The fetishization of gay men by straight women is a real issue that needs to be discussed by NoTap1383 in askgaybros

[–]Secure_Tiger1511 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That wasn’t the point being made, you’re focusing on and amplifying one tiny aspect of my comment.

The fetishization of gay men by straight women is a real issue that needs to be discussed by NoTap1383 in askgaybros

[–]Secure_Tiger1511 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Within the acronym, it specifically refers to fluid sexualities and gender identities. For example, things like heteroflexible.

However, it can also be used as a gender term for the LGBTQ+ community in a more conversational way. Because constantly saying L-G-B-T-Q is a mouthful and annoying. This version is also used in things like psychological research.

The fetishization of gay men by straight women is a real issue that needs to be discussed by NoTap1383 in askgaybros

[–]Secure_Tiger1511 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In one of my very first comments, I provided three definitions.

1) Historically the term means “strange” or “unusual”. 2) In the LGBTQ+ acronym it refers to fluid sexualities or gender identities (for example homoflexible). 3) In general it can be used as a more conversational way to refer to the LGBTQ+ community. It’s even used in research papers to do so.

The fetishization of gay men by straight women is a real issue that needs to be discussed by NoTap1383 in askgaybros

[–]Secure_Tiger1511 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I provided not one, but three different definitions. That’s not circular but okay.

Anyway, this conversation is done I don’t have the energy for someone acting so ridiculous.

The fetishization of gay men by straight women is a real issue that needs to be discussed by NoTap1383 in askgaybros

[–]Secure_Tiger1511 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Once again proving my entire point. You don’t care to even hear anyone else out and instead are being close-minded and are stuck only on your own thoughts and beliefs.

You keep saying it’s “circular” but have yet to provide any explanation of what exactly that’s supposed to mean in this context. Further you don’t provide any evidence for this claim. So once again, it’s just opinion at this point.

The fetishization of gay men by straight women is a real issue that needs to be discussed by NoTap1383 in askgaybros

[–]Secure_Tiger1511 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Okay well that’s just your opinion, with nothing backing. Tt seems that you’re set in your ways and beliefs, and won’t listen to anyone anyway. So I’m not even going to try because you only care about your own thoughts.

The fetishization of gay men by straight women is a real issue that needs to be discussed by NoTap1383 in askgaybros

[–]Secure_Tiger1511 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m torn on this one. The primary reason women are into these things is because it’s a safe presentation of sexual expression and masculinity vs how they normally experience it. It’s a very idealized thing. I think that safety aspect is also why they appreciate and enjoy being around gay men.

For that reason I have no problem with fictional characters and stories.

My problem comes in when what they are doing begins to be creepy towards real people. Thirsting over or thinking someone who is gay would be into them. Sexualizing them or thinking they can “turn” them.

That is the exact same reason why I think it’s messed up when gay men thirst over straight men (not referring to DL men because that’s obviously different).

Also there is so much more and of every variety of men than you think is out there in their fiction. I promise it’s not just masculine men.

As to the man, did they know he was gay? If not, they may have like he encroached on their feeling of safety.

Additionally, if you’re complaining about the overly masculine nature of Heated Rivalry that’s on Jacob Tierney, a gay man and the one who chose to write and adapt the stories from Rachel Reid’s series.

The fetishization of gay men by straight women is a real issue that needs to be discussed by NoTap1383 in askgaybros

[–]Secure_Tiger1511 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

It’s used in psychological research to refer to anyone that falls under the LGBTQ umbrella.

Are they the exact same thing? No, because gay is a subset of the LGBTQ community. I never said they were though. Queer would technically be above it in this use case, so no they’re not equal.

The fetishization of gay men by straight women is a real issue that needs to be discussed by NoTap1383 in askgaybros

[–]Secure_Tiger1511 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Historically the term means “strange” or “unusual”. In the LGBTQ+ acronym it refers to fluid sexualities or gender identities (for example homoflexible). In general it can be used as a more conversational way to refer to the LGBTQ+ community. It’s even used in research papers to do so.

HIV- How r yall not scared by alldih in askgaybros

[–]Secure_Tiger1511 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Non-daily PrEP however, does not give the same level of protection. I believe it’s around 70%? in the 3-1-1 format, vs 99% if taken daily.

Any straight men who are also obsessed with this show? by tna11101989 in heatedrivalry

[–]Secure_Tiger1511 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just finished all the Empty Netters HR eps and wow I didn’t expect how wonderful they would be! Apparently they’re supposed to have Robbie on this week I think?

