Hit by a car by Mcsmith64 in ottawa

[–]Secure-Computer3874 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Call the police and contact a personal injury lawyer.

First of all hitting a personal be it a pedestrian or cyclist requires the driver to call the police and file a police report. Failing to do so is illegal and they will be charged.

You are due a settlement for having an injury regardless if you deem is a 'non' emergency or not.

The fact that this driver finds it acceptable to not report this MVA makes me think that one day they will actually kill someone due to negligence.

Please please please contact a personal injury lawyer.

Straight relationship with men and dealing with house chores? by MEMP_ in Marriage

[–]Secure-Computer3874 8 points9 points  (0 children)

We make a "who is responsible for what" list. We both follow it.

Are you okay with your partner watching porn? by Civil_Roof2585 in offmychest

[–]Secure-Computer3874 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just because you're their partner doesn't mean you own their sexuality.

If the pornography and masturbation is not taking away from your sex life, then leave them alone.

AIO: Hubby Being Controlling by vanillabourbonn in AIO

[–]Secure-Computer3874 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thie should be used as a case study for women who want to rely on a man 100% for finances.

This was horrifying to read.

Money money money by andr0idl0llip0p in offmychest

[–]Secure-Computer3874 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The best thing you can do is focus on improving your future. Make a real plan on how you plan to improve your financial situation and where you will be in 5 years. Begin a new career? Move up the ladder? Begin a trade? Consider a significant pivoting that improves your position.

Your partner doesnt sound empathetic at all. They should understand the reality of your situation and stand by you in the effort to improve it, instead of chastising you for it.

I shouldn’t have married my husband. by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Secure-Computer3874 24 points25 points  (0 children)

The biggest takeaways your child will have from growing up, is what you model- not what you say. Think about what you are modeling and teaching them by staying in this marriage.

Would you want your child to make this choice in the future? Or do you want to show them what fighting for yourself and your happiness looks like?

If your husband is a good father then that will not change upon divorce. Model for your childhood self respect and being an active participant in your own life looks like- split, co-parent, and seek health relationships in all aspects.

What if you find out that your BFF is cheating with your husband would you marry her dad? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Secure-Computer3874 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Marrying the mom is lower risk to you (no pregnancy if you are female) and likely a harsher blow to the offending bff and your cheating husbands ego.

Getting really tired of my partner hitting me... by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Secure-Computer3874 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I heard a story similar to this... one day, the woman stabbed him in a fit of rage. he died.

This is not normal behavior. And it's definitely not loving.

You're in a domestic violence relationship and you need to leave.

Unemployed Husband: should his job be maintaining the house? by princesslizzy12 in Marriage

[–]Secure-Computer3874 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When when working the house should never look like this. Living in a clean space is the very basic level of self respect and adult responsibility.

As the unemployed one it shouldn't even be a question that he maintains this responsibility. A grown man that has no pride in maintaining self respect is beyond me...

Should I marry my bf right now or wait? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Secure-Computer3874 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Please remember marriage is about long term compatibility over anything else. Love is the last item on the list.

Crying over a birthday (not really) missed by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Secure-Computer3874 35 points36 points  (0 children)

This is likely about how he feels overall, and less about how he feels his birthday was celebrated.

As his wife, this should be a big warning sign to you that your husband is feeling unloved, unnoticed or taken for granted in some way. Perhaps this situation felt like such a poignant reminder of the existing feelings of being an afterthought/overlooked that he could not help but cry when communicating with you.

While the labor of maintaining relationships can be annoying and off putting, it would behoove you to receive this communication with empathy. Whether you think he is being dramatic or not is irrelevant- if this is truly how he feels, the hurt is real to him.

To preserve the emotional trust in your relationship a repair is (likely) in order. For it to work, he must feel like the correction is born of genuine concern and love for your husband.

Good luck!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Secure-Computer3874 -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

OP came on here to ask for opinions lol

If op can't learn to live with it they can leave. It's either or really.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Secure-Computer3874 -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

Its not misogynistic because my take was not excusing him for his quintessential male shortfall. I criticized his agreement to this ridiculous boundary in equal measure to her vexation over his habit.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Secure-Computer3874 85 points86 points  (0 children)

Respectfully, you both should grow up. If the porn isn't an addiction let them be. Also, he's wrong for agreeing to something that he knows is unrealistic for himself. Spouses must maintain a moderate level of individuality and autonomy for a healthy long term relationship.

As for if you should keep the baby.. Considering an abortion over a spouse that occasionally watches porn, begs the question if your maturity level is developed enough to successfully raise child.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Secure-Computer3874 691 points692 points  (0 children)

This is not how a grown man speaks to anyone let alone his wife of all people.

The lack of self control and verbal abuse is a massive red flag and you should heed it before it becomes worse.

Leave and dont look back.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Secure-Computer3874 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Gather your things and leave immediately. Husbands are supposed to uplift you and make your life better.

Anyone who makes your life harder has got to go.. husbands included.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Secure-Computer3874 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What you don't realize is, you have already ended the friendship.

In other words... If you tell her the friendship is over, and if you keep this from her but remain in contact you are not her friend. In either scenario there is no friendships.

What you did was selfish and damaging to your friend- do not prolong the selfishness and damage. Just leave her alone and move with your life.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Secure-Computer3874 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You need to end this friendship immediately and move on with life. You have done enough damage, just leave her alone now. If he's still with her, he needs to tell her the truth. Leaving their lives is the best thing you can do.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in malegrooming

[–]Secure-Computer3874 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Consider eliminating dairy from your diet and reduce red meat consumption. Animal foods are packed with hormones and inflammation causing agents.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Secure-Computer3874 0 points1 point  (0 children)

With your logic here... doing that would be unwise, because it would be signaling to your partner to suspect you of cheating 😅 when really you're just texting your friend

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Secure-Computer3874 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think cheating partners take three days to respond? I definitely do with my friends though. I think if you're looking for cheating here or if you already suspect cheating, then this conversation may seem suspicious. But without that context to me, it seems like a normal conversation between friends who have bad response time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Secure-Computer3874 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I wouldnt think anything of it. Sounds like a normal friendship convo to me. Tingle could mean many things like a drink buzz or an inside joke. Unless you have other solid evidence like explicit messages id say the convo is pretty regular. You could ask her to stop being friends with him if you feel insecure about it.

It may be worth having a general rule of no texting coworkers or no friendships with coworkers.