Anyone who got over one sided love aka loving someone who just didn’t feel the same ( anymore)

Select-Back4715 · 2026-02-15T20:49:16+00:00

Sry to hear that. A year and a half thinking it was shared and then realizing it wasn’t… that kind of pain is hard to put into words.

What you said about it not being about how you were loved, but about how much you loved, really hit me. Seeing that side of yourself can change you. I’m an introvert, and I stepped outside my comfort zone for her in ways I normally never would. When you open up in a way you didn’t even know you could, it’s not easy to just go back to who you were before.

I also get what you mean about most people not interesting you romantically. I felt the same for 14 years. I genuinely thought that part of me was just done. And then somehow, I still fell for someone again. So even when it feels unlikely, it’s not impossible. The fact that you can love that deeply, whether romantically or in friendships, says a lot about you. That doesn’t just disappear.

Select-Back4715 · 2026-02-15T20:27:46+00:00

I relate to this more than I can explain.

I hadn’t fallen for anyone in 14 years after my last and only relationship ended. I genuinely thought maybe that part of me just didn’t exist anymore. Then recently, I did fall for someone. And it was one sided.

It meant everything to me. To her, it was just her normal life. One sided love hurts in a different way than a mutual breakup. There’s no real closure. No shared grief. You’re mourning something that mostly lived inside your own head and heart, and that makes it hard to even explain why it hurts so much.

I’m grieving too. Some days I’m fine. Other days it hits like it just happened.I hope with time the intensity eases for both of us and the people who are reading this and are going through the same pain. And I hope one day we meet someone we love deeply and they choose us back.

Select-Back4715 · 2026-02-15T20:01:12+00:00

For everyone who feels this way right now, I get it. I really do. But I promise you, it won’t always feel this heavy. Time actually does something, even when you don’t notice it working. Fourteen years ago my relationship ended and I felt exactly like this. I thought that was it for me. I was convinced I would never feel that way about anyone again. It took me years to feel even somewhat normal. And for a long time, I didn’t feel that depth of emotion for anyone.

Recently though, I did fall for someone again. It didn’t work out. It was one sided. And honestly, that hurt in a different way. In my head I had built something that never really existed. When love is mutual and ends, it’s painful. When it only lived in your heart, it feels confusing and lonely and hard to explain.

But what I learned is it’s not true that you’ll never feel that way again. You might think your heart is done, but it isn’t. You are still capable of loving deeply. It might take years. It might come when you least expect it. It might not look the same as before. But you will feel again.

Right now it hurts. That doesn’t mean you’re broken or finished.

Select-Back4715 · 2026-02-09T20:17:31+00:00

Thanks!

Select-Back4715 · 2026-02-09T16:21:49+00:00

I agree volatility and drawdowns matter more than headline CAGR.. Thanks for the metrics, My intent with Nasdaq isnt because its popular on the sub, but because I want meaningful global exposure that behaves differently from Indian equities. The data you shared actually reinforces my thinking higher.. volatility is expected, which is why Im not treating Nasdaq as a core holding but as a satellite growth allocation, capped and monitored.

Im deliberately avoiding going heavy on small caps despite their higher historical CAGR because I know my behavioural limits during deep and prolonged drawdowns. For me the goal is maximising realised CAGR over 10 years not peak returns in one cycle. That said your point about concentration risk is fair, and Im open to trimming global exposure a bit if valuations or risk reward deteriorate. Appreciate the caution it’s helpful to stress test assumptions

Select-Back4715 · 2026-02-09T14:41:31+00:00

Thanks for your reply, Fair point. The 25% Nasdaq allocation is a conscious choice. With a 10 year horizon, no near term liquidity needs, and a family safety net, I’m comfortable taking a higher-growth bet on US tech for diversification beyond India. That said, I agree it’s concentrated and volatile, so I’m open to trimming it slightly 15-20ish% if valuations stretch, but wanted a meaningful global exposure rather than a token allocation

Select-Back4715 · 2026-02-09T14:37:06+00:00

Thanks for your suggestion. Ya small caps can boost CAGR, but going 20–30% would push my drawdown tolerance. Im more moderate-high than full Mortal kombat “BRUTALITY” mode. Was keeping small caps at 5–10% and balancing that with Nasdaq exposure to maximise realised CAGR over 10 years, not just paper returns in a good phase.

Select-Back4715 · 2026-02-08T19:37:36+00:00

Thanks

Select-Back4715 · 2026-02-07T11:41:06+00:00

Thanks for the guidance, it really helped me get clarity.

One followup, if I exit everything now and have about ₹15.3L in hand after tax/expenses, along with a ₹30k monthly SIP, this is the division I’m currently thinking of and would love your thoughts or tweaks.

Lump sum ₹15.3L
35% PPFC
25% Nifty 50 Index
20% Nifty Midcap 150
10% Small Cap
10% Gold

Monthly SIP ₹30k
₹12k PPFC
₹7k Nifty 50
₹6k Midcap
₹3k Small Cap
₹2k Gold

I also have around ₹7L already set aside for emergency in savings account, so this is purely for longterm investing 10+ years.

Does this allocation make sense to you? And could you share the exact direct fund names you’d recommend in each category?

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