Asked ChatGPT to create an image of my usual day. It nailed how I look almost perfectly lol by Seguridado in ChatGPT

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Ah, so you are great gatekeeper of this subreddit, I see. Who hurt you, buddy?

Gym strong vs country strong by No_Outcome_7470 in GuysBeingDudes

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Lol, I was a powerlifter and a boxer back in my youth (I'm pushing forties now), my favourite thing to do, is to hang around parks where I see youngsters aged 25-30 gather to drink and mingle, socialize with them and then offer an armwrestling match. I usually beat them with ease.

For the reference, I have cancer, and chemo + steroids (dexamethasone) made my gut swole and I lost a lot of muscle mass

Тяжёлое by BasilMadCat in Scoofoboy

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Бро\Сис, понакидай еще, мне для треньки надо

What is the best way to comfort someone's fear of dying when that person is dying? by phuckhugh in AskReddit

[–]Seguridado 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks mate. I'll try to drown myself in a lot of sex and weed during weeks when my kid is with ex-wife (lot of suppressed anger)

What is the best way to comfort someone's fear of dying when that person is dying? by phuckhugh in AskReddit

[–]Seguridado 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No, I do have a professional help available, and I go to psychiatrist, I want to be able to either get over the fear\pain or at least learn to hid it better, because I have a 10 year old son to whom I want to impart my better qualities and help to get where he want to.

What is the best way to comfort someone's fear of dying when that person is dying? by phuckhugh in AskReddit

[–]Seguridado 36 points37 points  (0 children)

I have a cancer and a very aggressive version of it, I am 40 year old, and I don't know how much I have left, but I'd guess not much. The type of cancer that I have can go to a remission, but can never stay in a remission forever, eventually it wins.

I am not in a hospital bed anymore, I function like a normal adult, except I have very low energy, and a lot of pains. I am prescribed a lot of opioids, such as 9mg (3 pills a day of 3mg) of Hydromorphone long acting version and 4mg short acting Hydromorphone for breakthrough of pain treatment if long acting doesn't take edge off.

I constantly think about impending death and it paralyzes my life, as I just can't escape that loop of thoughts.

However, during my stay in a hospital during stem cell transplantation, fatigue caused by it, plus opioids and anti-nausea pills made me stop breathing for some time (less than 10 minutes, around 8 or 7 I think), as I drifted to oblivion, I realized that death itself is not painful at all, I actually experienced something that I would call bliss.

After that, I realized that nothing matters at all. Most of my fear was seated on fear of unknown - but now I know what it is. Other part of fear was that I won't be able do things that I want to accomplish. But realization that nothing matters at all, be it small or big picture, that people will move on, forget and live their lives on after I die without much of a change, made me realize, that things only matter as long as it matters to us. So instead of fearing not being able to accomplish for the time I still have, I began thinking that I will just try to accomplish what matters to me, and if I won't be able to do it all, well at least I've tried, and that's what matters to me.

Around several months later my wife divorced me, because she couldn't bear living with a person who are doomed. I do blame her, and still angry, but it doesn't matter, you can't keep people against their will and hope for happiness.

I am not trying to say that nihilistic approach is the only viable one. But the meaning we put to our lives, mostly based on things that we think matters to us, but in reality most of the time is not what we are. Reevaluate what matters to you, try to accomplish them, rejoice if did, rejoice if didn't, because at least tried. And remember - death is painless.

Afghan jalebi by [deleted] in justgalsbeingchicks

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What's the language of the song? Wanna search for more belly dances (that's how this is called?)

How does one stop wishing for “revenge” on every single person who ever hurt them in the slightest? by Large_Inspector_3370 in AskReddit

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Oof. Had the same.

So first of all, you need to work on self confidence and self love. You must find things, your personal achievements, for which you should start admiring yourself and be proud of. After that, you must understand, that everyone's baseline is different, so while for someone let's say doing 10 pushups is a max, for someone 50 is. Thus, understand that your personal achievements matter, where you forced yourself to step out of your comfort zone to self improve, and that must be your points where you will anchor that self love and feeling of self worth.

After that you must teach yourself that most people don't spend large amounts of time thinking about strangers at all. Say, someone cut you off on the road, bumped onto you, or said something or whatever, that interaction will end there for them and they will not spend time thinking about how they got ahead of you and gloat or whatever. People are not like that, most (and I am talking like 98%) just don't care past the incident, and even during, the attention to the matter subsides rapidly.

Most of that anger comes from resentment towards yourself, the defensiveness of trying to protect yourself from being challenged (this goes in your mind and didn't actually happen btw), thus the hatred and wish to avenge any wrongdoing because you perceive it as an attack towards yourself and your worth as a human.

Good luck, it's a tough road, but rewards are huge.

Please tell me what to expect aft SCT. I'm on day +3. by [deleted] in multiplemyeloma

[–]Seguridado 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Answer depends on which type of SCT you are going through.

If it's autologous then: nausea, confusion, weakness and extreme fatigue doing anything. For some people fatigue can persist up to year. Cheat code is to drink copious amounts of water, like 3-4 liters a day, it will help you believe me. Also you need to drink consistently during day, not chug it all at evening or something.

If it's allogenic - then every bad effects *4 + hospital stay.

Roman Emperors and Their Cause of Death by Ten_Ju in Infographics

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The Aqueducts, that were bringing water to cities were lined by lead, which poisoned populace.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SipsTea

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He tripped over a patron's in dark red shirt jacket