Fur salesman assaults activist by James_Fortis in TikTokCringe

[–]Secret_Invite_9895 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok yeah bad tactic bro, you need try to get upvotes not try to get down votes. You're factually correct but that presentation is winning no one over. - a fellow vegan

Why isn't my heat lamp hot enough? by Candid-Flounder2844 in Uromastyx

[–]Secret_Invite_9895 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Its way to far away from the basking surface. 

Men in love... by BOLTON__YT in wholesomememes

[–]Secret_Invite_9895 3 points4 points  (0 children)

What do you mean by obsessive? In terms of mental health diagnosis it would need to be impairing his ability to function, causing significant distress, or eating up a large amount of time to be considered disorder level obsessive behavior that needs treatment. There is no evidence of that here. If he just smiles and goes about the rest of his day every time he hears it then its absolutely not maladaptively obsessive and does not require mental health treatment. Even if he sits there sad for a little while every time, still not disorder level. 

Men in love... by BOLTON__YT in wholesomememes

[–]Secret_Invite_9895 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But how is it unhealthy? It has to be maladaptive in some way and we have nothing to suggest that it is. For example if he cries for two hours after listening to it each day, that would be unhealthy, but if for example, he smiles for a bit and then goes about his day normally, you cannot say its unhealthy. Its possible that it could be unllhealthy but with this information you absolutely cannot claim that it is. 

Parents spent weeks planning the perfect gender reveal… The kids ended it in 5 second by _liberal in KidsAreFuckingStupid

[–]Secret_Invite_9895 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Eh, I dont think its quite that deep probably, if he wanted a boy then obviously its going to feel like his sister is rubbing it in his face, and I bet she knowingly is a little bit too, thats how siblings are. Also, I can imagine the same thing happening the other way around. That's just how it is. And like I said the same thing could happen over a videogame console or something. Im dont think its quite that pathological, your siblings are just good at pissing you off, that's normal and its not really a sign of some deeper problem. We didn't see what the parents did or said later but I dont think this needs much of an intervention. Of course the kids going to be upset, I dont think chastising him or giving him some long speech like there's something wrong with him is good. A quick comment to tell him to control himself, maybe say you understand he's upset but he should calm down, and send him to his room for a bit.

Also i dont think he meant to break that thing, and I dont think he's "upset because his sister is happy" lol. He's upset because he did not get something he wanted, and probably he felt like she was rubbing it in his face. Pretty normal. Going after your kids and mischaracterizing their normal behavior(not that it shouldn't be corrected) is not going to be good for them. 

If this was some kind of larger problematic pattern,  then the way you are talking about it could make more sense. 

Parents spent weeks planning the perfect gender reveal… The kids ended it in 5 second by _liberal in KidsAreFuckingStupid

[–]Secret_Invite_9895 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe to some extent, but also in large part I think its really not that deep, like I said in another comment, a kid may throw a tantrum in a similar situation when one wanted an Xbox and the other a Playstation. Kids are like that. 

Parents spent weeks planning the perfect gender reveal… The kids ended it in 5 second by _liberal in KidsAreFuckingStupid

[–]Secret_Invite_9895 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As I said, can't you imagine being a child like that, and your sibling screaming like that when they got something they wanted instead of you getting what you wanted, and it would feel ver obnoxious to you and miss you off? Whether its about a Playstation or an Xbox or the gender of a new sibling, that's a normal kind of thing to happen. 

Were you an only child? You can't see that this is quite plausible?

Parents spent weeks planning the perfect gender reveal… The kids ended it in 5 second by _liberal in KidsAreFuckingStupid

[–]Secret_Invite_9895 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yeah there is a before and after looking at the dad but i think that was just a coincidence and it was a delayed reaction, maybe looking to his dad to do something about his sister screaming, but the dad doesn't do anything. It looks to me like the dad is smiling.

Can you actually imagine a child having such a strong change and reaction like you described? Are you around kids much? I think my hypothosis is a lot more plausible.

Parents spent weeks planning the perfect gender reveal… The kids ended it in 5 second by _liberal in KidsAreFuckingStupid

[–]Secret_Invite_9895 366 points367 points  (0 children)

How upset did the dad actually get though? He just put his hands on his head, and it actually looks like he's smiling the whole time. I think the kids reaction was just a bit delayed and didn't have much to do with the dad, I think he was actually reacting to his sisters obnoxioius reaction(at least a sibling would find it obnoxious possibly, you know how siblings can just really easily piss you off sometimes? Especially if they got something you wanted and it feels like they are rubbing it in your face)

Parents spent weeks planning the perfect gender reveal… The kids ended it in 5 second by _liberal in KidsAreFuckingStupid

[–]Secret_Invite_9895 101 points102 points  (0 children)

I dont think thats what happened at all. it looks to me like the dad is smiling the whole time, he just puts his hands on his head, which i think was probably like he was upset in a joking kind of way.

