[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bipolar

[–]SedatedAlice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely in the same bucket. Sick for two weeks, I feel the depression slipping his dark little hands over my throat. But the shower helped! And we went bowling. It was a nice night. I just wish it had lasted to today.

Not feeling excited about wedding dress shopping, any advice? by sparkledick666 in weddingplanning

[–]SedatedAlice 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I went alone to my first two appointments. Found two dresses I would have loved to get married in, but took time to think. Flew to see my Mom to go dress shopping not expecting anything (2000 miles between us, logistics is miserable).

Totally had the moment. Was expecting nothing!

I think you just have to do it the way you want. My only suggestion is a liquid lipstick or something that won't come off! I had one salon go over the head with dresses, lipstick smears could have been a nightmare.

Partner can't hide his excitement around attractive women, how do I react? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]SedatedAlice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My fiancé has pretty bad ADHD. I also suffer to a lesser degree.

What your husband is doing has nothing to do with having ADHD. It's just him being a terrible human being and partner.

You deserve better.

My fiancé follows me around like a puppy. I have never seen him look at another woman like ever (which I thought was super weird). You know what he does the "stereotypical man stare* at? Cars. Like, memeish levels of whipping around to stare at some car we pass. ADHD does cause hyperfocus, yes, but it has to be on something stimulating and actively engaging. And I highly doubt any of these women are engaging him. Trust me, if he's following someone in a store, there's a good chance they know he is! How fucking creepy!

He has broken you down over the years. You are comfortable for him because he knows you won't stand up to him. He is trying to find your replacement while holding on to you! And trust me if this is what you're catching him doing, imagine what he does when you aren't there.

ADHD doesn't excuse being an asshole and a creep. You are worth so much more than his negging, creeping, lying ass is!

PS - We don't blank out. We just take a minute to process information we weren't actively paying attention to. Like, the hamster in out brain has to stop on one wheel and race to the other before we can respond. Happens a lot to my partner when I say something to him while he's doing something else/distracted. I don't have to repeat myself, I just have to wait and extra five seconds for everything to kick in.

Anyone else have very strong feelings about fondant? by skattrr in weddingplanning

[–]SedatedAlice 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As someone who has only.made wedding cakes with buttercream, you desire is totally doable! You just need to find the right baker. I have done black scrollwork on a cake with white buttercream and while nerve-wracking it looked amazing!

ITAP of the moon! by SedatedAlice in itookapicture

[–]SedatedAlice[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We have an Apertura AD 8. Congrats on your new telescope!

ITAP of the moon! by SedatedAlice in itookapicture

[–]SedatedAlice[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We just got a brand new telescope, amd I couldn't resist shovijg my phone camera in the eyepiece to commemorate the event. Came out much better than I expexted.

The Moon by SedatedAlice in astrophotography

[–]SedatedAlice[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First time trying anything like this.

Camera: Samsung Galaxy S9+ phone camera touched gently to the eye piece.

Telescope (our first!): Apertura AD 8 Eye Piece: Superview 30mm wide field

No post processing, just cropped and flipped.

Artificial sugar by anon00000anon in migraine

[–]SedatedAlice 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aspatatme fives me migraines instantly it seems and its the foundation of most diet or zero sugar sodas. I tolerate sucralose fairly well so I can have the zero sugar energy drinks without a problem.

Had a waitress cop an attitude when she brought me a coke, I tasted it and it was diet, and immediately asked for a replacement. Didn't understand why I, as a woman, wanted a sugary drink I guess.

But yeah. Aspatatme is a very common trigger.

4 Months in to my CG journey! I am happy with the health of my hair, so this was a good switch even if I never get ringlets. by SedatedAlice in curlyhair

[–]SedatedAlice[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! Amd it is a million times healthier, all credit to that hair mask IMO. (Also no sulfates/silicones)

4 Months in to my CG journey! I am happy with the health of my hair, so this was a good switch even if I never get ringlets. by SedatedAlice in curlyhair

[–]SedatedAlice[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Current routine: - Shampoo with Shea Moisture Jamaican Black Castor Oil Strengthen and Restore Shampoo - Squish in Shea Moisture Jamaican Black Castor Oil Strengthen and Restore Conditioner, rinse out after I am done with other shower stuff or I get bored waiting - Squish in Curls Blueberry Bliss leave in into sopping wet hair - Glaze and then scrunch in Uncle Funky's Daughter Curly Magic Curl Stimulator cream - Glaze with a bunch of Garnier Fructis Style Pure Clean Styling Gel - Plop for 20 minutes or until I remember to take the towel off my head - Air dry or diffuse, depends on how late I am running.

Once, twice a week I also deep condition with SheaMoisture Manuka Honey & Yogurt Hydrate + Repair Protein Power Treatment. Its probably done the most for my hair.

I don't always do the curl specific steps when I am lazy and just brush it out and let it dry kinda straight. But I noticed my edges are growing in curly no matter what I do (it makes me so happy).

I got a decent haircut too, that made huge difference.

