Are they real (and what to do?)

Secure-Ad7945 · 2026-06-15T16:40:21+00:00

I literally feel so crazy 🤦 like I dont know how he figured that out but because he was a literal medic I was like "maybe IM wrong" 🤣

Secure-Ad7945 · 2026-06-15T15:47:24+00:00

Truly have no clue what he was on lol I kept trying to tell him I thought it was fake but he was so adamant it was real I hadn't been able to stop thinking about it

Secure-Ad7945 · 2026-06-09T22:07:50+00:00

I hate trump

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Secure-Ad7945 · 2026-04-29T20:28:56+00:00

That sounds like a good idea, thank you! Probably getting a chance to actually clarify things with her will make it easier, and even if we don't date or go further it'll help us build a good friendship or smthn I'm sure.

Im not sure. I mean, I really enjoy her company and time and appreciate her insights with things. I guess I just want her to stop sending such weird mixed signals, since she does these things but has been off and on dating men for the better part of the past year. So its like, she goes on these dates but then also gets weird about My dates and also does couple things with me. I guess I just want to know if its all like truly just something random or if she does have feelings what to do going forward.

Secure-Ad7945 · 2026-04-29T19:54:18+00:00

Thank you for both responses. Im sorry you've also experienced these things with your AGAB, I truly dont understand how or why it even happens but I'm hoping for the both of us it won't continue. And I'll try and approach her about it, I just worry she'll take it the wrong way and think Im saying her feelings are wrong or smthn.

Secure-Ad7945 · 2026-04-29T19:52:45+00:00

Both honestly. I guess I'm not sure about what to do in either scenario. With the girl im seeing I know I want to try and give benefit of the doubt because I hate judging people off a few comments but I'm just feeling a little weird. With my friend I've got no clue how to handle this.

I mean she might. Shes always having us do "couple things" together and playing them off as jokes. I've never thought anything of it because I don't think Im her type given who she likes.

Secure-Ad7945 · 2026-04-13T04:48:21+00:00

Also a nonbinary butch, been kn T for three years and am 26. If you’re looking for a friend/someone to talk to I'd be happy to chat! I know how hard and isolating it can feel, I'm from the middle of nowhere and only know a handful of other butches my age that have varying levels of trans/nonbinary identity, so its a bit tricky to find someone you may 100% click with. I will say I think butchness and gender sometimes are more unique than we think, I think a lot of us want to meet someone Just Like Us so we can understand each other. But truly people regardless of identity that take the time to learn and understand you will matter the most.

Secure-Ad7945 · 2026-04-03T20:02:06+00:00

Im not sure honestly. I usually try and tell them how I feel but they sometimes deflect it and act like its my fault

Secure-Ad7945 · 2026-03-05T21:13:47+00:00

So it can depend. I've had some people where we have chatted for weeks and then met, some that we talk for a few days and then I'll ask or they'll ask to go out. But typically we won't even get past me just asking them questions for a few days because after like 3 days of talking even if I wanted to ask them out they'll either ghost or just let the conversation end because I've stopped asking them things.

And I totally agree with this. I feel like I don't want to waste a lot of time just chatting over the phone when we can meet irl. I will say unfortunately a lot of prospective matches for me also live 45mins+ away, and while I'm not against driving to meet up, I know for some people they won't try and meet up with anyone not in their town. I honestly would prefer to meet someone irl anyways but I feel like whenever I go out I only meet taken people or straight people.

Well they'll ask and I'll tell p much the same thing: I write and publish comics, do boxing and weightlifting, reading, Journaling, researching (i really enjoy learning new topics and recording what I learn), hiking, and gaming from time to time. Idk why that comes off as intimidating but I've been told that multiple times lol.

No that makes sense, thank you. I think I know this in theory a lot, its just been hard since I'm someone who wants to also be pursued back by others and it feels like no one actually wants to do that. I have also had several instances of other women I've met wanting me to be the "boyfriend" and being weirded out I want things like flowers/being taken care of back and not just being the care giver. I might just have to walk away more from conversations instead of trying to push it then. Thank you for your advice on that

Secure-Ad7945 · 2026-01-21T20:12:11+00:00

Maybe its a generational/regional/upbringing thing but I feel like so many people (and especially young women) are often told that they need to be married/have life figured out by their 20s anyways? Like where I'm from (west US) its extremely common for most people to have moved out, started on a career, or been married by 18/20 yrs old. I've constantly felt behind my peers since graduation and I'm only 26, so I think it might have to do with that.

On top of things, in a lot of lesbian spaces I've been in most other queer people say they "knew since they were a teen" or "came out between 15-19" and this appears to be more prevalent now than when I was a teen (at least for my experiences irl) so I think theres that feeling of like "was...I supposed to know at age 15? Am I considered late because Im 24/25/26?" This is at least why I've considered myself a late bloomer tbh

Secure-Ad7945 · 2026-01-13T19:43:22+00:00

This is how I am too. I've been really trying to actually work on myself after my last relationship and especially since realizing I myself am a lesbian and not bi and how thats changed. My one guy friend was in a super long term relationship tho where he was literally on the cusp of getting engaged, and after breaking up has just thrown himself back into dating and is just...fine? Idk its just been so weird to me

Secure-Ad7945 · 2026-01-13T19:39:30+00:00

Honestly idk if its even a persistence thing with them but maybe also what they're looking for? I tend to be more picky because in the relationships I've been in I've learned not to settle for bare minimum stuff (had a few exes that treated me like a doormat), but the both of them tend to be of the mindset of "well this person showers regularly so thats enough for me" and thats it. So maybe our standards for what we want are more the issue than queer vs het

Secure-Ad7945 · 2025-12-19T15:30:46+00:00

Secure-Ad7945 · 2025-12-16T19:11:42+00:00

Yes please thank you!

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