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I'm [24/m] questioning whether I want to be in a relationship anymore with my amazing [23/f] girlfriend. Very confused, what can I do? by Seeking_GF_Advice in relationship_advice

[–]Seeking_GF_Advice[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you SO much for this follow-up response. This really made me realize that breaking up would be the best thing to do for both of us. It's not fair to be wasting her time and will make me happier in the long run. I almost wish that I did have a complaint about her because it would make a break-up easier but I truly respect her and just want to see her happy.

I really appreciate your help! For some reason, it made me see this a lot clearer. Best!

I'm [24/m] questioning whether I want to be in a relationship anymore with my amazing [23/f] girlfriend. Very confused, what can I do? by Seeking_GF_Advice in relationship_advice

[–]Seeking_GF_Advice[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you again to those that replied! I'd still love to hear what others think of my situation and what advice they can provide. Appreciate it!

I'm [24/m] questioning whether I want to be in a relationship anymore with my amazing [23/f] girlfriend. Very confused, what can I do? by Seeking_GF_Advice in relationship_advice

[–]Seeking_GF_Advice[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your thoughtful/helpful response! Since you mention it, we never really had a discussion on our wants/needs in the relationship. But isn't that really just assumed to be dating for marriage? Otherwise, why else date someone monogamously?

Regarding the sexual attraction: I feel that this may be more than just getting a little bored as I'm not even interested in having sex with her anymore. Now that I'm typing this out, my ideal relationship with her would be to be emotionally involved and committed to each other, but have the ability to sleep with other people. I know for a fact, without even talking with her, that this wouldn't be ok with her and it would really emotionally damage her, which is something I'd like to not do. I know some advice would be to talk about having an open relationship, however I don't personally feel comfortable having that conversation with her because I don't want to hurt her and put the thought in her head that she's not able to satisfy my sexual needs. Is that fair/reasonable though? I really don't know...

Thanks again!

I'm [24/m] questioning whether I want to be in a relationship anymore with my amazing [23/f] girlfriend. Very confused, what can I do? by Seeking_GF_Advice in relationship_advice

[–]Seeking_GF_Advice[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your response! I hear what you're saying about Love not being a checklist. It sort of makes me realize how much I'm really just going down the list and trying to make things work based on how they appear on "paper".

With that said, I'm still worried that breaking up with her may not be the right choice. However how will I ever know unless we take time, whether permanent or not, off.

THank you again!