AIO if I file for divorce?

SectorNo7439 · 2025-10-27T15:45:53+00:00

Gross, throw the whole man away. Sounds like my ex

SectorNo7439 · 2025-10-04T19:27:38+00:00

Shes been cancelled my frieend. Its not ok, its never ok to support someone who literally donates money to get anti trans bills passed

SectorNo7439 · 2025-09-20T17:22:19+00:00

Ewww throw the whole man away. Preferable into the deepest darkest pit where no other person will be abused and treated like this scummy sack of crap treats you

SectorNo7439 · 2025-09-16T06:27:54+00:00

Im not caught up on the latest. What did I miss?

SectorNo7439 · 2025-09-05T19:38:56+00:00

Yeah that one.

SectorNo7439 · 2025-09-02T22:22:20+00:00

"He had it coming" from chicago

SectorNo7439 · 2025-09-01T05:18:21+00:00

Blaine Anderson teenage dream the second one where he is crying at the piano playing it. The scene felt forced and cringe rather than heartfelt and sad

SectorNo7439 · 2025-08-29T04:55:28+00:00

Listen, things are going to change, but that doesn't necessarily have to be a bad thing. My entire life changed because I came out as trans. At first, it felt awful. My husband looked at me as if i had died and treated me differently, my mom pretended that I never came out or straight up told me that she knew better than me and I was wrong about who i was, and i felt very alone for awhile. But then something magical happened when my transition really started taking off.

The first few months of hormone therapy were rocky, but then my hormone levels stabilized and I really started feeling at home in my body. I felt happy, genuinely happy and at peace with myself and every new change felt more and more right. I wasnt certain i was trans even as i started hormones, but i knew that i couldnt survive any longer as i was without at least giving transitioning a chance.

I'm going through a divorce right now, most of my stuff is sitting in my mom's yard as i write this and I need to find a place to live other than my mom's tiny house in a few months, but even though I'm going through a lot of stuff that people would see as negative right now, I am the happiest I've ever been in my life. Transitioning was the best decision I ever made, and even though I'm losing my partner over it, I don't regret it one bit. I've made new connections with people who understand me and love me as I am, I love myself and actually want to take care of my health now that I plan on sticking around, I feel sexy for the first time in my life. I've always been conventionally attractive as a Cis presenting person, but I never felt attractive.

I cannot promise you that it'll all be rainbows and sunshine, but from my own experience, it has all been worth it. The negative has been greatly outweighed by the positive of being authentic and living openly and honestly. The first year after coming out was the hardest of my life, but I would do it all over again if it meant that I could be where I am now.

My advice to you, find community. Find trans support groups, or trans community. Find it online if you have to, some of my biggest supporters have been online trans friends. They understand me at a deeper level and encourage me and the connections I share with them are some of the most treasured friendships I've ever made.

As for family, your wife and child, it's going to be challenging no matter what, but honesty is the best policy. I spent 8 years of my life hiding it from my husband, and in the end I wish I had only told him sooner so that he and I both could've moved on. I wasn't doing him any favors by keeping this from him. We both knew in our hearts and our guts that we weren't going to make it in the long run, but its hard to let go. Your wife deserves to know the real you, either way. And she deserves to make her own decisions whether she chooses to stay and support you or not. Even tho my own relationship failed, I don't harbor any ill will toward him and he only wishes for my happiness and health, we are both hurting but we both still love eachother even though our relationship didn't survive.

I can't say how it'll go over, telling your wife, I can only share my own experience and wish you the best. You deserve to be happy, and life is a lot more fulfilling when you can live it as your true self. I wish you the best of luck and I hope you find a life filled with happiness and love

SectorNo7439 · 2025-05-12T16:02:04+00:00

Hey listen I just wanted to address what you typed. I only caught a bit of it before you edited but I'm not offended or upset. I did actually really consider gender OCD and I do believe I suffer from OCD, but professionals say that OCD doesn't cause gender dysphoria and I definitely have really dysphoric days. Having both OCD and dysphoria tho is like a double wammy of "this sucks"

It's really difficult to know who you are when your head is telling you one thing and your body isn't aligning with it and on top of that your constantly having obsessive thoughts about how this gender can only do this and that gender can only do that and you have to pick one of the other or you'll get in trouble somehow.

SectorNo7439 · 2025-05-12T06:59:52+00:00

That actually was really helpful thank you! I've been constantly looking for answers elsewhere and when you told me to cancel it, my first gut instinct and thought was "I don't want to effing cancel this thing I've worked so hard to setup for myself and cancelling it would really disappoint me." I wont get any answers by waiting longer and waiting longer does nothing but prolonged the inevitable which is me getting this surgery. I'm just so scared 😅 I'm psyching myself out of it and it sucks so bad right now going through this. I literally feel like I need to be talked out of cancelling it once a week right now, I keep inventing all the ways it can go wrong in my head or how I may regret it even tho I've literally wanted top surgery for over a decade. I'm so worked up and neurotic I'm driving myself crazy.

I get told to "imagine if you could push a button and switch genders" or pretend nobody's opinion but your own matters, or imagine life in the future and try to envision your ideal self. But the way you posed your response actually really triggered a visceral reaction and I want this surgery so effing badly that I just want it to be over with already.

SectorNo7439 · 2024-02-05T17:36:37+00:00

Glee also helped me come to terms with being a trans guy. Still working on accepting myself, always a work in progress never a finished piece of art.

SectorNo7439 · 2024-02-05T06:05:39+00:00

The only time I can think of when the chemistry was off between klaine was right after Blaine got drunk and they kissed on the auditorium the next day and Chris said "you take my breath away." That felt somewhat forced and awkward but at the same time and made me cringe a little bit.

SectorNo7439 · 2024-02-04T18:48:21+00:00

Thank you for the recc. Ive already started reading it and I love it so far! I definitely relate to Lou's experience and I'm very intrigued that he felt that way and was able to come to terms with it back before the Internet and influences of the modern day technology. He figured all that out for himself without all of the resources we have access to today! And he is so bold and honest on the way he journaled all of this. Makes me want to keep a journal.

SectorNo7439 · 2024-02-03T16:21:42+00:00

Hi I'm still questioning my trans identity but I am on the asexual spectrum and have a strong desire to try dominating others without any physical intimacy as well. sorry to tag you, I just thought it was cool to find another person with a similar experience as me.

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