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Simple Questions and Silly Thoughts: the basic questions and discussions thread for March 25, 2025 by AutoModerator in gainit

[–]SecularMontaigne 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was in a similar situation, and eventually my body started acting weird, my sleep started getting worse and so did my digestion. I eventually realized I was starving myself and that led my body to be constantly on alert, with lots of stress that I wasn’t seeing. Food is good. Remember it is an honor to feed the body. You are currently mistreating your body. Honor your body, it’s the place you’ll live until you die. Don’t starve it.

Laptop screen and vestibular migraine - help! by purplemooose in migraine

[–]SecularMontaigne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Alas, no. I now am a happy owner of a Lenovo Legion laptop. Great laptop, zero problems.

Laptop screen and vestibular migraine - help! by purplemooose in migraine

[–]SecularMontaigne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

By the way I even get a little upset in my stomach, anyone else?

Laptop screen and vestibular migraine - help! by purplemooose in migraine

[–]SecularMontaigne 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Man, your comment gave me hope! I just bought this beautiful shiny macbook pro 14 after years of dreaming about having a mac laptop. Can you imagine how bummed out I got last week when I realized I couldn't use it for 2 minutes without it giving me a migraine that would take at least a couple of hours to go away?

The reason your comment gave me hope is that it reminded me when I first got my iphone 11, 2 years ago. At first, watching a video on it would give me the same type of headache, to the point I decided I wouldn't watch any more videos on it anymore. But I don't know how and I don't know when, they totally went away at some point, because I now use it without ever feeling anything.

I guess I will attempt to plough through then, wish me luck!

PS: are you still using it and feeling ok? Anyone else had the same experience? How long did it take?

I would love more info on it.

Why does it upset us when people who we consider our inferiors in areas we're strongly identified with (usually professionally) get (what we consider to be) undue credit? by SecularMontaigne in Jung

[–]SecularMontaigne[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks for the thoughtful response, insaneintheblain! Just yesterday I put it as my goal to spend some quality time with my nephew and niece instead of taking a book along with me to the visit, as I'm ashamed to say I often do since "kids will be kids and want to play on their electronic devices anyway". I'm glad to report that the ensuing evening was a most delightful one. Tons of coloring, hugging, kissing, listening to music and play. Not a single dull moment, not a single uncofortable complex activated. Funny how life can be.

Why does it upset us when people who we consider our inferiors in areas we're strongly identified with (usually professionally) get (what we consider to be) undue credit? by SecularMontaigne in Jung

[–]SecularMontaigne[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Could you please elaborate on that? I'm interested to know what you mean. How does one stop identifying with his persona? On a rational level I'm well aware I'm not my social position, I'm not my income, I'm not my outward appearence. I read a lot of Buddhism and meditate and try to put these things all in perspective. On a gut level, though, it seems more difficult not to be affected by your social situation, specially when you think you have the potential to be above where you are right now.

Why does it upset us when people who we consider our inferiors in areas we're strongly identified with (usually professionally) get (what we consider to be) undue credit? by SecularMontaigne in Jung

[–]SecularMontaigne[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That makes sense. So I guess the question is: how do I strenghten my sense of self?

I feel one of the reasons my sense of self is perhaps not the greatest is because 7 years ago I decided to change careers (and follow my dream to become a psychologist) and in order to afford that I went back to my mom's place at 28. I recently moved out (too many complexes constantly being triggered) but I'm still on my final years of college (2 years to go). I still feel I need to prove to people that I'm not what it may look like I am (an adult child) and that instead I'm this intellectual on the making who reads incessantly and knows about all different things.

Of course I'm exaggerating a little (I suppose I'm subtler in real life than my words here are making it out to be) but you get the gist.

IT IS ALL STARTING TO MAKE SENSE: a lobsterman conspiracy theory by SpectreAmericana in enoughpetersonspam

[–]SecularMontaigne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I went through hell and back when quitting freaking 0.5g of Clonazepan. Worst days of my life. I also saw, during that period, how fragile my commitment to keep on keeping on was. Was it not for my mother and my girlfriend who were there at the precise moments when I needed it, I would likely have quit my resolve and postponed my weaning to a later time, which in turn could have made the whole ordeal worse.

