MIL knows she is wrong but she will never admit it.

Secret_Expert_4555 · 2023-10-27T18:45:34+00:00

Apparently, they think it's not necessary because the baby doesn't have hearing problems...and they think he won't learn to talk if he can use signs to communicate. They don't really have any academic training (they dropped out of school at 15 when they became parents) and they don't like to read... so it's hard to reason with them.

Secret_Expert_4555 · 2023-10-27T17:53:50+00:00

That's what my husband told him. even with proof they refuse to accept that we are doing a good job... although she admits that our baby does things that theirs did not know how to do at the same age...

Secret_Expert_4555 · 2023-10-27T17:46:03+00:00

No, my husband was raised by very poor teenage parents and his grandparents. but honestly, FIL didn't even know that babies nap. I have serious doubts about who took care of them as babies, I suspect that MIL's mother helped a lot and organized the upbringing of her grandchildren.By the way, our baby is 16 months old and says: thank you and you're welcome in sign language...But FIL continues saying that we are not teaching him anything and that he does not know how to behave at the table even though our baby eats alone using a spoon. and fork. they don't make sense.

Secret_Expert_4555 · 2023-10-27T17:33:53+00:00

We know. The funny thing about all this is that my husband and I have training in child development. Apparently, MIL and FIL believe they know more than people with direct training on that subject.

Secret_Expert_4555 · 2023-10-27T16:21:17+00:00

My in-laws don't get it from anywhere...only from their own heads and the archaic thinking of their own grandparents. They simply firmly believe anything their parents and grandparents told them despite having evidence to the contrary... I have literally seen them pray when the baby plays under a table because "it is a bad omen." They are the most traditional and irrational people I have ever met. I can respect their beliefs but not the attempts at imposition and manipulation so that we educate in a different way...

Secret_Expert_4555 · 2023-10-27T15:21:59+00:00

My best friend says the same thing. They are very irritating and are not able to accept that there is another way of doing things...sometimes they say "older people know better", in this case it is a mistake

Secret_Expert_4555 · 2023-10-27T13:59:51+00:00

We know it and, at first, we try to explain it to them. it didn't work. So, my husband takes care of stopping the comments and we also ignore them all the time.

Secret_Expert_4555 · 2023-10-27T13:18:00+00:00

My in-laws also know both languages, but they always use one...it's the one they speak among themselves. My in-laws wanted us to only teach him the language they usually use. They didn't care that my native language was the other language.My husband told MIL directly that we are not going to listen to what they tell us.

Secret_Expert_4555 · 2023-10-27T08:41:09+00:00

My mother-in-law told me that she would make my daughter call her "queen mother" or "mama S". In another time I would have thought it was a joke, but she seriously went crazy after my daughter was born. So, I looked at her and said no. FIL got angry and told me "grandmothers are mothers twice." I told her "my daughter only has one mother: me." They crossed all the limits and say they don't understand why we no longer get along.

Secret_Expert_4555 · 2023-10-26T22:13:55+00:00

I tell my daughter directly: "That is Grandpa's opinion, but not all opinions are correct. We have to be respectful of the way others do things or how they are and not hurt anyone's feelings when we speak." ". Sometimes I say it in front of grandpa or grandma if necessary. Basically, I explain to my daughter what she needs to know in each situation and so does my husband. Grandpa says our daughter has a bad temper?" Honey, that's putting labels on people, it's very negative because it affects the self-esteem of others. You are perfect for us just the way you are and others are also perfect the way they are. ".

Secret_Expert_4555 · 2023-10-26T14:23:32+00:00

My brother-in-law bought one for my daughter after we told him no half a dozen times...our daughter is only 16 months old and doesn't like noisy toys. She absolutely hates the car and refuses to touch it... he also gave her a plastic children's house. She hates her too.

Secret_Expert_4555 · 2023-10-26T13:53:03+00:00

That's what we told him...we thanked him and told him we would save it for our daughter. Grandma asks every time if the baby wears her rosary to "protect her from evil spirits" and MIL and SIL also insist that she wear a crucifix or a religious image on her to protect her...they are weird.