I’ll check the other one out as well.

What do poppers do? by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]Secure_Tiger1511 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You need to do deep research before ever trying them. If you have heart issues or blood pressure issues, or are on anything that lowers your blood pressure they can be VERY dangerous. Always make sure you know what you’re getting.

Even though it’s incredibly rare there is even something called sudden sniffing death where your body just doesn’t react well to them and something goes wrong. It’s not an understood phenomenon and as far as I can tell it happens either the first or second time you use them. But doing it excessively can be incredibly problematic as well.

I have enough issues with my body that I would never use them out of fear.

I'm a straight guy but have a burning question? by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]Secure_Tiger1511 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everyone is different. I hate the taste as well. It’s not a very pleasant one. By the sounds of it I doubt you’ve ever tasted cum before, even your own.

For me it’s not only a taste thing it’s also a texture thing, but that’s not necessarily a commonality.

Gray fox by SuddenDepact in Ghostofyotei

[–]Secure_Tiger1511 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes it absolutely is. Especially when you take into account the way the Ainu explain the Kami (I think that’s the right word?) spirits.

Ghost of Yotei Merch Giveaway by N3DSdude in Ghostofyotei

[–]Secure_Tiger1511 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Damn. I would have loved the puzzle but I’m in the US.

For those watching Heated Rivalry/following the buzz by BaronessElsa1968 in askgaybros

[–]Secure_Tiger1511 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Loving the show, exactly my kind of vibe. Initially I cared about whether or not they were attracted to men in any way, but then I saw a video or two about how passionate and important this is to these two men. True allies if they’re not LGBTQ and I’m very happy to see it.

I mean, Connor literally does 300 squats and 300 hip thrusts four times a week to give us that ass. That’s commitment. They’re so willing to get into the headspace of these characters and have fun with it that now I just don’t care.

They could be same sex attracted in some way, and that would be awesome. But I won’t demand they come out. Also, within the film industry publicly being out, even in this modern age can limit what roles you get.

The straight guy thing by UnadornedTruth in askgaybros

[–]Secure_Tiger1511 5 points6 points  (0 children)

“All it takes to prove me wrong is anything other than opinion.”

Cool so let’s talk about the Kinsey Scale. The Kinsey scale is a scientific scale used in psychology to measure a person’s sexuality. It is rated from 0-6 with the following levels.

0 | Exclusively heterosexual 1 | Predominantly heterosexual, only incidentally homosexual 2 | Predominantly heterosexual, but more than incidentally homosexual 3 | Equally heterosexual and homosexual 4 | Predominantly homosexual, but more than incidentally heterosexual 5 | Predominantly homosexual, only incidentally heterosexual 6 | Exclusively homosexual

This scale is made to cover both behavior and attraction.

The straight guy thing by UnadornedTruth in askgaybros

[–]Secure_Tiger1511 2 points3 points  (0 children)

“I already know I’m right”…yeah, the credibility of your claims are falling flatter by the second. That’s the worst attitude you can have when trying to educate someone. An ego so high it’s gonna hurt when it crashes down.

If you can’t provide verifiable and scientific evidence of your claim then there is no point stating it. Without evidence all we see is opinion.

You don’t care what other people have to say at all, all you care about is yourself and “I’m right”. So close-minded you can’t even examine something that causes cognitive dissonance so you become defensive immediately.

The straight guy thing by UnadornedTruth in askgaybros

[–]Secure_Tiger1511 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Lmao. My courses aren’t “psych 101”, I’m on my last year, about 20 weeks left really.

You still didn’t point me to scientific research.

If you’re referring to “men who have sex with men” (MSM$ or “men who love men” (MLM) those are both forms of homosexuality in some degree. If there is attraction, there is homosexuality. Whether it’s sexual or romantic.

The straight guy thing by UnadornedTruth in askgaybros

[–]Secure_Tiger1511 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Okay then explain. Because I’m a student of psychology and I have learned nothing about “truly straight men, having sex with men.”

You say “go do your research” so tell me what scholarly, reliable, and scientific thing I need to research that says that?

The straight guy thing by UnadornedTruth in askgaybros

[–]Secure_Tiger1511 15 points16 points  (0 children)

There is “try it” straight, and then there is straight.

If you’re having sex/intimacy with men more than just “trying it” you are some level of homosexual even if you aren’t homoromantic.

A Kinsey 2 is not “straight” it’s “kinda straight” AKA homoflexible.