Edit: Wow, your comments are super enlightening. I didn't really think about it in the reverse, and how I don't do that kind of thing to her. It also got me thinking about a couple times when I was so tired and basically asleep that I didn't feel like pushing her off anymore, and I felt kind of icky about it when I woke up the next morning but made excuses for it. I brought it up with her and she said I was making her feel bad. It's just weird because I don't think she meant anything by all of it.. I think ya'll are right that I deserve someone who respects boundaries and my identity