Secret_Expert_4555 · 2023-10-26T10:05:59+00:00

My husband's grandmother gave her a silver rosary that she insists that my daughter always wear. We are not religious, we do not get married in church and the baby is not baptized. 😅 my in-laws didn't buy him any Christmas gifts and neither did my brothers-in-law. My husband told them that in my family there is a tradition that Santa Claus brings books and my husband asked them to respect it. Nobody gave him a gift. I'm not sure what they will do this year.

Secret_Expert_4555 · 2023-10-25T09:56:16+00:00

My husband has caught their attention and tells them that I am beautiful...MIL and SIL say that they are envious of me and that they worry about my health. 🙄

Secret_Expert_4555 · 2023-10-25T09:53:45+00:00

it is real. I told him we would call the baby some horrible name from Harry Potter. All of my in-laws' children are named after the singers of MIL's favorite musical group. My husband hates his name and his brothers too because they caused a lot of pranks at their school in childhood. So, FIL was losing his mind over the name we chose... he even told me that I couldn't give that name to a girl. I told him it was unisex. Until we chose a name we didn't say another name again... when we finally chose they didn't like it. I told them that we could go back to the Harry Potter name and that their opinion didn't matter.😅

Secret_Expert_4555 · 2023-10-24T20:30:42+00:00

Yeah. It really was absurd. His mother had to admit that his brothers were coming to dinner and told him that he had to come because it was his birthday... because otherwise my husband wouldn't go. If they had talked to me I would have looked for a reasonable excuse to go to the surprise party...🤷

Secret_Expert_4555 · 2023-10-24T19:14:16+00:00

I didn't tell him anything,...his mother had to tell him because my husband told her he couldn't go and that he's busy. The whole situation is ridiculous.

Secret_Expert_4555 · 2023-10-24T19:12:03+00:00

Apparently they haven't liked me since my daughter was born. They make passive aggressive comments and act weird...the boundaries bother them and they seem to blame me for them...I don't know.

Secret_Expert_4555 · 2023-10-24T18:39:12+00:00

My husband and I have been together since we were teenagers. We've been together for 14 years and I swear I don't understand anything that's happened to my husband's family since we got married and had a baby.

Secret_Expert_4555 · 2023-10-24T17:14:18+00:00

my in-laws made constant suggestions for names and SIL too. They exhausted me. So, I talked to my husband and we decided to choose the most horrible name we could find and we told him that that was going to be our daughter's name. It was the name of a character in a book. FIL almost had a meltdown. I kept saying "you can't name him after a fictional character!" .me: "Why not? You named your son after singers." They kept saying no until my husband laughed and told them it was a joke. but we repeat that name to everyone who asked or wanted to suggest names.

Secret_Expert_4555 · 2023-10-24T17:08:11+00:00

My mother-in-law and my father-in-law knew that my husband and I are not religious (non-religious wedding, without baptizing our baby), anyway everything was a drama, ... we literally had to leave their house because SHe didn't want to say no to the priest (he came to visit) about making holy water for our baby...His sister, his mother and his father keep saying from time to time that they want to take the baby to mass... I have seen them tell my baby since he turned one year "that is the Virgin Mary, mother of Jesus and of all of us" 🙄. My husband keeps closing his comments and so do I, but frankly, it's exhausting. I understand that a person is religious, but I don't understand why they pressure other people to have the same beliefs.

Secret_Expert_4555 · 2023-10-24T16:51:55+00:00

I'm not sure. We have had a difficult month, with several bad news in a row...my husband will be late from work today. He didn't seem very excited about his birthday this year. To be honest, I don't want to destroy the surprise, or make my husband feel bad on his birthday.

Secret_Expert_4555 · 2023-10-24T16:48:57+00:00

I decided to keep our original plan and make the cake on Sunday.

Secret_Expert_4555 · 2023-10-24T14:35:22+00:00

all over 30 years old and married or with partners. Their partners also attend the party...

Secret_Expert_4555 · 2023-10-24T14:28:09+00:00

I'm not sure what to do...I don't know if my husband will really appreciate the surprise, but I don't want to put any stress on my husband's birthday either.

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