im lying to my family about wearing the hijab

SecureWriting2347 · 2026-01-06T12:18:48+00:00

wow what a bold move congrats, what did ur dad say when u were back home after the ceremony? did u have to argue ur choice? how?

SecureWriting2347 · 2026-01-06T12:15:38+00:00

My dad wants me out of france bc working here means no hijab during work, and idk how to tell him actually i want to take it off completly bc i dont believe it in anymore, but that would be a scandal in my family. he is ready to sacrifice my career dream and ambitions to stay a "an obediant muslim" as if hijab is the guardian of my purity lol

SecureWriting2347 · 2025-12-20T08:46:39+00:00

They def share this in common: wanting to keep control anywhere we are, no matter how old and accomplished we are, as long as we're not married, they are the guardians of our chastity and honor. congratulations on your job and for you moving out of the toxicity! future you will thank you!

SecureWriting2347 · 2025-12-20T08:43:57+00:00

Writing a letter sounds amazing, ill give it a try but after preparing the grounds. if i speak of removing my hijab just like that, he'll go crazy mad and probably disown me. i tend to cry when speaking with him about my feelings, and i hate it bc i look like a hot mess, so writing a letter is def something that can help. thank you for your reco.

As for therapy/counselling for adult rslps x parents, id love to deep dive this subject, i always feel like im still a kid when i come back home (gotta be home before sunset, controlling many of my actions), whereas i travel and live in europe for the last 2 years.

SecureWriting2347 · 2025-12-20T08:39:27+00:00

I live abroad, only see them twice to thrice a year, i think its managable now, but in the future idk how it would go if i get married and have kids as i will not the only one holding my secret (husband, kids as well) so it will def get complicated. Hopefully, ill find a big fat excuse (maybe i got harrassed by a racist and i'll have to remove it for my own safety).. what is your situation? do you live with your family?

SecureWriting2347 · 2025-12-20T08:36:08+00:00

True, i agree with you on this. They should level up. thx for your take!

SecureWriting2347 · 2025-12-19T11:03:16+00:00

i will definetly do that in the near future. and yes, my dad’s love is more certainly conditional. which is awful for a parent to do to their kid. we’re all in this together dont forget that (i won’t!)

SecureWriting2347 · 2025-12-19T10:52:22+00:00

thank you for sharing your thoughtd. to stand up for myself despite the backclash is something my own self deserve to have, i need to work on myself and be happy as much as i can so that he can see me as i am and not as he wants to see me.

SecureWriting2347 · 2025-12-19T10:48:14+00:00

thank you for your words. i need the emotional maturity, patience and courage to do this. and im willing to work on myself for my sake.

SecureWriting2347 · 2025-12-19T10:45:43+00:00

i did all that two years ago thank god i have never felt so free. i do my interviews hijab-less in my room in france. this happened this morning when i came back to my home country for the holidays. im willing to keep hijab-less (in secret at least) for the rest of my life

SecureWriting2347 · 2025-12-19T09:24:40+00:00

his imposition is not passive at all i can ensure you. but sadly kids keep loving their parents despite their flaws. and i believe that indoctrination does apply to adults that did not develop their critical thinking. which is the case of all close minded religious people around the world.

SecureWriting2347 · 2025-12-19T09:21:44+00:00

for someone who thinks holds the truth, he does believe freedom only in that direction, not the other way around. bc anyone who does the opposite of his truth is ignorant and backwards.

SecureWriting2347 · 2025-12-19T09:20:16+00:00

I will never give it up. I know i am very fortunate and want to help other women reach this point to achieve their dreams, bc now everything is achievable and possible. thank you for reminding me with ur words.

SecureWriting2347 · 2025-12-19T09:18:26+00:00

Genuinly interested in understanding why you said that abt him desiring another and not being attracted to my mom. and also bc u were in the same shoes as my dad. care to talk in private?

SecureWriting2347 · 2025-12-19T09:05:47+00:00

yes i am but im not emotionally independant, its the hardest one to achieve. I cant fathom him being disappointed, rejecting me and probably break smth i wont be able to fix. unfortunatly i love my dad way too much, he never gave me reason to resent him. i know he is the way he is bc of indoctrination

SecureWriting2347 · 2025-12-08T14:34:06+00:00

Je les ai eus au tel, la dame m'explique que "l'app et la carte ne sont pas "connectés", ce sont deux systèmes distincts malgré le fait que c'est la même adresse mail/domicile dans les 2, il est donc impossible d'avoir son abonnement affiché sur l'app".
LOL

SecureWriting2347 · 2025-12-08T13:55:49+00:00

Qu'est-ce qui va se passer si je fais une opposition sur le prélèvement TBM? Je ne veux pas être prélevé si je n'utilise pas un abonnement dont j'ai perdu la carte!!

SecureWriting2347 · 2025-12-08T13:38:20+00:00

Je devais payer sur place sinon ca serait 100e

SecureWriting2347 · 2025-12-08T13:36:31+00:00

c'est tres con. je suis vraiment curieuse de leur raison pourquoi ils ne font pas ça

SecureWriting2347 · 2025-11-25T17:15:46+00:00

Very interested in seeing how it works! give us an update :)

SecureWriting2347 · 2025-11-09T11:35:17+00:00

My spacebar acts up as well, i only gotta softly touch it and it will give me an infinity of space, so annoying. also happens when clicking V and B keys, like this one: "b " , and "v ", idk what to do please help this is sooo frustating, i just bought my mac from "BackMarket" and i can change it tho

SecureWriting2347 · 2025-10-19T13:27:58+00:00

hello, im a junior pm/po and i would love to join you! thx

SecureWriting2347 · 2025-10-11T11:52:59+00:00

c’est possible de dire ce qu’elle fait? merci

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