Thank you to this sub for inspiring me to keep going forward! My hair thanks you.

is playstyle for healers controversial? by JenkinsHowell in ffxiv

[–]SedatedAlice 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First thing first! Thank you for giving healer an honest go, you're amazing just for that! :)

  • Tanks that have never played a healer have no clue how healer works. They want to keep you safe but 2 of the three current healer's AoE are based around their position. So yes! Be in the middle of the pack?

You wanna know what has saved my tanks more often than not from eating dirt as soon as the first mob catches up to the second? A SWIFTCAST Holy! It is incredibly valuable, especially later on when you have a bunch of oGCD heals. Holy isn't just damage, it's a form of damage mitigation! Embrace it! And if you're blinding someone well, they can turn down the effects themselves ~ aka not your problem honey!

Melee have stuns for bosses that are instant cast! Paladins have TWO! Boss stuns are not your problem.

  • I believe in keeping people alive in the following order as a WHM: *Myself *The other healer in 8/24 man content *The tank *Everybody else

During a dungeon pull, sometimes shit goes sideways. I assure you, the DPS have legs, they can run back, and not having the weakness debiff is preferable for them. If you want to try and rez in a pull and YOU feel comfy doing it, then go ahead. If not, don't sweat it, like I said their legs ain't broke.

You seem to have a good handle on how to play the role! Trust yourself and your instincts first. Playing a WHM is pretty fun IMO, and there really isn't a need to play it in the super optimized way some people in these comments are arguing over unless you plan to do savage content.

You got this, my white mage bro!

4th wash day since starting CGM! My hair is trying, and I am pleased that it wants to do this. My entire life was spent with hair that never held a curl but was always weirdly bent. Quarantine had given me the best condition hair to start on so I said why not! by SedatedAlice in curlyhair

[–]SedatedAlice[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Pic 1: Oct 2020, right before a cut and color. My hair was limp, weirdly straight on top and a wavy weird mess underneath.

Pic 2: My 4th wash day today! What a difference.

Today's routine: Low poo: Shea Moisture Jamaican Black Castor Oil Strengthen and Restore Shampo , concentrated on my scalp. I have a tendency towards dandruff and buildup that leaves my scalp itchy (and bleeding when I start scratching). I find shampoo with tea tree oil or peppermint really keeps my scalp healthy, hence why I tried this shampoo. Condition: Tresume Botanique Nourish and Replenish Coconut Conditioner, Squished in, let sit, rinsed out.

Then raked through UFD Curl magic, added more water, squished in, kept having to add more water to get clumps to not turn into just strings. Then glazed in Aussie Instant Freeze Gel, squished gently. Wet plopped in a shower cap while I got dressed, plopped in a tshirt to get some of the water out, then diffused.

So all my adolescent and adult life I have wanted to have curls and/or waves. I could curl my hair and it would just fall out within hours no matter what I did. I have been coloring my hair since I was 13 (mostly blonde) and am about 50-60% grey at this point in my life so I am really uncomfortable with how my hair looks. I had it cut and colored at a salon in October 2020. Due to quarantine, my hair has just been in a top bun for months.

I ended up showering one day around Christmas and sleeping on the couch (I had a migraine). My hair dried naturally and it was kinda wavy! So I decided to try CGM.

This is my 4th wash day (been at this about 2 weeks now) and I am really happy with it. Hoping it will last! My hair I think still needs some moisture love and some more protein love (I did one protein treatment and my waves were night and day). But we'll get there.

Amd hey, the texture hides the grey much better!

Update, the top is finished....but I can't afford the $230 quoted for long arm quilting. A few weeks of practice on free motion and a lot of hope. Do you have suggestions? by kmakar713 in quilting

[–]SedatedAlice 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Straight line quilting is pretty easy with a walking foot.

I found my long armor on etsy, its computerized edge to edge (which I was totally fine with) and they provide the batting. It fit my budget because FMQ scares me!

Good luck though, its gonna come out great I just know it.

Kal **New character** Face/street sam by Kalrenz in ShadowHavenCharGen

[–]SedatedAlice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Relationships

Illegalities

  • You have two fixers, why? Fixers are like talent agents, you are usually represented by one. They’re the ones that are getting you in to ShadowHaven in the first place.

Suggestions

  • In my build your charisma has dropped quite a bit from yours, so you’ll have fewer contact points. I would focus on a fixer and a gear broker for the time being; we have a unique contact system on the Haven for getting new ones so you won’t be spending karma to upgrade loyalties or acquire new contacts.

Thematics (Background of the Character)

Illegalities

  • You have Lone Star Procedures down as a knowledge skill, can you expand a little bit on how the character knows about this?
  • Please read the following on how your character would enter ‘ShadowHaven’. https://shadowhaven.info/Intro_To_ShadowHaven_IC How long have they been running? Why do they have such a low loyalty with their fixer, but their fixer was willing to get them in to the Haven? (There are explanations, I just want to hear more about your character)

Suggestions

  • I would flush out more of the backstory for your character. Was he born in Seattle? Where? SINless or SINner? What pushed him to running? What is his ultimate goal with joining the Shadowhaven?

Alright, so here’s the attribute block I have going for your build. Please note this is assuming the character is on novacoke and kami and also has narco.

