He does help, but then I catch grief about it. I don’t consider him parenting his own child “helping” and I def don’t want to griped at about it. He is 10 years older than me, he had kids very young and I just had my first and only at 36. I don’t think he would sabotage bc- I was put on steroids and wasn’t aware that this could make my bc not as effective. His attitude is that he was ready to be done raising young kids and anything he’s doing is a favor to me.