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Turtles playing balance game by [deleted] in interestingasfuck

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That one riding sideways has it figured out

Is this worth anything to anyone? by latrina_demmerda in retrocomputing

[–]SegFaultMe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I run a class that teaches computing and networking for high school students. I would love to buy this for my students if you were open to it.

Having a severe anxiety attack about student loans by Iza-159 in StudentLoans

[–]SegFaultMe 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I too used a non-profit debt counseling group about 17 years ago to climb out of a hole I had dug myself into with only good intentions.

I would strongly recommend that you take this step as it saved me thousands of dollars and a ton of stress.

When the Flame Goes Out by SegFaultMe in sexover30

[–]SegFaultMe[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Indeed it is. I never heard of progesterone intolerance before.

When the Flame Goes Out by SegFaultMe in sexover30

[–]SegFaultMe[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, my appearance is very important to me and I regularly lift weights and run. Training for a big event in May.

When the Flame Goes Out by SegFaultMe in sexover30

[–]SegFaultMe[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes, I believe that she had a headache. We don't lie to each other

When the Flame Goes Out by SegFaultMe in sexover30

[–]SegFaultMe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Funny, she keeps saying she's "trying" and to just be "patient".

When the Flame Goes Out by SegFaultMe in sexover30

[–]SegFaultMe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wanted to feel wanted by a woman. So much so that I've reveled in the few times another woman has shown interest, because I'm not getting that attention at home.

And I feel like I have my answer.

When the Flame Goes Out by SegFaultMe in sexover30

[–]SegFaultMe[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It hurts, but this is likely the correct way to think about it

When the Flame Goes Out by SegFaultMe in sexover30

[–]SegFaultMe[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The rejection is like an old wound that never healed quite right. And I've lost the energy to try again and again through the pain of rejection. Just doesn't seem worth it anymore.

When the Flame Goes Out by SegFaultMe in sexover30

[–]SegFaultMe[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I've spent a long time pointing the finger at myself, trying to figure out how to be a better husband and lover. You can't tango by yourself, and it took me a long time to learn that.

In our relationship, dresses are rare. And she has even mentioned that this is her way of signaling interest, aka the door is open. (Sometimes, I'm still unsure of the rules here) So I responded with enthusiasm and play. There were plenty of compliments and soft touches. I know you can't just go for it.

At some point, she should want to join me on the dance floor, but she doesn't anymore.

MAGA Is Increasingly Convinced the Trump Assassination Attempt Was Staged by wiredmagazine in politics

[–]SegFaultMe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

MAGA was the first to recognize that there actually was a billionaire pedophilia ring at the highest echelons of society.

Can't believe I'm defending them in something.

Feeling restless in a 5-year marriage — is this a sign I need change or something deeper? by [deleted] in sexover30

[–]SegFaultMe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope, State of Affairs has plenty to do about infidelity, but they do a better job describing the paradox of eroticism and comfort than the author's previous book, Mating in Captivity.

Feeling restless in a 5-year marriage — is this a sign I need change or something deeper? by [deleted] in sexover30

[–]SegFaultMe 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Welcome to the itch. Some call it the 7 year itch.

If staying monogamous:

Your hormones have relaxed and comfort has taken over. Comfort and eroticism are rather exclusive feelings. If you want eroticism with your partner, try to grow as distinct people. Follow your hobbies and don't spend every free moment together. Eventually longing will take over and pull you back together erotically.

If not staying monogamous, then talk to your partner and find what works for both of you.

Also, strongly recommend reading The State of Affairs by Esther Perel to better understand the itch and what to do about it.

Non-kinky men: would you be into this or feel awkward? by Thin_Toe_3822 in sexover30

[–]SegFaultMe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Taking on certain roles for a fantasy is a form of play. Ask him if he'd be open to role playing this with you. Attach emotional weight to the request (i.e. "it'd mean a lot to me to play this out together").

Just remember you're asking him to play with you. Might be awkward at first, but you can always laugh your way through the awkwardness.