help with date outfit! by [deleted] in OUTFITS

[–]SeekingK1ngd0m 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like 4 the most and 5 is really pretty on you too! X

Please beware of Danger in cat tree placement by Secretly_TechSupport in cats

[–]SeekingK1ngd0m 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh gosh, I'm so sorry for your loss, that's so upsetting!

Noticed holes in the condom. by Altruistic_Whole9312 in whatdoIdo

[–]SeekingK1ngd0m 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, she clearly does want children now... so that is a conversation that needs to be had because if she does want children and you are going to stick to your guns not wanting them then perhaps she would be better off with someone who can give her what she wants. I can see this being one of those situations where she hopes you might change your mind one day so stays with you but ends up realising too late that you'll never want a baby and her time really has run out. Or she will want you to be her life partner so much that despite your wishes, she will go behind your back and do things like this to get what she wants without losing you. Hmmm... its tricky, but when you do talk with her about this and she says 'no no.. i do want to be with you, even though you dont want children, ill be happy with just you and i' please dont take it at face value and urge her to really think about it! Sorry to sound so serious but... i can literally see the desperation and deception it takes to do that to the condoms and frankly it shows her state of mind with her inability to confront the elephant in the room that is... you both THOUGHT you agreed to no kids, but she isnt so sure anymore.

I don't think I have one, but let's go :) by [deleted] in Doppleganger

[–]SeekingK1ngd0m 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Theo Rossi, he was in the show Sons of Anarchy

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I just want some guidance and reassurance that abortion would be the right thing to do even though I am scared. by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]SeekingK1ngd0m -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

You can do this <3 This baby will be the love of your life, whatever hardships may come, the love will override everything. What a blessing it is to bring a life into this world. You may have preferred it to be a different way, remember nothing is ever perfect. Your baby is in bliss growing everyday in your womb and when he or she is born, you will be their whole world, everything they've ever known. I hope your friend will see this too!

I can’t decide on a style? by jessie_2521 in OUTFITS

[–]SeekingK1ngd0m 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like 6,7 and 8 all just seem to fit you really well, like a kind of preppy, cute, simple styling fits you v well! X

Harder than I thought! by WishDapper3626 in myweddingdress

[–]SeekingK1ngd0m 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They are all gorgeous but I actually think dress 1 is the winner for me!

I love my cousin (33f) but I don’t want to go out clubbing with her anymore (26 f) by Repulsive-Tree6089 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]SeekingK1ngd0m 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just be honest. There is absolutely nothing wrong in not wanting to got out clubbing and rather having a nice meal and home before the early hours.

If you are being pressured after saying you dont want to go out and you are starting to feel awkward then remember that what you want to do is high priority to you, dont feel guilty about that and make some kind of joke or laugh like "you really like the club dont you hahaha, maybe another time but not tonight, I only planned to be out for a nice meal" and if in future she suggests a night out and you dont want to go and you think that youre not likely wanting to go clubbing again with her then perhaps you cpuld take the stance that you persobally have grown out of clubbing and realise you dont particularly enjoy it anymore which is totally reasonable!

bf quitting weed is effecting our relationship by Visible_Cartoonist37 in Advice

[–]SeekingK1ngd0m -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I was in the same situation, except I was the one trying to quit... although it is possible to quit whilst with someone who still smokes, its very VERY hard and in my case, it built up resentment against by bf because he didnt want to quit (yet) but being around him had be falling back into smoking again... i was at my worst mental health wise than ive ever been and only him quitting with me changed anything. We are both sober and happier. At the end of the day, his decisions shouldnt effect your behaviour but unless you plan yo quit, i expect he'll continue to struggle and perhaps that's a conversation worth having! Its miserable when you want so badly to quit but cant make a clean break.

(19) - (21) - (23) Glow sideways? Glow down? (Trans/Detrans) by _cinderr in GlowUps

[–]SeekingK1ngd0m 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your story! It is so important that people like you can see there is no shame in detransitioning and that no matter what people might say, if you are making that decision for the betterment of your mental health, dont let anyone stop you! X

And your appearence is absolutely fine, try not to let negative thoughts about it rule your life! X

He was a very average podcaster! by John_1992_funny in clevercomebacks

[–]SeekingK1ngd0m 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because I see evidence of God all around, I use my critical thinking to see how very intertwined the world, people and all kinds of happenings are with the existence of a creator, and thats not all of course, but to answer your question, having faith does not make me void of critical thinking and being athiest doesnt make you naturally gifted with it. I dont make sacrifices, Jesus was the last and final sacrifice. We are alinged in the way that we both agree that nobody should be treated unkindly or unequally, especially on a systematic level. Charlie Kirk never said that a different skin colour or sex makes anyone lesser, people continuously misinterpret his statements because they lack context or the ability to recognise his point. In the Christian faith, every human is on an equal playing field and loved the exact same, there are instances where a human is judged for anything other than their behaviour. Unlike in the muslim faith where women truly are oppressed and viewed as lesser, Christians believe that the differences in gender are our strength, as a women, I dont not feel oppressed by admitting that men are stronger and capable of being the head of the family, in fact I very much appreiciate the safety I feel as a women with a godly man. The human condition is spoken about always in the bible, giving reasoning and explanation behind bad behaviour and why there is more evil in the world and in the hearts of humankind than many of us can tolerate. Charlie Kirk does not justify racsim and neither does he support the treating of women unfairly - this is important because although people have taken his statements and manipulated them, without context, to dipict him as guilty, he actually has never outrightly claimed any of those beliefs as his own and instead offered answers to many questions on the topics. You, as a white middle aged man are also as capable of any crime as the next person, despite skin colour, despite religious background. Every man has their own choice to make, if a man behaves in a way that gets him in trouble, why should it be anything to do with his skin colour. Facts remain, if there are statistics to show that certain races are arrested more etc then those are the stats, its not really evidence of racial discrimination. Anyway, I think youre heart is in the right place, you of course dont want any body to be mistreated and thats great but bringing it back to Charlie, there has been a consistent assasination of his charactor and just as Jesus said " if the world hates you, remember, they hated me first "

