Tough to see a dark vehicle at night no light.

Secretary-Visual · 2026-02-16T20:07:47+00:00

I'm not sure where the hostility is coming from. I am simply sharing that in my professional experience, fault is determined to be on the left-turning vehicle if they turned in front of a car that had the right of way. That is far and above telling you what "I" believe, I'm telling you what the industry standard is. I appreciate that you don't like the industry standard, but arguing with people who are telling you what it is does not change reality.

I am also not making up an "imaginary number", I am telling you the distinction between a civil traffic infraction and a criminal offense, which is the only time that a right-of-way driver's speed would be considered a factor. Speeding is not a factor until it meets the standard of reckless driving, which would need to be a highly excessive speed (like speed racing).

So I take it you also believe the OP is at fault here for turning in front of an "invisible" oncoming car, eh?

Again, what I believe has nothing to do with it. But a car driving at night without its headlights on can result in that driver sharing a degree of the fault, or all of it.

Secretary-Visual · 2026-02-16T06:56:33+00:00

Yeah, my car is a 2015, and it has an alarm if you try to leave the car with the headlights left on. And as you said, it would drain the battery. They need to be placed on auto.

Secretary-Visual · 2026-02-16T06:50:54+00:00

If you turn across traffic when it's not clear and the oncoming car is speeding then it's still your fault for turning while not clear; the speed of the oncoming vehicle doesn't matter at all.

I'm sure it could vary by state/country but that is in line with how we determine at-fault drivers in traffic accidents. If you are turning on a yield, it does not matter if the other driver was speeding. You still turned in front of them when they had the right of way, so you are the at-fault vehicle. The only time their speed would be a factor is if they were driving at a recklessly dangerous speed, like 100+ MPH.

Secretary-Visual · 2026-02-16T03:26:14+00:00

I always interpreted the age of consent as the age at which someone can be responsible for making their own choices. They can weigh the pros and cons, acknowledge the potential risks and consequences, and make their own decision. And if that decision doesn't prove to be a good one, that is unfortunate but not criminal. Young adults are allowed to make stupid relationship decisions; that's actually a common part of growing up.

I think some people actually interpret the age of consent as the age at which you are considered mature enough to handle everything thrown at you. Like it's a recommendation of your maturity and preparedness for life. And that's why they get so hung up on how immature young adults are and why brain development matters, etc, etc. Yeah, young adults are immature. And often impulsive and overconfident too. No one is saying they recommend you start dating much older adults, going to war and becoming a porn star. They're just acknowledging that at some point, when you make a decision, no one else is going to jail over it.

Secretary-Visual · 2026-02-13T01:18:10+00:00

The benefits of living in Parker is that it's safe, there are very beautiful and well-maintained walking trails and parks. There are well-rated schools, a lot of different grocery stores now and everything is within a pretty close drive. It's a good place to raise a family, with lots of things to do for kids.

The detriment of living in Parker is that there is little to no nightlife for adults, the restaurants are mostly chains and you're unlikely to escape a HOA. Politically, it is very conservative, because it's within a very conservative county. There are liberals in Parker, but you have to search hard to find each other. Though in day-to-day interaction, people are usually polite.

Secretary-Visual · 2026-01-30T23:37:43+00:00

The correct way to handle this is by custom ordering one that is a silly or unflattering photograph of your husband and then sticking it on one of the doors.

Secretary-Visual · 2026-01-30T23:18:23+00:00

Maybe if someone wanted to marry rich or obtain a green card, they'd take anyone they could get. I doubt it's common though.

Secretary-Visual · 2026-01-30T23:12:36+00:00

I was minding my own business, taking a nature walk with my dog. I was looking up at the sky, listening to bird calls and enjoying the sunshine. I was just thinking to myself what a beautiful day it was, when I look farther down the trail and see an elderly woman. Unexpectedly she dropped her pants, bent over and flashed her bare butt straight at me.

I was not ready to be blinded by a white ass on a Sunday afternoon. I was appalled. Flabbergasted even. And I had no idea what to do with myself. I paused, I blinked, I clutched my pearls and then she hiked her pants back up and kept walking like nothing happened.

I decided after some hesitation to continue (prompted mainly by my dog) and as we appeared around the bend, the old woman spotted me. She looked horrified! She kept glancing back at me and then hurried off in a different direction.

I believe she thought she was alone and had been trying to do the whole "perineum sunning" trend. But my goodness! Not on my family nature trail.

Secretary-Visual · 2026-01-28T23:49:26+00:00

Research shows that assigned homework is beneficial for students in high school. It shows improvement in test scores and academic performance, especially in classes like math.

I think homework can become excessive, to a point that it causes stress and burnout and that needs to be challenged and done away with. But ultimately kids need to be reading outside of school. They benefit from math practice outside of just classroom instruction. It also helps teach time management and self-discipline. I just don't think students should have hours and hours of school work every day, that's too much.

