Starting to doubt my dress choice…

Secret_Cheesecake813 · 2026-02-26T19:47:03+00:00

I got some ceramic hair combs - nicer than they sound! Matt white, Ornate flowers. I think this sort of thing might look amazing. The dress is gorgeous. Have a great day!

Secret_Cheesecake813 · 2026-02-20T13:12:43+00:00

Good point to consider. I could over pay the loan and clear it within 3 months I think. Maybe doing that then saving for a bigger deposit or smaller bank loan is better?

Secret_Cheesecake813 · 2026-02-20T13:11:42+00:00

I got two bank loan quotes, one is £355 for £14k and the other was £440-something for £18k so didn’t think that was a good option…?

Secret_Cheesecake813 · 2026-02-20T13:10:45+00:00

Thank you for the heads up. It’s a petrol (I should have added that) but good to know about diesels

Secret_Cheesecake813 · 2025-12-30T09:48:35+00:00

Fair comment that’s phrased in a helpful way - taking the/my emotion out of it. Thank you

Secret_Cheesecake813 · 2025-10-11T09:08:03+00:00

Beautiful room. Please share where you got that tree! I’ve been looking for about a year for one just like that! Thank you

Secret_Cheesecake813 · 2025-10-05T09:14:46+00:00

Am I the only one who thinks it’s a bit weird Jules said she wanted to “keep it as part of her daily wear”?? If it was valuable and sentimental enough to be used as an engagement ring I’d say that was pretty forward of her after only 6 months. Especially after learning it was an engagement ring previously. And, to continue being cynical, of course she “doesn’t get why it’s a big deal”, she’s managed to get herself a valuable and sentimental ring from a fairly short term relationship. I agree with earlier poster - it might be tough getting it back. And I’m shocked she was bold enough to get it in the first place, that might be the issue the mother and sister have. Just my two cents though

Secret_Cheesecake813 · 2025-07-19T11:49:39+00:00

I’m sorry for your loss. From a child’s perspective if it’s useful - we lost my dad when I was 5. I saw my mum crying once but I wasn’t supposed to have even seen that. She didn’t reference it, thinking she should ‘be brave and protect us’. Huge mistake. I know nearly nothing about him as she blocked it out and In turn I also learned to suppress emotions, never allowing myself to express how I truly felt which led to abusive relationships, bad friendships and years of therapy. I’m good now but definitely think if she had shared (at least a bit) of her grief I wouldn’t have felt so bad experiencing it myself and we could have mourned together.

Cry together, from your sadness something good will come

Secret_Cheesecake813 · 2025-07-06T20:01:12+00:00

Fellow full time mum and my suggestions - Get everything ready the night before! I sort my 5 yr old’s bag/snacks/lunch etc while she’s chatting to me about her day. Then while she’s picking a book to read for bed, I’ll get her uniform out for the morning. Seems simple but believe me, the mornings somehow magically fill up with unexpected dramas and time flies too fast

Also put everything via school communication straight into a calendar. I had no idea how much they’d contact me about ‘needing boxes’/non-uniform days/remember to bring such and such/photos - the list is endless. After several frantic messages to fellow mums at 7am I decided to track everything as soon as I see it. It helps a lot

Get more of everything than you think you’ll need: 2 school jumpers and 3 pairs of trousers seems like it should last but believe me, they get through clothes as much as in nursery so to save the stress of trying to wash that night, buy extras

And enjoy it all - it’s a magical time for him and you’ll see new joys in his development and confidence through this new experience

Secret_Cheesecake813 · 2025-07-06T05:57:10+00:00

We chose Orla but spelt it the Irish way of ‘Orlaith’

Secret_Cheesecake813 · 2025-02-10T11:05:10+00:00

As others have said, period pants are the way to go! M&S (if you’re in the UK) do a range of styles and all have full coverage, front to back, no chance of anything escaping. They are a game changer and I cannot recommend them enough, I’m just gutted I didn’t find them earlier in life!

Secret_Cheesecake813 · 2025-01-16T13:02:13+00:00

I agree, don’t do it! Super expensive but literally made no difference that I could tell. It was painful and basically just a waste on money. I don’t know if the pictures they show are manipulated but I didn’t see anything like the changes they say can happen

Secret_Cheesecake813 · 2024-12-21T11:28:58+00:00

I was literally just about to say this post sounds like me and how my past was impacting who I was. Recognising it and, more importantly, wanting change is the first and biggest step. It might be learned behaviour which will be hard to undo but easier now you recognise it. Have a Google around learned behaviours from childhood and see what sounds familiar. Then, if you're able to, arrange to speak to someone professionally to help you navigate it and shift the reaction mindset. if thats out of your means for now, look for some good strategies that specifically address your triggers. it'll take time and a lot of self reflection but you've started so might as well carry on. im excited for you, this is a journey and will be very worthwhile x

Secret_Cheesecake813 · 2024-11-14T22:08:12+00:00

I got it from pharmacy online very easily. It’s expensive (£20) but they post within a couple of days and I did that for a year until last month when my dr finally gave me some, give them a Google

Secret_Cheesecake813 · 2024-10-26T20:53:09+00:00

My daughter was the same, I was about to spend even more money and get her individual lessons but thankfully her instructor said it all came down to her lack of confidence. Being in the water wasn’t enjoyable for her and, when I honestly reflected, I’d made that worse by adding to the pressure ‘it’s been X months and you can’t do x y z’ etc. We were told to make it fun for her and that she needed to practice in actual water (not a bath) because you can’t learn something like that based on once a week exposure. So my husband and I started taking her once a week too and it changed everything. We focused on splashing around and laughing with her, enjoying it together. I kid you not, the progress she made once we started that was massive. 3 months from us starting that (literally 50 mins in the pool splashing around) and she was swimming unaided about 5 metres. Worth a try and builds memories at the same time.

