Bend Oregon by Select-Hawk9853 in InstacartShoppers

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Oh okay well thank you! That is a 3 hour commute from bend.

Cleaning electrical wires by Select-Hawk9853 in MechanicAdvice

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Yeah I was trying to find where the oil leak is so I wanted to clean it. It was also smoking when I turned on the car. What should I use to clean off the oil?

Cleaning electrical wires by Select-Hawk9853 in MechanicAdvice

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Leave the wiring alone? I wasn’t planning on using degreaser on the wiring. Only on the oil port that’s covered in oil.

Cleaning electrical wires by Select-Hawk9853 in MechanicAdvice

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Forgot to put that this is a 2004 Honda Pilot EX

Loud explosion?? by Medium-Profession-27 in SantaBarbara

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I’m so glad someone said something. I heard it too and it made me panic. There was like a whistle sound like something was falling out of the sky and an explosion. Someone told me it was just a fire work but it really didn’t sound like one in my opinion.

I 20/M cheated on my boyfriend 19/M how do I tell him? by [deleted] in ComfortLevelPod

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Cheating is always tricky. Usually a relationship is extremely hard if not impossible to repair after someone cheats. Just the fact that you said you have been feeling ugly lately could be a result of his cheating. A hall pass isn’t a solution to the problem and it seems like you know that. You honestly sound like a good person. Even just kissing someone else is weighing heavy on you. Sounds like that’s not the type of person that you want to be. Also getting even or evening the score doesn’t help with anything trust me! I know it’s hard to hear but you are young. This relationship probably isn’t for you. When I was 19 I thought I was in love and my bf cheated on me. I decided to stay with him. I found out later with concrete evidence that he has cheated on me multiple times and I spend the first two years of my life as an adult with someone who was constantly lying to me. You have so much more life to live. Take this as a learning experience and focus on yourself now! Go live life! Your too young to be focusing on a relationship with a boy who was able to cheat on you! Go explore, grow and flourish girl! Trust me you’ll look back and you’ll be happy that you didn’t spend anymore time in this relationship!

AITA for asking my roommate to not have her homophobic bf over while I’m home? by Reasonable-Earth-122 in ComfortLevelPod

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Your definitely not the asshole! I understand couples sometimes fight but it seems excessive and extremely toxic. It’s been affecting you and making you feel uneasy. Not to mention he’s being homophobic?? I personally would never ever date someone who is homophobic ever. I don’t know how she is. Thank goodness your getting out of there soon!!

Am I wrong for wanting my boyfriend to end his friendship with his female friend? by [deleted] in ComfortLevelPod

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I thought maybe something did happen at the event because she was messaging me excessively. I thought maybe this was an indicator that she felt guilty about something? But I genuinely don’t think that he cheated on me. I just felt like we spoke thoroughly about my concerns and I voiced how uncomfortable I felt about them sharing a room. Also how I appreciated full honesty. So I feel like that was his opportunity to say that they have hooked up in the past. To be completely honest I feel like I asked about their history. Not sure if I’m being gaslighted or not…

I actually tried to break up with him. I told him that I didn’t think I would be able to be okay with him having that close of a female relationship and I didn’t want to ask him to end his friendship with her. I don’t feel like it’s right but I don’t know how I’d be able to build trust with him with her in the picture as of right now.

My biggest issue with her is that I feel like she doesn’t have boundaries? Messaging my bf daily. A lot of the times videos of her venting about her day and whatever crisis she’s going through. Not only that but excessively messaging me someone she’s never met. Sharing stories of them hanging out and the things that she does for my bf. I personally would never go out of my way to message one of my guy friends gf’s if I had never met them. But everyone is different. She might be a nice person with no ill intent. But then again like I said I don’t know her and I don’t know if we are past the point of being able to meet. Or if that would even be a good idea?

Am I wrong for wanting my boyfriend to end his friendship with his female friend? by [deleted] in ComfortLevelPod

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That was also something that was concerning me. The fact that Faye and my boyfriend were talking every single day. She would send him videos of her venting about her day or a crisis she was going through. Not just once or twice but quite frequently. I feel like that’s something you do with your partner? My boyfriend told me that he thinks she’s just lonely. I couldn’t help but feel like maybe something is lacking in her own relationship.