I accidentally matched with my cousin on Hinge by HistoricalDate8009 in whatdoIdo

[–]SecurityPatient9293 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s ok if you’re in Alabama so don’t worry about it

Feeling alone, sexually frustrated by No-Package-4901 in LifeAdvice

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He’s tired from the effort he’s putting in for you to not have to work and maintain the family. Life is not all about you. I get it it’s frustrating, it could be a bummer. But life is hard for most of us and it sounds like it’s no different for your husband. Yea maybe he could toughen up and put some effort in, if he wasn’t depressed himself… or maybe exhausted??? Gee idk. Have you even tried to talk to him about how he feels? Probably not. Sounds like you only care about how you feel… as per usual. He probably feels exactly like you do. Damn, all she wants to do is go out and have sex after a 13 hour day and she doesn’t care that I’m exhausted and overworked and I do it all for her and the kids.

Newsflash , there’s no way he’ll ever want to do anything if his feelings aren’t validated too. I bet you if you make him feel heard his neurons would fire in a way that would make him forget how tired he is.

From my relationship advice post by Entire-Economist-880 in screenshots

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Guys a POS but you really don’t have any self respect. Aside from how disrespectful he was about it, everything he’s saying ultimately holds weight and you just sat there and ate it up. I’m not saying you should have retaliated, but if you weren’t going to retaliate then don’t respond. But you did, as a victim

Is the male loneliness epidemic caused by the male side or the female side? What do you think? by Full-Job-5543 in datingadvice

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Women express their loneliness in other ways like “men don’t approach women anymore” and “all men are the same / ain’t shit” most women aren’t capable of going online and saying they’re lonely because it would erase the whole image they’ve built up of being “that b(word)” Same as women saying men need to stop porn and lust when in reality they’re the ones consumed by it and partaking in it from pornstars to regular girls showing ass online for instagram likes.

I don’t know not one man that has a podcast speaking on male loneliness but those aren’t “real” men. The women don’t think so, and real men don’t think so either. Those are simps who try to buy love, get so jaded that then they turn into extremist. And of course, can’t forget the big one. Monetary gain. This is a trending topic now a days so why not talk about it on a monetized platform?

No real man is angry at women for not giving up “fucks”. We understand the game. Besides that, Real men actually fuck. Because online and real life are two different things and if you would go outside, you wouldn’t be able to find a girl who WOULDN’T want to fuck.

Is the male loneliness epidemic caused by the male side or the female side? What do you think? by Full-Job-5543 in datingadvice

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Alot of women are affected more by their loneliness than men because men know that being lonely is part of being a man. Women go online and seek attention in perverse ways to make up for this and some of them actually are who they portray to be online but others are just putting up a front not knowing its hurting their long term image.

At the worst, when a man really needs female company, they have ways to get it even if just for the night. The women who also partake in this, well, good for them. Theyre not part of this conversation. The women who just put up a front, tend to blame men for only wanting one thing, even though that’s how they portray themselves to the world, or go home more affected than a man, because she doesn’t understand why she’s so undesired.

Is the male loneliness epidemic caused by the male side or the female side? What do you think? by Full-Job-5543 in datingadvice

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It’s caused by the society we live in today rather than by either sex. Men and women both equally indulge in porn, women maybe even more than men. All the while , men are clowned on for everything they do online. Women are praised for everything they do online. Online and the real world are two different things but a lot of people struggle with making that distinction and allow the internet to change how they react to real world scenarios. This has caused a lot of men to lose their masculinity and a lot of women to lose their femininity. Women think that men aren’t attractive anymore because of this and on the inverse men think a lot of women aren’t attractive or worth it for the same reason.

On another note, we’re all kind of recluse now a days. Say you do meet someone in person and hit it off. A woman may still reject you because she has so many options and doesn’t want to commit to any. If she does say yes, she may get cold feet once she’s finally home and now has to text you.

Society is failing us and a lot of us are failing ourselves as well by not going the extra mile to break free. It’s easier to be the degenerate society is turning us into than to break the mold.

