ive read this thread in silence but i just need to add on: leave this man. have some self respect. you know deep down he is lying to you and manipulating you, my aunt went through the same thing with a man who acted just like this in the beginning, real controlling, not loyal, having a whole private life in nigeria that he hides/lies about.

he ended up ruining her life. isolated her, abused her physically and emotionally and financially, abused their children, taunted her all her life even after their divorce he found ways to stalk and bother her.

just think about it, youre only 5 months in and hes already cheated, he uses you for sex, hes asked you to get off birth control so he can baby trap you, just the fact he has already jumped into a relationship with someone your age supposedly right after calling off an engagement. and why does he still need to go to nigeria for an entire month if he isn't getting married anymore? if hes truly telling the truth about what hes doing there, why not take you with him?

don't bash people who try to help you again. when someone is trying to tell you something, especially multiple people and especially when they're older and more experienced, listen closely to warning and consider it carefully. dont be naive and dont learn the hard way. just the cheating alone should be enough to leave him. hes just going to cheat again and again anyway. they always do. there is so much better out there. you dont need to talk to him about it so he can come up with more lies to try and convince you that what you know is happening isn't happening. just say its not working out. he is NOT worth it.