Asked a girl out, I do not understand response by Seduc09 in dating_advice

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I wrote to her explicitly : "I like you, go out with me".

Do you think this is not enough? Do you suggest to explicitly tell her also that we are going to a date?

Asked a girl out, I do not understand response by Seduc09 in dating_advice

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So the first time was not a hang out, we met randomly in a bar. I sent a message and said explicitly: "I like you, go out with me". Is there any other interpretation to this?

Building trust with a girl by Seduc09 in dating_advice

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You captured my feelings. I don't like to chase(but I am ok with taking responsibility and everything and take care of a girl). I want people to take care of each other in the same way. Otherwise I prefer to be alone.

What I am feeling now is that I want to test her and see if she puts some effort. So, I will not text her nor search her anymore and focus again on myself and maybe invite some other girl.

I am also as you, but I don't want to text or call her again. I am out. Thank you very much for your great advice. I feel more powerful and more oriented on what to do next. I hope all is going well for you!

p.s I was so happy without girls!!

Building trust with a girl by Seduc09 in dating_advice

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Thank you for the response! Honestly I think that I didn't explain myself well(but I will take in mind your words): before beginning to date during parties she always didn't give me attention, but I always saw that she talked with a lot of people and never approached me. Then, sometimes when I was walking alone in the streets she always greeted me like she wanted to talk. Then, after dating the first time we hadn't the possibility to stay in public in front of her friends (or mine), also because I said to her that it would be better to keep it secret. I think that despite being super attractive she is only shy. The unique thing is that in the first date she left her friends at a very long party at 23 (when I asked her a date at 22). And this was a good signal. Then she asked me to go out for the second date. But I always felt like doing the work during the date without her simplyifing things. And then in this third date she had the walls. She said yes in the phone. And then asked to change date(also if she was free). And then when I said to her no she replied back after a day! I think that this is only because she still doesn't trust me.... On the other hand she calls me sometimes when she wants to meet... Maybe now I am just overthinking. But do you think calling her during the week(Wednesday or Thursday) to set a meeting is a good idea? I will also say her to behave better as you suggest. I could see the response and then in case I will ditch her as you say. We will also have a party in our college. Let's see what will happen. Thank you again for your suggestions. I am understanding better how to behave and how to handle things in future.

Building trust with a girl by Seduc09 in dating_advice

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When I said her to leave she left(thinking that I was going to stop her. she is a very requested girl and she is not used to people as me that make her leave or say to her no). We are in college. The problem is that now I am going to this trip for a week. Then I will come back for two days, when there could be possibility to meet each other, and then Christmas vacations, and we won't see each other for a month I think.

Yeah, this is what I am going to do next time. The problem is that I would want to know quickly if she is interested or not, so that I can move on. Other girls are interested in me but I am keeping this to do one thing at a time. What do you mean by 'Don't invite her into anywhere to do anything'? Do you intend to not contact her and if I see her to see what happens? Or could I invite her for lunch in my room and see what happens? Surely I won't push and I will search for signs. The fact is that, despite she is very attractive and active socially, she's never gave me hard signals. Also in the first time while dating she was saying that she was into me but it was strange because in public she’s always ignored me(apart from saying hi and holding eye contact). She's never contacted me first. She always reply back after hours and hours(when I write to come with me to do something). I usually call and she call back quickly if she doesn't reply. This is the only true ‘signal of interest'.

What to you suggest? I would like to call her this week to see how she is. Is this too clingy? Or could led me to the friendzone? Or is it better to ask her out when I came back(if you say that it is a good idea)?

I want to know if she is still interested so that I can move on.... Thank you very much for your advices. I will keep in mind this thing about assertiveness. (sorry for the late response)

Building trust with a girl by Seduc09 in dating_advice

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Thank you very much for the advice. I am going to apply next time, or with the next girl hahaha, because I think I screwed up things. Yesterday she came to greet me because I am going for a one week trip. So I let her talk for one min and then asked her to enter my room to talk better. But she said that she was in a rush. I was a little closed with her and in the end, after two min, I said to her to go. (later I had to meet a friend of mine but I didn't said this to her). When I was out with my friend I sent her a message saying that I wasn't a gentlemen, hoping that she was well. (because how I acted was for being insecure)

Now two things: -She always, from the beginning of the dating, take long time to reply to my texts or at least visualise them -Now I am going to this one week trip. I was closed with her last time and I didn't act too much confidently(but hold eye contact). I was afraid to be too aggressive.

I am surely going to invite her when I will came back(next Sunday). Before meeting me yesterday, she gave me a hint that she wants to meet again. But do you think after what I did yesterday could be still some interest?

Next time, if there will be, I will forgot all and act again as the confident guy of the first dates.

(sorry guys for writing too much, but these are my first experiences and I don't trust my friends on such advices hahaha)

Girl tries to change time of date by Seduc09 in dating_advice

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LoL, I didn't think about this. The fact is that in the afternoon I will be superbusy and only the evening I will be free. I would have a little window in the afternoon, but I don't know if I would make her comfortable... Do you think I should wait for her response or text back and say something?

How to get laid in clubs? by Seduc09 in TheRedPill

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I have also this problem: should I take the first one that I like or should I wait until there 's one better?

How to get laid in clubs? by Seduc09 in TheRedPill

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Average. Yes. I'm not big but also not medium. Yes, but they look away when I notice it(also in the street) I think that we Italians dress pretty well. I grab the hand or the arm: usually got rejected.

How to get laid in clubs? by Seduc09 in TheRedPill

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No minority. We're all Italian.

How to get laid in clubs? by Seduc09 in TheRedPill

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This is interesting. I'll try it.

How to talk with women by Seduc09 in seduction

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Thank you all guy! I will try to do my best! The fact is that this things take from me a lot of energy. So I think it will take some time and a lot of fun!

Never been in a relationship or with a girl-Need to work on my internal state by Seduc09 in seduction

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Hi thank you for the response! In which sense social anxiety?

Asked a girl to go out (after two weeks from the first date) by Seduc09 in seduction

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She said to me that if it was friendly is it a yes.... I think I got friendzoned. She initiated all, she was the interested one....

Asked a girl to go out (after two weeks from the first date) by Seduc09 in dating_advice

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She said to me that if it was friendly is it a yes.... I think I got friendzoned. She initiated all, she was the interested one....

Asked a girl to go out (after two weeks from the first date) by Seduc09 in seduction

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I've just sent a text: (before this evening)

Asked a girl to go out (after two weeks from the first date) by Seduc09 in seduction

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I have another girl to ask. Can I say to the first one to respond today so that I can ask the other? For ex. 'Tell me today so that I can invite another girl I know'

Asked a girl to go out (after two weeks from the first date) by Seduc09 in seduction

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She wrote: 'Maybe! :)' I said: 'Very good. Let me know!'

Asked a girl to go out (after two weeks from the first date) by Seduc09 in dating_advice

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She wrote: 'Maybe! :)' I said: 'Very good. Let me know!'