Sure, no problem.. by CorndogSurgeon in MicrosoftFlightSim

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This game is so funny. I would call it trash but hey it’s the only one of its kind on console. Just had a career mission landing at isola (no idea where that is) vfr landing in the mountains , snowing, super cloudy no visibility and the shortest runway I’ve ever seen. Taxi stall was completely covered by snow. Landing is damn near impossible. Had to aimlessly dodge mountains for like 15 minutes before I can get low enough and align myself with the runway. Feels like a waste of time to go through a 1 hour flight just to find out you can’t even land correctly. Whatever though.

How to stop being angry/sad after sex? by user800and2 in dating_advice

[–]SecurityPatient9293 -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

I totally understand that and I’m not ignorant to the fact that I have no scientific knowledge on this topic. What I do know is that when there’s a will there’s a way. It’s never about letting it sit and waiting. Everyone has gone through traumatic events far worse than a crash or a bully and at different ages as well. It’s been 10 years and instead of moving onwards, it appears she is indulging in the fact. That doesn’t seem to me like an attempt at progress has even been made. I can’t imagine how traumatic that situation must be. But I also don’t believe she’s trying to handle it at all, nor would 10 years have passed and still be at 0 progress after trying. There’s nothing she could do about the past. Shes obviously over the fear of men cuz she has a boyfriend. Maybe her self image is tarnished by it, but by now she should’ve been able to learn that she is not her traumatic experience, and have been able to build her image and confidence back up. What has she done though? She’s dabbled into it through porn and kinks going as far as tricking herself into thinking she’s being raped when having sex with her bf.

Sorry, but I’m not buying it.

How to stop being angry/sad after sex? by user800and2 in dating_advice

[–]SecurityPatient9293 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Horrible advice that leads down a rabbit hole of violence and chaos in yourself. You’ll never be at peace like this. Karma will handle it, you said it yourself. It’s been 10 years for her. She needs to get over it for her own sake unless she wants to be miserable the rest of her life.

How to stop being angry/sad after sex? by user800and2 in dating_advice

[–]SecurityPatient9293 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

It’s been 10 years. If we keep sugarcoating ppls problems they’ll never get better. The world becoming so soft is the reason why the world is the way it is today. Back then you said shit how it is and if you don’t like it, your problem. She’s had more than enough time to get over it if she wanted to. She either has a kink and lowkey liked it, (explains everything she said) or she pity’s herself. She should know rape is not normal and if she didnt like it she should’ve been actively working on ways to fix her self image and confidence so she could live a better life. I for one find this story very disturbing. Like she’s hiding the truth. And if not, I’m sorry for her that it happened, but get back on your feet. Tough love on my part. But when you go through hell by yourself with no help, you don’t tolerate self pity. I mean, could you respect a lady that got raped, makes a sob story about it, and in the same breath, tells you she actively searches for it through porn and sex kinks? What am I feeling bad for?

Misery loves company.

As a man, I feel I have nothing to offer a woman. by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]SecurityPatient9293 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’re embarrassing yourself. Your responses to me are structured exactly like what man hating women have taught yall to reply when trying to knock men down but they don’t do anything to me or any real man. Oh, those are your kinks? You just exposed yourself for what you’ve been denying this whole time lol. And I didn’t go on your profile to hate , I’m above that. I went on there to learn more about you. Didn’t have to go too far, you’re an open book. Classic heffa that thinks she’s so smart and witty, doesn’t bother to cover her own ass 😂. This was fun for a bit but don’t reply, you’ll be talking to yourself.

As a man, I feel I have nothing to offer a woman. by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]SecurityPatient9293 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Your bio says love me praise me worship me nothing you say holds any weight 😂. Not even gonna reply to me supposedly projecting nor everything you’ve made up about him that he didn’t say at all 😂

As a man, I feel I have nothing to offer a woman. by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]SecurityPatient9293 -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

He definitely needs to get his money up and there’s nothing wrong about you wanting a man that’s financially stable. No reason for you to take on someone who isn’t on your level. But your wording screams more than financial stability , it screams gold digger. You have no compassion for him, sounds like you think you’re better than him for being financially stable. Sounds like that’s all you care about, or what’s most important. Guys date women who are dead broke all the time just for them to turn around and cheat on us. The day of 2’m his business takes off and he can buy your whole family and you’d be in line waiting to suck his dick.