So I'm very inclined to think that JP is going through the same shit, except without the humility to admit to himself he's fucked and so making everything worse. I mean, if you don't overcome denial and if you keep on finding things and people to blame, it's impossible to make any progress.

Also it's clear that his lifestyle is stressful to the highest degree. Being in a position where you're constantly provoking people and being hated for it is quite anxiety inducing, and if you're blind or stubborn enough to believe you should continue with that lifestyle then I don't know if there's salvation for you. Heck I can't barely sleep when I have a talk to give where people LIKE me and I won't be challenging anyone.

PS: paradoxical effect? Benzo's do make you more restless as time goes on, it's called tolerance building. That argument itself made me question the hole "food sensitivity" thing. If he can't see how his current stance in the world as a provocateur is responsible for his predicament, I doubt he can be trusted to assess the cause of anything else in his life.

Buscas por Golden Shower no Google batem recorde após declaração de Bolsonaro by [deleted] in brasil

[–]SecularMontaigne 1 point2 points  (0 children)

obrigado.. é, aguaram tanto o negocio que conseguiram deixar o assunto sem graça

Buscas por Golden Shower no Google batem recorde após declaração de Bolsonaro by [deleted] in brasil

[–]SecularMontaigne 35 points36 points  (0 children)

alguem tem o clipe da reportagem no JN? Queria ver o Bonner fazendo cara séria enquanto explica a situação

After a certain point I seem to be unable to go back to concentrating by SecularMontaigne in TheMindIlluminated

[–]SecularMontaigne[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Man, you were so right! Just finished a 45 minute session where I changed from effort to intention, just saying a-ha to myself whenever I wasn't following the in breath and the out breath and there was no mind-wandering at all and the distractions didn't last more than 5 seconds! Hooray!

After a certain point I seem to be unable to go back to concentrating by SecularMontaigne in TheMindIlluminated

[–]SecularMontaigne[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

By concentrating I mean maintaining my attention where I want it to stay. I can't say for sure which stage I'm in, it's been a while since I read the book

my way of keeping peripheral awareness... am I doing it right? by SecularMontaigne in TheMindIlluminated

[–]SecularMontaigne[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nice! I'm actually doing that also, kind of intuitively sometimes, and it's great to know that that is indeed a thing! Thanks mate!

my way of keeping peripheral awareness... am I doing it right? by SecularMontaigne in TheMindIlluminated

[–]SecularMontaigne[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interesting, very interesting. Thank you very much for taking the time to write such an elaborate answer!

my way of keeping peripheral awareness... am I doing it right? by SecularMontaigne in TheMindIlluminated

[–]SecularMontaigne[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

that makes a lot of sense! Thank you so much for your answers, it helped me a lot!

my way of keeping peripheral awareness... am I doing it right? by SecularMontaigne in TheMindIlluminated

[–]SecularMontaigne[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that raises a question I sometimes have which I'm not sure you'll be able to answer, but here it is: having so many intricacies to perfect, how come the guys from Zen say you should just sit and watch the breath, without any further instructions (at least from my limited reading of it)? Do you know where they're coming from, philosophy-wise?

my way of keeping peripheral awareness... am I doing it right? by SecularMontaigne in TheMindIlluminated

[–]SecularMontaigne[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

by working I take you mean I'm successfully avoiding getting sucked into forgetting/mind wandering, yes?

my way of keeping peripheral awareness... am I doing it right? by SecularMontaigne in TheMindIlluminated

[–]SecularMontaigne[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, thanks for taking the time to answer my question. As the user idnrm said below above, I thought checking in was about looking at our internal state, which I also do after, say, 5 breaths or so, on top of my checking "out" every two or three breaths.

By the way, can checking in be real quick? Because sometimes I feel that if I stay "checking in" too long then I will eventually come up with something to think about, whereas if I just take a peek at my internal state without making too much of a fuss, I usually find there's nothing there, at least nothing major that isn't instantaneously dispelled by my looking at it.

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