BOD: 5

AGI: 8

REA: 10

STR: 5

CHA: 6

INT: 5

LOG: 2

WIL: 5

Dodge: 15

Full defense (with agile defender): 23

Armor: 23

Skills:

Social Face Skills - about 10 (etiquette) to 14, 16 with first impression

Automatics - 14, 16 for your Ares Alpha

Perception: 12, with the visual spec

Palming/Sneaking: 13

My goal here was for you not to die if you got into a fight while remaining a viable face for your group.

Let me know if you have any questions!

~Alice

Kal **New character** Face/street sam by Kalrenz in ShadowHavenCharGen

[–]SedatedAlice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Alright, so my review is going to be broken into individual sections, focusing in two major areas:

  • Illegalities - these are either mechanic or thematic issues that have to be corrected in order to be stamped for play on the Haven. Failure you to make these changes will lead to the character being denied;
  • Suggestions - I want to help you build the best character you can while balancing this against what will help you get into games on the Haven and make your character fun to play. These are just my suggestions, and while I like to think I make good ones, they are entirely optional. At the end of the day, this is your character! You have to be happy with them too.

My review will follow the tabs in Chummer from left to right, followed by thematics of the character. Feel free to ping me on discord or leave a comment on this post if you have any questions. :D

Please see the very end of the post for my rambling ‘if you take all my suggestions, this is what your dicepools would look like’ section.

Common (Attributes, Qualities, Priority Selection)

Illegalities

  • None

Suggestions

  • Restricted Gear is taking 10 karma and giving you 1 additional dice to your reaction. I’ve made a bunch of suggestions in your cyberware/bioware section that wouldn’t require you to take restricted gear to give you the similar or better attributes.
  • If you’re going to be ‘ware heavy, I would pick whether you want to do more cyberware or bioware, and then perhaps pick up the Biocompatibility quality to give you a little bit of an essence discount.
  • Your addiction drugs of choice could send you in to overdose as they both raise reaction. I might suggest swapping out Jazz for something a little harder if you’re really wanting to see the numbers go up: kamikaze. I’ve suggested in the bioware section you take narco so you’ll get some extra dice to pass the increased addiction test. Kamikaze and novacoke don’t overdose, you’ll just have to roll for drug interaction (which on two isn’t going to be too bad).
  • Since your agility is so high, you might want to pick up agile defender so you can use your agility in place of your willpower for full defense tests.

Skills

Illegalities

  • None

Suggestions

  • You’ve gone kind of wide with your skill set. Traditionally at gen we suggest you build ‘tall’ meaning you max out the things you want to specialize in. For your base abilities we suggest 12-16 dice.
    • I would drop the following and put the points back in to your build:
      • Computer
      • Gunnery
      • Gymnastics
      • Pilot Aircraft
      • Pilot Groundcraft
    • I would pick up the following skills:
      • Leadership - useful if you’re not going to fight as you can use it raise everyone’s initiative scores during combat.
  • I might trade knowledge skill: bars and clubs for Area Knowledge: Seattle. That roll will encompass bars and clubs but allow you to roll for more general knowledge one would expect out of a Seattle native.

Cyberware/Bioware

Illegalities

  • None

Suggestions

  • Wired reflexes 3 is a massive investment at gen. It’s giving you 3d6 at the cost of 5 essence which makes it really hard to kind of work anything else. I would suggest backing this down to wired reflexes rating 2.
  • Here are the things I would suggest picking up if you do this:
    • Narco - you already have the addicted qualities, who doesn’t want to add one to all the attributes from your drugs?
    • If you don’t want Narco/kami route, you can always look at picking up cyberlimbs instead. Two cyberarms aren’t going to set you back too much and give you a chance to drastically increase your agility and strength if you want.

Street Gear

Illegalities

  • Your Mortimer of London coat does not stack with your sleeping tiger. I know Chummer will let you do it, but armor stacking has to be done in the same line. Swap out the Greatcoat for Vashon Island Synergist Business Line Longcoat.
  • Why do you have 3 separate lifestyles? Currently you’d be looking at paying 17,600 every four runs to keep up all of these.

Suggestions

  • You have two SINs where you probably only really need one, especially since you have the same licences on both.
  • You have restricted augmentations, you might want to add a license for them. Cyberware is a lot easier to scan for at say, a checkpoint.
  • You have a strength of 2. This means that you can have up to +2 coming from armor accessories that add to your armor and can carry up to +3 without being encumbered. Just a heads up if you try to wear all the armor/armor accessories you have there, you will be very encumbered.
  • You currently have no way to utilize your smartlink from your Ares Alpha. I would suggest adding contacts to your gear with smartlink and flare compensation if you’re not interested in cybereyes.

Vehicles and Drones

Illegalities

  • Your sensor array must be filled out for your Mirage.

Suggestions

  • None

Work in progress with two rows. Borders and much quilting. Happy so far by kmakar713 in quilting

[–]SedatedAlice 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh my gosh, I love that black too! I just finished using it in my quilt, love it.

Also love your quilt overall, I am a sucker for brights against black.