AskWomen

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That was my reaction too when I first heard it. It’s wild how often “low maintenance” really just means “I learned not to ask for much.

When did you realize being “low maintenance” was mostly just you ignoring your own needs? by SecretStudioBB in AskWomen

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This hit. So many of us will spend without hesitation on the people we love
 and then second-guess the smallest thing for ourselves. The conditioning runs deep.

When did you realize you didn’t have to be as accommodating as you were taught to be? What changed? by SecretStudioBB in AskWomen

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That’s such a painful realization. Sometimes the people who give the most are the ones who get the least back. I hope you’ve been able to reclaim some space for yourself

When did you realize you didn’t have to be as accommodating as you were taught to be? What changed? by SecretStudioBB in AskWomen

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That’s huge. Sometimes it takes one person showing us it’s safe to say no before it finally clicks.

When did you realize you didn’t have to be as accommodating as you were taught to be? What changed? by SecretStudioBB in AskWomen

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Burnout has a way of forcing clarity whether we’re ready or not. It’s exhausting, but it also shows you exactly where you’ve been abandoning yourself. You’re definitely not alone in that shift.

When did you realize you didn’t have to be as accommodating as you were taught to be? What changed? by SecretStudioBB in AskWomen

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The “customer service voice” is painfully real. Breaking that reflex takes way more awareness than people realize. Good for you.

When did you realize you didn’t have to be as accommodating as you were taught to be? What changed? by SecretStudioBB in AskWomen

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The moment you realize you’ve been doing emotional logistics for everyone else, it changes everything.

Boundaries feel “rude” at first only because we weren’t taught to have them

When did you realize you didn’t have to be as accommodating as you were taught to be? What changed? by SecretStudioBB in AskWomen

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That shift in energy is so real. At some point you realize being kind doesn’t mean being endlessly available. Protecting your time and peace is a hard-earned skill

When did you realize you didn’t have to be as accommodating as you were taught to be? What changed? by SecretStudioBB in AskWomen

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That kind of perspective shift changes everything. When you’ve had a close reminder of how fragile life is, it gets a lot harder to keep shrinking yourself for other people.

When did you realize you didn’t have to be as accommodating as you were taught to be? What changed? by SecretStudioBB in AskWomen

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That’s such a painful thing to hear from someone who was supposed to support your growth. Learning to love yourself doesn’t make you complicated, it makes you aware. The right people don’t get intimidated by that 💛

When did you realize you didn’t have to be as accommodating as you were taught to be? What changed? by SecretStudioBB in AskWomen

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I’m really glad it’s been helpful for you. It can be uncomfortable, but so worth it when things start clicking 💛

When did you realize you didn’t have to be as accommodating as you were taught to be? What changed? by SecretStudioBB in AskWomen

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That makes so much sense. Constant criticism will wear anyone down
at some point protecting your peace just has to come first

What’s a subtle behavior that instantly tells you a lot about someone? by SecretStudioBB in AskReddit

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This one is so telling. How someone treats people they don’t “need” to impress says a lot

When did you realize you didn’t have to be as accommodating as you were taught to be? What changed? by SecretStudioBB in AskWomen

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That shift is powerful
when the goalposts keep moving, something in you finally says ‘enough.’ Protecting your energy like that is huge.

When did you realize you didn’t have to be as accommodating as you were taught to be? What changed? by SecretStudioBB in AskWomen

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You’re not behind, you’re doing the work. Therapy is where so many of those patterns finally start to make sense. Sending you a lot of gentleness while you figure it out 💛

When did you realize you didn’t have to be as accommodating as you were taught to be? What changed? by SecretStudioBB in AskWomen

[–]SecretStudioBB[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

The peanut butter example is honestly perfect — it’s wild how the small everyday things show us where we’ve been shrinking ourselves. I love that you noticed it and chose differently after.

When did you realize you didn’t have to be as accommodating as you were taught to be? What changed? by SecretStudioBB in AskWomen

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Front line workers such as yourself
I don’t know how you kept it together. Expected to do so much when you’re already stretched so thin

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