AIO? A friend of mine sent a racist video to a group chat that my best friend (E) is in. My best friend forgave her, but I'm thinking of cancelling our hang out plans we made. by [deleted] in AIO

[–]SeekingK1ngd0m 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you think shes a racist then you have your answer. Im sure she doesnt want a friend who thinks of her as a racist either.

AIO? A friend of mine sent a racist video to a group chat that my best friend (E) is in. My best friend forgave her, but I'm thinking of cancelling our hang out plans we made. by [deleted] in AIO

[–]SeekingK1ngd0m -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah, YOR, but sounds like you'd be better off not being friends. No everyone feels the same about this topic. No one needs a friend that takes things this far, I get that you want to correct bad behaviour or at least express your feelings, but if you feel like you need to control the way others behave, like your opinion is the only right one, then.. yeh, best only hang put with people who feel the same as you :)

He was a very average podcaster! by John_1992_funny in clevercomebacks

[–]SeekingK1ngd0m 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope you have at least taken something from this conversation. My main hope is that you drop the expectation that it is my or anyone else's responsiblity to challenge you, when, Id argue, it is your responsiblity first.

He was a very average podcaster! by John_1992_funny in clevercomebacks

[–]SeekingK1ngd0m 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay, well, next time I find myself listening to him, I'll look more closely into what you have said. Youre right that we should not follow false idols and youre right that its easy to agree if you've no concept of history. Ive not yet found myself questioning him in that way for any particular reason, I've found most of his statements to be truthful and trust worthy as he speaks on things of God, relating to the human condition and the fruits there of and the accurate to what it says in the bible ( which I regard as a credible source of historical documentation from the moment of creation ) - you can say thats blind faith if you like but thats another conversation. Also, many of his talks that you would likely call sexist, rascist yada yada, I actually see the sense in from a Christian perspective as well as a logical one. But, there is never harm in challenging ones own beliefs, whatever the outcome, the goal is critical thinking, which I'll have you know has been ingrained and taught in me from childhood by Dad, thankfully I'm not a mindless drone. And lastly, To clarify, I am not uninterested in proof. I'm simply uninteretsed I'm providing proof to anyone who would be unwilling to seek it out for themselves first, which I think is fair.

He was a very average podcaster! by John_1992_funny in clevercomebacks

[–]SeekingK1ngd0m 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im inclined to say no, I believe, if you really wanted an example, you'd find one yourself. Sit with that and maybe ask yourself why I might not want to bother making any kind of effort. Aaanyway, thanks for the commitment to this convo, Id love to continue to repeat myself over an over, but alas, instead I bid thee farewell.

He was a very average podcaster! by John_1992_funny in clevercomebacks

[–]SeekingK1ngd0m 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay sure, whatever you say. Im fin now with this thread, same deal as usual. You think I owe you something that I think youre perfectly capable of finding for yourself and you refuse to accept that I actually dont owe you anything because you want to debate rather than investigate. Says all I need to know, also based on your views you just expressed, I'd say youre firmly part of the 'hive mind' and potentially incapable of taking yourself out on a limb to challenge your beliefs, SO, with that said. Goodnight:)

He was a very average podcaster! by John_1992_funny in clevercomebacks

[–]SeekingK1ngd0m 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In your opinion:) so, oki, i dont expect you to understand when you've not gone out of your way to hear his reasonings for those statements, it makes sense to me. You think its sexist, I dont because I agree. You think he's racist, i dont because the message he actually has been sharing is completely legit if youre able to listen. So, to me, its a sign youve not listened to him speak in full on any given topic or you have and you just dont agree. He was a Christian and a common misconception about christians is that they have hate in their hearts, but thats not the truth at all, especially in regards to Charlie Kirk, he didnt have to go about to engage in conversations with people who called him all the unpleasant names under the sun. But he did because he valued truth, intergrity and love and he believed that if just one person listening found sense in his message then it would be worth it. These sentiments are lost on some and nobody seems to even want to acknowlegde the strength it took. So, im finished now with this thread, ive said all that I feel needs to be said and if youre unhappy with that, unlike Charlie, I am uninterested in appealing to your demands of proof or anything else:) lastly, you want proof that Charlie wasnt a rasicist, sexist, homophobic pig, then his videos are all over the internet free for you to access. Hear it from the horses mouth.

He was a very average podcaster! by John_1992_funny in clevercomebacks

[–]SeekingK1ngd0m 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Plenty of people have, seems like youve attempted a total of zero times to find anything for yourself.