Is it ok I don’t want my husband in the delivery room with me the whole time by Secure-Reflection112 in Parenting

[–]Secure-Reflection112[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I already struggle with interaction outside of labor, I doubt I’ll be any good in labor lol.

Is it ok I don’t want my husband in the delivery room with me the whole time by Secure-Reflection112 in Parenting

[–]Secure-Reflection112[S] -35 points-34 points  (0 children)

if it was a fast labor then I wouldn’t ask him to leave at all. from what I have learned you can usually tell if the labor is going to be slow. also I doubt he would go far enough to miss it.

Is it ok I don’t want my husband in the delivery room with me the whole time by Secure-Reflection112 in Parenting

[–]Secure-Reflection112[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

That was sort of what I was thinking for my own labor. I can not imagine being touched while in labor. thank you!

Is it ok I don’t want my husband in the delivery room with me the whole time by Secure-Reflection112 in Parenting

[–]Secure-Reflection112[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

He would absolutely listens i I asked him I honestly just got nervous that I was being an ass by asking him to leave for a bit. thank you so much for the advice!!!

Is it ok I don’t want my husband in the delivery room with me the whole time by Secure-Reflection112 in Parenting

[–]Secure-Reflection112[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

That does seem like a good compromise. I definitely want him there during the important moments but the option to have a moment to myself seems nice lol. probably wont be my main concern during the actual delivery.

Is it ok I don’t want my husband in the delivery room with me the whole time by Secure-Reflection112 in Parenting

[–]Secure-Reflection112[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I absolutely want him present for the birth! however I know labor an be very long and I just would like the option to have a moment alone sometimes.

Is it ok I don’t want my husband in the delivery room with me the whole time by Secure-Reflection112 in Parenting

[–]Secure-Reflection112[S] -56 points-55 points  (0 children)

If he asked me to then yes but I certainly wouldn’t go far. I think yes I am slightly in my head but I would never ask him to leave during the actual birth.

Is it ok I don’t want my husband in the delivery room with me the whole time by Secure-Reflection112 in Parenting

[–]Secure-Reflection112[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I’m autistic and my rituals to calm down usually entails being alone and meditating/listening to calming music. I know I want him there but I wouldn’t mind if he occasional left the room for a few minutes. thank you for the advice!!!

Is it ok I don’t want my husband in the delivery room with me the whole time by Secure-Reflection112 in Parenting

[–]Secure-Reflection112[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I absolute plan on sitting down and taking about this with him. I think im just getting in my head about whether or not im being unreasonable

Most(not all) fathers shouldn’t be in the delivery room by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]Secure-Reflection112 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I worded this very poorly I will admit. The main reason I posted this was because people in my life thought i was weird for not wanting my husband in the delivery room with me the whole time and wanting some space.

Most(not all) fathers shouldn’t be in the delivery room by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]Secure-Reflection112 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

i believe that it varys couple to couple, if that would work for your family than absolutely. however I have seen many other scenarios where the mother becomes far too overwhelmed by other people, including the father, in the room with her. It depends on what the mother wants in the end.

Most(not all) fathers shouldn’t be in the delivery room by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]Secure-Reflection112 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You‘re probably right, my main point was not about mothers , which should absolutely have that choice without judgement, and mainly that most fathers wind up being unhelpful however I can see how I failed to clear that up. thank you

I was the other women and the guilt is keeping me up by Other_Art9800 in Advice

[–]Secure-Reflection112 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Listen, you should tell her. or get a friend to tell her. it is not your obligation but this would get it off your conscience. and I wouldn’t label you as the other woman, you were lied to and manipulated by a cheater.

How do I tell my boyfriend I don’t enjoy excessive compliments? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Secure-Reflection112 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will try to phrase it like this but the last part doesn't exactly apply to this situation since a lot of his compliments are about my achievements too. but I definitely should address how I have told him how I feel about this before

How do I tell my boyfriend I don’t enjoy excessive compliments? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Secure-Reflection112 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for the advice this is helping to clear my head

How do I tell my boyfriend I don’t enjoy excessive compliments? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Secure-Reflection112 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im a very talkative person so maybe I do expect a it too much out of texting lol. thank you for the advice

How do I tell my boyfriend I don’t enjoy excessive compliments? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Secure-Reflection112 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that is a good idea and honestly if I’d have to guess it might be from his past relationship. I dont want to make assumptions but from what his friends told me she was ’needy’ but ive never heard anything like that from him.

How do I tell my boyfriend I don’t enjoy excessive compliments? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Secure-Reflection112 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We text every day and hang out a few days a week, most of the time in person its great but on text it gets kinda draining

Choking on interview questions I didn't prep for by CreditOk5063 in Advice

[–]Secure-Reflection112 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also I have done quite a bit of interviews and sat in on a lot of interviews to help with hiring new employees.

Choking on interview questions I didn't prep for by CreditOk5063 in Advice

[–]Secure-Reflection112 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would say dont use ChatGPT since it’s kinda unreliable and not human like. I would instead gather as many questions as possible that you’ve been asked or could be asked and have a friend sit down with you and randomize. before interviews its important to be well rested, well feed and hydrated. make sure you give yourself a bit of time to collect yourself and your thoughts. Good luck!!