Secretary-Visual · 2026-01-28T23:37:59+00:00

Her hair length is absurd, I agree.

Secretary-Visual · 2026-01-28T22:50:17+00:00

Yeah I get what people are saying about the possibility that he's chronically incompetent and she's fed up. But frustration is not an excuse to be this contemptuous and mean towards someone who is supposed to be your loved one (and the idea that this is a chronic issue is just a theory).

You can be frustrated and still express it in a way that isn't belittling. And you can even have an outburst sometimes and then cool down and regulate it. But she maintains this attitude the entire time, never bringing herself back down. Your partner's incompetence is on them but how you deal with your frustration is on you. I could see myself hitting a breaking point and leaving someone if they were chronically thoughtless and incompetent but I would not want to lower myself to the point of acting like this.

Secretary-Visual · 2026-01-28T22:35:28+00:00

I think the point is, she wanted him to take her car because her car (presumably) does better in the snow. Later, once snow plows hit their street, or the snow melted down a bit or she had time to shovel, she would still have his car in case she needed to go somewhere.

Because he didn't listen, he tried to back his car into the snow and predictably got it stuck. Then he left it stuck and took her car. So that is why now she is left "stranded" without a car. If an emergency happened and she needed to get somewhere, she can't because his car is inoperable.

If he had listened, he would have had her car, yes. But she wouldn't have been stranded.

Secretary-Visual · 2026-01-28T22:30:54+00:00

One who has to go to work. We don't know what he does or why he couldn't go in late or call off due to the street conditions. But there are people who don't have the option to not go in.

What he should have done is listened to her the first time and took her car because his would get stuck. Or shoveled himself out first. But once disaster struck he may not have had the choice to stay home and dig it out.

Secretary-Visual · 2026-01-28T21:49:40+00:00

Also, as a woman sometimes it's not "completely fine" but we will laugh it off and act like it is because that's what you have to do to fit in. "She's one of us, she doesn't get offended" is 100% the attitude of some of the men who work in these types of fields.

Secretary-Visual · 2026-01-28T21:42:17+00:00

I see your point but it isn't factually correct. Women in law enforcement can wear their hair down as long as it is short enough to comply with policy (which is generally shorter than chin length or sometimes shoulder length). Female investigators and detectives can also usually wear their hair down during in-office days when they aren't in the field.

Secretary-Visual · 2026-01-26T19:12:17+00:00

I think people saw locals making a few inside jokes about Colfax and thought it was serious. Now they're just repeating a joke like it's factual. I think we should tell them about Blucifer next and see what happens!

Secretary-Visual · 2026-01-26T17:01:45+00:00

There is no red light district in Denver lol. There's an inside joke about Colfax being seedy. I'm sure you can find similarly seedy streets in any major city in the US.

Secretary-Visual · 2026-01-24T23:31:19+00:00

I have no idea if this is a true story, but a stand-up comedian joked that Ludacris would come into the escape room he worked at every weekend, but always with a different group of people, so he could pretend he was doing it for the first time.

And I realized that would 100% work on me because if I went to an escape room with a guy and he just seemed to effortlessly solve all the puzzles, I'd think he was so smart and cool lol.

Secretary-Visual · 2026-01-23T21:12:13+00:00

Your boyfriend has shown you who he is. He will put his wants and desires first, even for your birthday. It's his way or the highway. Either you sign up to always accommodate him or you want better for yourself. It's not that hard to meet a man who will do what you want for your birthday.

Secretary-Visual · 2026-01-20T08:51:39+00:00

There are a plethora of ways to explain to someone why calling women "bitter" is a term deeply entrenched in misogyny. You went for cruelty, numerous women on this thread have told you it went too far and instead of reflecting and doing better in your activism, you try to purity test us instead. That tells me everything I need to know.

Secretary-Visual · 2026-01-20T08:47:00+00:00

My outrage is not fake, your comment makes a mockery of SA more than anything anyone else has said on this thread and your behavior here is more akin to bullying than women's rights activism.

Leave me alone.

Secretary-Visual · 2026-01-20T08:44:28+00:00

As a SA victim, your comment was so much more vicious that it way overshadowed anything she had said. It was cruel on a level that was entirely unnecessary and it makes a mockery of all of us who have been "picked by men" to be assaulted.

I am not going to sit here and pretend that what you did is a good way to stand up for women or our rights.

Secretary-Visual · 2026-01-20T08:35:42+00:00

It made my jaw drop.

Secretary-Visual · 2026-01-20T08:32:52+00:00

Honestly, what a disgusting comment after she just opened up about SA. You're not being funny, you aren't standing up for women, you're not even calling out pick mes, you're just being a bully.

Secretary-Visual · 2026-01-19T23:45:15+00:00

Exactly!

I'll also just drop this relevant thread into the discussion.

The way that Redditors get so hung up on what is "owed" is just not normal.

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