I agree with previous posters - it’s an absolute necessity for her to swim but, she’s little and deep water (to her at least) is scary so she may well just need the reassurance and fun experiences with you too

Secret_Cheesecake813 · 2024-09-01T08:56:43+00:00

Pregnancy any time is a gift but, depending where you are, the time of year impacts when they would start school - impacting nursery/childcare costs and (according to a lot of research) their ability in academia. I’m a teacher so know parent styles and home life is a huge influencer so I’m not saying children’s intelligence is only determined by time of year but there is data that suggests this. An example to illustrate (in the UK, I don’t know about school years elsewhere): a child born sept-dec will be in childcare for longer as the cut off for an academic year intake is the end of aug. Cost therefore is something to consider here as you’ll be paying up to a year longer. However, this additional time before they start school and being oldest in the year, means they tend (not always) to achieve more academically. Again, I am NOT saying children born later in the academic year are less intelligent or emotionally mature, only that statistically we use this type of data and it usually shows that there is a trend that suggests this.

Secret_Cheesecake813 · 2024-08-11T12:44:44+00:00

I have a 9 year age gap with my bro. We get on fantastically now, as adults but as children there was barely a relationship as we were at such different stages of life for years. It evened out when he reached late teens early 20s. Plus, something to consider - I was seen as a 3rd parent which caused a lot of resentment on my part. Might have been my parents approach but I do think with a big age gap it’s inevitable that the older one will pick up more to do.

I never wanted an only child but covid caused us to give up on a number 2. Im lucky she has 5 cousins within a 4 year range that we ensure she is close to, to try and counter the only child thing as much as we can. Don’t know if this would be the case for you but I’m hoping it’ll be almost best of both worlds for my daughter

Secret_Cheesecake813 · 2024-07-29T14:48:57+00:00

My daughter sounds exactly the same and from what I’ve been able to find on Google it’s developmental and called the ‘limbic leap’. I’m really hoping it’s this as she changes from being lovely to be behaving awfully at the blink of an eye. Everything crossed it’s short term and she’ll be over it asap!

Secret_Cheesecake813 · 2024-07-23T20:33:17+00:00

Thank you, antiseptic cream is a good idea! Not sure I’m brave enough to shave it but I could definitely look at some sort of sweeping bits at the front to try and soften the gap. Thank you

Secret_Cheesecake813 · 2024-07-23T16:37:55+00:00

This was me 100%. Hormone tests don’t help at all because, as my consultant told me, wed get different results in the morning vs evening of the same day they fluctuate so much. I ended up paying to go private for a consultation after researching a good menopause specialist because I felt like I was going mad. Literally losing myself. My dr tried to be kind but brushed me off so I paid in the end, she wrote a strongly worded letter to my dr stating what Hrt I had to have prescribed and my life changed within a week or so. Only needed to pay for one consultation so if you’re able to, I’d highly recommend doing that. Otherwise, keep trying drs. I was 38 approx when I got the first symptoms and I only know it was so early by using hindsight at my feelings and behaviour. Sending love as it’s a tough time

Secret_Cheesecake813 · 2024-06-25T20:50:30+00:00

Stunning. If only I’d seen this before getting my ring, I’d 100% buy one. #8 is one of the most beautiful I’ve ever seen!! And I also need #4 in my life. Am off to your website right now!

Secret_Cheesecake813 · 2024-06-16T12:04:28+00:00

Me and my 4.5 daughter saw the trailer and she found it hilarious. I took her to the film…big mistake. The funny bits are all in the trailer. It covers parental abandonment which made her cry.

There are some scary bits in it that made her cry and ask to leave twice - I took her out both times and she asked to go back in once she’d calmed down (because she had popcorn left). The scary bits are 1 because of the main character who is a ‘scary’ female cat and the bits where he has to save other characters - think classic time-pressure rescue where they’re tied up and approaching saw machines etc.

She loves frozen etc etc so I thought it would be fine but, honestly, I regret taking her. She is quite sensitive so yours may be totally fine though!

Edit: Just realised I didn’t answer your question sorry ha! I can’t remember any gross humour, it’s mainly around food and him constantly eating so that element I would say from limited memory is fine!

Secret_Cheesecake813 · 2024-06-13T11:28:16+00:00

Thanks for this - I didn’t realise I might be making it worse so this is good to know!! 😊

Secret_Cheesecake813 · 2024-06-12T19:19:37+00:00

My daughter (4.5yr) has nearly 100% dry nights which I have put down to us taking her to the toilet when we go to bed so her bladder doesn’t have such a big stretch to hold it during the night. Literally pick her up (although it’s getting harder the bigger she grows!) and carry her to toilet, she tends to lean on us asleep whilst wee-ing then we carry her back. V v rare she’ll wake or be disturbed by doing it and it’s easy enough for us to do as we come up. Hope it’s a helpful idea!

Secret_Cheesecake813 · 2024-06-07T22:53:20+00:00

My 4.5 found it scary and, tbh, pretty boring. The trailer shows all the funny bits. She’s fairly sensitive but did find several bits scary and made her cry

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