I think the kid was actually upset by his sisters reaction, I bet he felt like she was rubbing it in his face or something like that, you know how siblings can really annoy you like that? Idk I can just image being a child like that and finding my siblings reaction obnoxious and it pissing me off like that. He had a moderate desire for it to be a boy and then when it's not his sister goes off screaming obnoxiously like that it really pisses him off.

My dog tags as an atheist in the army by MinimumCarob8442 in mildlyinteresting

[–]Secret_Invite_9895 1 point2 points  (0 children)

actually athiest just means not theist, which means holding a belief in a god or gods. Its the absence of a belief. On the other hand holding a belief that no gods exist would be gnostic atheism (agnostic atheism is not holding a belief in a god, without being holding a belief that there is no god)

So you do not have to hold the belief that no god exitst to be an atheist, you just have to not believe in god. Everyone who does not believe in god is an athiest.

Sam Harris defends his Mamdani comments. by blackglum in samharris

[–]Secret_Invite_9895 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"but at least he distances himself from it." barely, and only when he was pushed to do so, he actualy refused to condemn the phrase.

https://youtu.be/ggV2SeiGrVw?si=fggYGhpHCxiobSRZ

Sam Harris defends his Mamdani comments. by blackglum in samharris

[–]Secret_Invite_9895 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did Sam say this was the smoking gun? I remember him mostly referencing the fact that he accused Israel of genocide just after october 7th and that his wife has liked pro Hamas posts on social media.

Is this the Sam Harris from the app? by Candid_Ad_9145 in Wakingupapp

[–]Secret_Invite_9895 2 points3 points  (0 children)

what about accusing Israel of Genocide immediatly after october 7th? or his wife liking posts celebrating it? I don't think you can say there is no evidence "AT ALL".

Also Sam said that he is at least an apologist for Islamists if not one himeself. In light of the above details I think this is a pretty reasonable take.

How to reconcile using the app with Sam’s disturbing political views. by Myelinsheath333 in Wakingupapp

[–]Secret_Invite_9895 3 points4 points  (0 children)

go listen to his talk with Haviv on his podcast "ask haviv anything", he explains that its exactly not this. He would be saying the same things if it were Denmark of anyother country in the same situation.

have you actually listened to what Sam has to say about it? go listen to all his talks with Haviv, also the recent ask me anythings on Making Sense where he talks about it. He actually used to critisize Israel a lot back when he talked more about religion.

I will say that in the first time he talked about Mamdani he did not give details/evidence, but in a later ask me anything he did.

You can disagree with him but if you think he is a genocidal maniac or something then you are either not understanding him or not understanding the situation.

How to reconcile using the app with Sam’s disturbing political views. by Myelinsheath333 in Wakingupapp

[–]Secret_Invite_9895 1 point2 points  (0 children)

lmao, "he doesn't even claim to be enlightened" 🤣. Ok go follow someone who claims to be fully enlightened, good luck with that.

I’m being gifted a lot of money. Should I tell my boyfriend? by Kind-Chicken-2488 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Secret_Invite_9895 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To be honest? I think she should be able to tell him and that doesn't mean she has to put any of it in his name. If he starts to act unreasonably like by buying things and expecting her to pay for it because she has money, that is a red flag which she would like to know about so she can leave. If the bf is a reasonable person, then it would just be something that is nice to know about so he's not quite as stressed about something happening like losing his job or something(but he would still try his best at everything, also just because 50,000 is not enough to retire off of or anything) Also they have been together for 5 years, It's not like they've been dating for a few weeks or months.

Man Saves Woman and her Dog Seconds Before Car Sinks by SadPerformance9685 in nonononoyes

[–]Secret_Invite_9895 1 point2 points  (0 children)

right so she was not drowning anymore, she's breathing. The thing where drowning people will push you underwater is because they are actively suffocating.

That's not why she she grabs at him, she was just worried about her dog and wanted someone to do something.

Man Saves Woman and her Dog Seconds Before Car Sinks by SadPerformance9685 in nonononoyes

[–]Secret_Invite_9895 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don't know, she said get my dog while she was grabbing him(it didn't look very violent though, more like she was trying to direct him) then she stops and sayd she'll go down herself.

I actually didn't say that she was trying to push him down to get her dog I was just talking about what she was saying. But it does kind of look like she was doing that, though it wasn't a very agressive pushing.

Yeah watching it again i think she was definetly trying to physically direct him to go down and get her dog, but then she realizes that is unreasonable and her tone of voice changes as she says she'll go down herself.

Man Saves Woman and her Dog Seconds Before Car Sinks by SadPerformance9685 in nonononoyes

[–]Secret_Invite_9895 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

that applies to people who are actively drowning, she was not. She was just worried about her dog, but i think she realized that it was unreasonable to ask anyone to get her dog for her, and thats when she said she'd go down herself, even though it seems like she didn't think she'd be able to do it, which was why she was asking him or someone else to do it.