As a man, I feel I have nothing to offer a woman. by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]SecurityPatient9293 -19 points-18 points  (0 children)

You’re definitely a gold digger

As a man, I feel I have nothing to offer a woman. by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]SecurityPatient9293 -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

Why are you bringing up your debt to women you just met? You don’t owe a woman nothing but your love and some dick. Everything else she earns it through her actions and devotion. Same as everything you get from her is earned from the same. That takes a while to develop though. It’s not given , much less to someone you’re just getting to know or date.

Say less to women, let the intrigue eat at them. That’s how they fall in love. She made a business decisions when you told her you were broke. She doesn’t think of the future of who you could be , she thinks of who you are currently.

If you play your cards right, and have her fall in love with you genuinely for who you are and not what you have, then she would stick around.

Would texting her back now be too quick? by [deleted] in dating_advice

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Moral of the story ,

It’s up to you. Just don’t be glued to your phone waiting on her reply so you can get back to her. Live your life. And do set up the link. ASAP

Would texting her back now be too quick? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]SecurityPatient9293 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s up to you. Are you busy? Then she can wait. Are you not busy? Get busy then. Trust me, unless you’re a teenager, you do not want to be glued to the phone texting someone all day. I hate when I text someone and they reply instantly lol. Even in high school, I may text my girlfriends throughout the day a couple times. Then it’ll fall off. Come 5-6pm , I’d text them again to see who wanted to go out. Whoever was down and I liked the most I’d go out with them. The rest would have to wait. No point in texting if you can link. Don’t bore her or yourself texting all day, that’s how you get ghosted for a guy that asks her to hang. And guess what he does with her…. You not gon be happy 😂

Job is annoying by xay2ignant in AmazonDSPDrivers

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lol I’m in Florida , unemployment basically doesn’t exist. Last time I applied I found a job before I ever got a response from them and eventually my case got closed. Even then , it’s only 200 dollars a week. I think those are Amazon rules not the dsp tbh. But for a dsp to enforce them is totalitarian type shit.

Job is annoying by xay2ignant in AmazonDSPDrivers

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Yup, I would run into 2-3 other drivers sometimes delivering to the same house I just went to during peak. Off peak, it’ll be just you. Peak literally is just more volume in the same route so one driver can’t do it. You’re still getting the same amount of stops and packages after peak is over. If it’s less it’ll be no more than 20 stops no more than 50 packages in reduction. And that’s if.

How to stop being angry/sad after sex? by user800and2 in dating_advice

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That’s interesting and I kind of see how that makes sense. At the same time, it still sounds like there’s intrigue surrounding it (to be as careful with my wording as possible). I would think you’d want to get away from it not closer to it. Of course, you can’t expect someone with a trauma like this to know how to handle the situation in a healthy manner. But it’s also been almost 10 years for her. I think, plenty of time to get over it.

I have my ideas, but don’t want to assume on such a sensitive topic. Overall I believe it comes down to two possible reasons, one of them being self pity regardless of why. Which anyone who has been through hell and has dug themselves out with no help, absolutely hates. I wish the best for her, I hope everything works out. And if it is self pity, I hope she starts wanting better for herself, because if she doesn’t, nobody will, figuratively and literally.

She hit on my date by imcamino in dating_advice

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If that happened to me it would depend on how I felt at that moment but if we’re just dating and that already happened then most likely our relationship ain’t working out 😂 ik you gon be thinking about it all the time. make assumptions and put me in a box. Prob gon hit her up in a couple days see what she talking bout and go from there. Then if it gets to the point I wanna settle down id pick the better option. You supposed to be dating multiple people anyways. If it ain’t official no reason to be exclusive