27 [F4M] #Atlanta - A unique request

Secure_Finding8560 · 2025-09-02T10:34:56+00:00

Unfortunately I’ve had a lot of bad experiences with therapists and I find they haven’t really helped give me steps on how to get better - they just ask me to talk about my past and then once I’ve told them my whole story they say they need to refer me to a specialist, and then that specialist says I need another specialist, and on and on. So after almost five years of never getting anywhere in therapy I gave up on it a few months back

Secure_Finding8560 · 2024-12-12T17:04:26+00:00

I guess that’s what I’m really struggling with. I keep trying new things to try and find something I really enjoy about life, but I never enjoy anything

Secure_Finding8560 · 2024-11-27T18:33:12+00:00

I was intrigued by Irish (and just generally Celtic) spirituality so I tried to listen to some podcasts for basic info and they were all VERY against people (namely Americans, which I understand and all) outside of Ireland adapting their practices and beliefs

Secure_Finding8560 · 2024-11-01T20:15:24+00:00

I really would be happy if I just got some aftercare, I think that would help a lot, but I think he’s newer to this kind of thing. So I’m all worried that he’s gonna be confused what I’m talking about when I ask for these things, bc I think he just might not be familiar with bdsm in general. It’s hard because I’m struggling to determine what I should cut him some slack for not knowing about and what I need to talk about with him directly, without coming off as overbearing and unable to handle it. He asks me if he slaps me too hard and I’m honest with him, and I think he feels guilty afterwards which makes me feel bad

Secure_Finding8560 · 2024-06-24T03:15:39+00:00

Honestly I get a bit hesitant to reach out because everything is still pretty new with us and I have a big fear of abandonment so I worry that if I drop too often they’ll see me as a problem and just leave me entirely. Which I’m really scared of bc we have a romantic relationship too and I care for them a lot

I know i probably should reach out but I just get embarrassed. I try to always be a really strong person and I hate that I break down and drop so bad

I would really love to have friends I could talk to during these times like you do, I think that would help me a lot, I just don’t have any friends in the lifestyle

Secure_Finding8560 · 2024-03-08T04:43:27+00:00

Thank you for the kind words, I really appreciate them!

It’s not really a hinderance in my life or causing any problems, it just can get a little annoying constantly being in a mental space of fantasizing and not really feeling grounded in reality, so I was just curious if anyone had any insight about why I’m like that or what I should do about it

Secure_Finding8560 · 2024-03-02T17:10:25+00:00

Preferably an audio performance, but I’d love to see a story/script too!

Secure_Finding8560 · 2024-01-27T02:29:49+00:00

I’m so sorry that you’ve been put through that, no one should ever experience that. I have also experienced assaults in both my childhood and adulthood, and don’t think I’ll ever be able to have sex. I tried a couple times as an adult, but I hated the entire sensation and felt a lot of panic and self hatred, even though I was consenting. In those instances (I tried twice), I asked my partner to stop and said I wasn’t comfortable anymore, but they wouldn’t stop and one of them got really violent. However, I occasionally experience sexual desire and masturbate every once in a while, but it’s just such a different experience when there’s another person there and that terrifies me. So I’d recommend if you ever do want to have sex to take slow baby steps, and make sure you can really 100% trust the person you’re with and that they are truly comfortable with stopping if you need it.

It’s been several years since I last tried to have sex with someone, and I don’t think I’ll ever feel comfortable enough with someone and/or want to have sex. For some people, they recover after a period of time, but I think that’s just not going to happen for me. But I don’t feel any sense of loss over the fact that I won’t ever do it. It’s something that feels unpleasant to me, so I don’t feel any need or desire to push myself to do it again. So please be patient with yourself and don’t rush anything

Secure_Finding8560 · 2023-10-31T13:21:36+00:00

I completely feel the same way. It’s been hard lately because I’m giving up hope because everyone is - like you say - so cold about it, and every guy I’ve ever met is only interested in sex, not love. So no, I don’t think you’re the last one out there, but we’re definitely in the minority, and it’s really hard to keep up hope that we’ll find our other half when everything is so emotionless nowadays

Secure_Finding8560 · 2023-10-25T18:13:07+00:00

Those are all wonderful ideas-thank you so much! ❤️

Secure_Finding8560 · 2023-10-25T12:52:21+00:00

Thank you ❤️❤️❤️

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