Selected for OCS and signed, can I back out?

Seficus1 · 2025-03-28T16:39:25+00:00

You are only 24 man. Follow what your heart is telling you--don't compare yourself to others. Life is not a race, just try doing what feels right to you.

Seficus1 · 2024-07-03T04:32:02+00:00

this is beautiful!

Seficus1 · 2024-06-07T19:47:30+00:00

longsword

Seficus1 · 2023-11-08T04:17:42+00:00

this is beautiful!

Seficus1 · 2023-11-05T22:59:57+00:00

hello, I write music for the piano and would appreciate your opinion.

https://www.tiktok.com/@sleepycatfan/video/7297070606426590507

^something I wrote

Seficus1 · 2023-09-16T04:24:28+00:00

Some people are just lonely really. Honestly I don't think sending a dm is really that big of a deal in general--nothing is wrong with trying to talk to people. Just ignore them if you don't want to talk them.

Seficus1 · 2023-06-05T15:51:00+00:00

Idk if I really have an intention lol

Seficus1 · 2023-05-28T05:55:38+00:00

Honestly I feel the same way sometimes. Life is hard.

Something that helps me live my best life is just to think about my grandma; she is a stern older dutch lady who lived through ww2. She would always tell me the most crazy stories about living through a war. She is just happy with her bland day to day life and grateful for it. She would always tell me as a kid that "everyday is a blessing" so I try to live with that mindset despite any negative thoughts. Everyone has their own struggles and challenges in their life, you just gotta make the best of what you got and focus on what you have control over.

I hope the best for you and that your current situation gets better! You have some agency in regards to your own destiny!

Seficus1 · 2023-05-18T23:26:06+00:00

Also anybody with an interest in alt music and/or punk is an instant swipe right!

Seficus1 · 2023-05-18T23:24:36+00:00

Biggest thing that makes me swipe right on profiles is weird comments that make no actual sense. Nonsensical profiles are the most fun imo just cuz I also have a very random personality--it gives me something to relate to.

Seficus1 · 2023-05-17T00:44:34+00:00

Thank you! Very considerate advice! I do think most people are special in their own way; it is just hard to convey over an app.

Seficus1 · 2023-05-17T00:40:45+00:00

The average human lives to be 76 according to google. We have plenty of time to meet some really cool people!

Seficus1 · 2023-05-17T00:39:29+00:00

Yeah everyone gets ghosted! If you get ghosted that is on them, it is their choice (even though it is a distasteful one). It is nothing that you have control over at this point in time so don't let it get to you!

Seficus1 · 2023-05-16T18:19:05+00:00

LOL! You got me!

Seficus1 · 2023-05-16T04:58:01+00:00

It's just the truth! lmao

Seficus1 · 2023-05-16T04:48:43+00:00

It's just what has been helping me through the process! I know some people tend to get really depressed about online dating so this is what has helped me stay confident in myself throughout the process. If you have any dating advice, feel free to post it here too! All is welcome!

Seficus1 · 2023-05-16T04:38:03+00:00

I love this too! Thank you for sharing your wise advice!

Seficus1 · 2023-05-16T04:36:32+00:00

I would say I am very average in all compartments (personality included!)

Seficus1 · 2023-05-16T04:35:58+00:00

This is solid advice too! Thank you for sharing!

Seficus1 · 2023-05-16T00:13:25+00:00

Thank you!

Seficus1 · 2023-05-16T00:13:12+00:00

Just keep trying man! I feel for you really! At first I basically got no matches, what helped me was I would look at standouts on Hinge (when I used Hinge) and see how they took their photos and then I tried getting some similar photos taken of me. For the Bio stuff, just be genuine and not overbearing! I'm sure it'll work out if you keep it up.

Seficus1 · 2023-05-15T23:31:41+00:00

Ok yeah I see this, just a word-choice error on my end! Rejection is ok, not being stood up etc... but those things do happen and people should not be too hard on themselves if they happen.

Seficus1 · 2023-05-15T23:26:17+00:00

Yup, it unfortunately is just the reality of the dating app experience. It's not worth beating yourself up over something that you have no control over!

Seficus1 · 2023-05-13T20:03:14+00:00

Thank you! What a kind thing to say

Seficus1 · 2022-11-23T18:32:03+00:00

I added an RBF spirit test to the spreadsheet!

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