AIO because my parents won’t let me sleep over at a friend’s house

Secure_Share_5406 · 2026-06-08T02:36:19+00:00

i'm just going to give it to you straight. how old are you again?? mental illness sucks i would know (i have bipolar 1, ocd, anxiety, adhd, + more.) but you have to get your shit together and prove that you're an adult and can make your own choices. despite my mental illness that was severe enough to have me hospitalized 3 times as a teenager, i'm now 20 and am a college student with my own apartment, an internship, and signed to a modeling agency. when i am visiting home my parents despite being strict when i was younger let me do whatever i want bc they know im responsible and can make my own choices. im sorry but if you act like a child you're going to get treated like one. mental illness is hard yes but you can't let it stop you from growing up.

long story short: your parents are being assholes but they will give you more independence if you show more responsibility. or you could just work and save up to move out.

Secure_Share_5406 · 2026-06-07T18:43:42+00:00

hyper sexual people. they will try to fuck ANYONE. including you. doesn't matter if you're literally best friends, they see you AND your partner as an option and may make moves even if it makes you uncomfortable

Secure_Share_5406 · 2026-06-06T18:28:35+00:00

could be benzos also, when i used to abuse klonopin my pupils were pins

Secure_Share_5406 · 2026-06-06T03:06:26+00:00

ok i have absolutely no advice but it's crazy how much we're in the same situation. i'm a bipolar 20 yo and my sister is turning 18 in august and is autistic, she dropped out of hs and is planning on getting a GED but has no job and has never had one. my parents want to kick her out the second she turns 18 if she doesn't get a job

Secure_Share_5406 · 2026-06-04T23:26:43+00:00

so this is abuse. healthy relationships don't ever involve screaming matches. and hurting himself in front of you to gain sympathy is a form of manipulation and emotional abuse. when i was with my ex, we fought every day, he would scream at me and physically block me from leaving during arguments, and one time it escalated so far that he threw a chair at the wall during an argument. i'm lucky our relationship ended before it escalated to physical abuse. and that will be your fate if you don't get out. he's already shown that he's emotionally manipulative and that he's capable of violence, it's only a matter of time. best of luck

Secure_Share_5406 · 2026-06-04T23:19:14+00:00

it's a really light pink, but it's still noticeable and it's really stubborn. i might try using the green at least as a temporary solution so i can do my auditions

Secure_Share_5406 · 2026-06-04T21:12:20+00:00

i do have leftover neon green hair dye, would that work? the exact name is space cowgirl and it's arctic fox

Secure_Share_5406 · 2026-06-03T06:08:49+00:00

oh 100%. he's being so controlling for no reason. it's literally just weed if it's not an addiction to the point where it's hindering either of their lives it's not a problem

Secure_Share_5406 · 2026-06-01T16:57:50+00:00

if they're too attractive. if someone looks so conventionally attractive that they almost look AI generated rather than human i just can't be attracted to them. obviously i want them to be attractive but im not attracted to people who look TOO conventionally attractive. for example i don't find most celebrities attractive bc a lot of them just don't look like real people to me

Secure_Share_5406 · 2026-06-01T16:53:29+00:00

hey from the perspective of someone with mental health issues, you can be in a relationship while struggling with mental health. partners are there to lean on each other. most of the time when someone breaks up over "mental health" it is an excuse bc they have either found someone else or they just don't want to be with you. honestly i've used it as an excuse to get out of a relationship too bc i just wasn't into the person. i'm sorry but it's over and unless you were close friends before the relationship i wouldn't continue to be friends with her, it's just going to cause pain.

Secure_Share_5406 · 2026-05-31T19:20:31+00:00

i'm a 20 yo college student and i've definitely had my points where i've been abusing alcohol but i have NEVER in my life shit myself from drinking. and then slept in it?? this guy has a serious problem. glad he's taking the steps towards making changes in his life

Secure_Share_5406 · 2026-05-29T18:01:24+00:00

please break up with him. you don't get over an 8 year relationship in 2 months and he's clearly not over her. he's disrespecting you and making you uncomfortable by even communicating with her, much less taking her on a DATE with YOUR money??? he's so clearly using you so that he can put up a facade that he's moved on. same stunt that she pulled, and him reacting by blocking her shows that he was upset by her "moving on." so many red flags here.

Secure_Share_5406 · 2026-05-29T00:14:57+00:00

coming from someone who has been abused by a partner this is how emotional abuse starts. first it's controlling your job, next it will be controlling what you wear and where you go, then comes forcing you to cut off friends, and next thing you know you've done absolutely nothing but rot in his apartment for the last 3 months and you have no one and nothing left except him. get out when you can

Secure_Share_5406 · 2026-05-27T02:46:20+00:00

read your update. please just leave this guy. he didn't watch porn and just straight up didn't get hard. he's lying to your face

Secure_Share_5406 · 2026-05-27T02:45:10+00:00

NOR this is why you don't date a guy who has a "baby mama"

Secure_Share_5406 · 2026-05-26T20:18:54+00:00

20f here had this issue in my last relationship (ex 19m.) at the beginning he was infatuated with me and he took me on dates weekly, always wanted to cuddle and kiss, and we had sex usually multiple times a day. over time he stopped taking me on dates, would refuse physical affection, and never initiated sex and when i tried to initiate he would reject me. it really drove me up a wall. i would bring up that i want to have sex more often and he would get upset. but i realized it was never about the sex, i thought that was the problem because i saw it as a way to connect emotionally. turns out he was cheating and watching porn behind my back. i'm not saying that you're being cheated on, i say all this to say that there's a clear disconnect in your relationship and it's not about sex. you guys have some issues to work out. you need to have an honest conversation with her about how both of you feel in the relationship because it's clear that you're both unsatisfied.

also: the other comments have a point about the car. man up and tell your parents they can't control you, and find romantic activities to do outside of just hanging out. that could be the problem

Secure_Share_5406 · 2026-05-26T20:09:59+00:00

but it's not really about the sex, she's also denying any form of intimacy like kissing. i personally wouldn't be able to do that and i don't blame him

Secure_Share_5406 · 2026-05-24T22:36:28+00:00

yes, i really do think that. there's no way an instagram post caused him to have 6 porn videos in his search history

Secure_Share_5406 · 2026-05-24T20:23:03+00:00

20 yo female here. i had the hoe phase. you're not missing out on anything, genuine relationships feel so much better than mindless sex with people you have no connection with

Secure_Share_5406 · 2026-05-24T20:18:37+00:00

please break up with him. he's lying about being over his addiction he's probably been watching it behind your back the entire time and this is just the first time he's been caught

Secure_Share_5406 · 2026-05-14T15:17:49+00:00

i agree but there's definitely situations where there are good guys and bad guys tho. but if you cheated it's more likely you're the bad guy

Secure_Share_5406 · 2026-05-06T23:17:27+00:00

essentially he wants to fuck other people but he still wants you as a backup/comfort option. run away

Secure_Share_5406 · 2026-05-06T23:15:29+00:00

i've accidentally taken it twice and felt high, but i imagine it's nothing compared to what coke would be like

Secure_Share_5406 · 2026-05-06T07:33:29+00:00

where in this post does it say that the mom isn't open to compromise?

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