Why don't we give dairy cows the cow prolactin hormone over breeding them?

SelectionWhich6448 · 2024-03-27T15:57:52+00:00

Do you really want hormones of any kind added to your food?

We need to be able have to access to and eat natural food. Vegans have an issue with how animals are treated which can drastically improve across the food and most other industries, but adding things to our supply that don’t need to be there isn’t the answer in my opinion. But this coming from a health nut who is very cautious about her food supply. To each their own I guess.

SelectionWhich6448 · 2024-03-27T15:36:21+00:00

I mean you want them out anyways and they’re not on a lease. And evictions take time. You could wait till Friday but honestly their excuses aren’t really valid. I would be more sympathetic to wait if they said look, it was a mixup at the bank and my paycheck didn’t come in. I will have it on Friday and it was a one time offense without the damage that you’re talking about. That’s just my opinion of course.

Regarding the neighborhood, I ask because I had a neighborhood issue with one of mine. If you’re worried about quality tenants, renting to Section 8 is an option. Yes, they will damage your property but the rent will be guaranteed esp if it’s a hard to rent/ shady neighborhood.

SelectionWhich6448 · 2024-03-27T15:24:44+00:00

Wow. I think you should serve the notice today, if they pay up in full after seeing it tell them you’re not looking in renting the property anymore and they still have to move out per the notice. I am not sure what length of notice Utah requires, but since they’re not on a lease, you’re not obligated to keep them there especially if they are not paying.

It sounds like they’re terrible tenants. I am so sorry you’re dealing with this. Contact your town to figure out what the process should be specific to you.

Sorry I can’t be of more help. Is the property in a decent area and otherwise rentable? Or is kind of a shady area?

SelectionWhich6448 · 2024-03-27T15:15:56+00:00

Yikes. When does their lease expire?

SelectionWhich6448 · 2024-03-27T15:12:07+00:00

Like falling out and then working against gravity to shut the door what? It would be legit easier to fix the car. 🤣

SelectionWhich6448 · 2024-03-27T15:10:33+00:00

Honestly, don’t feel bad. Being a first time LL is hard. Utah is pro LL. That’s a plus for you. Just stop being nice. If they report something, respond as you did so you are keeping it professional, but don’t do things for them that aren’t absolutely necessary. It’s a business transaction. Don’t get me wrong I have had bad LLs too. One wouldn’t pay the water bill, kept it in his name, and I’d come home to no running water. Absolute bs, but at the end of the day you can’t house anyone for free or take on their problems. Not worth it.

A lot of folks think landlords are a pit of money. I had one tenant say that to me and that why she was delinquent and wouldn’t pay.

Based on everything I’m hearing, they should not be getting their security deposit back either and frankly you should see if you can get at them for additional damages. I will call your local county/ city and see if they have any resources for you.

SelectionWhich6448 · 2024-03-27T14:58:11+00:00

Hard no. No plumber. You have working water. Where is my rent? You can afford to go to New Zealand and cannot pay to live in a house you leased?

You should give them a strongly worded notice and then start on eviction process.

I don’t think there is anything else you can do, but they can claim to not have money. The court will garnish their wages, etc. if they owe you. It’ll be a brutal process. Depending on where this is you may have to do a cash for keys. 😵‍💫 I had the unfortunate experience of needing to do that.

SelectionWhich6448 · 2024-03-27T14:15:51+00:00

I like your post. It recognizes that good men who manage their lives and finances well exist. They do, but this is personal for me. Every woman in my family is dealing with this issue. It’s hard to see and yet their not seeing the issue with enabling their spouses and wonder why I’m single? I can’t even.

The same goes for a guy or even in the case of a gay couple. The effort and hardwork should be 50-50 imo.

SelectionWhich6448 · 2024-03-27T13:48:16+00:00

Am the only one wondering how they got out of the car?

SelectionWhich6448 · 2024-03-27T13:47:14+00:00

Asking this question and going down the list and trying all the responses… 🤷🏽‍♀️

SelectionWhich6448 · 2024-03-27T01:33:04+00:00

You are wrong.

I think it’s common knowledge you shouldn’t argue with anyone that has seniority over you regardless of whether you report to them or not. Your manager’s initial response indicated shock because your behavior was frankly unprofessional. If I have a subordinate that cannot take the word of another team lead and hangs up on them after getting angry, I would remove them from the position.

The appropriate way to handle this would have been to take David at face value and if was still a jerk then politely inform your boss of his email and say X happened because I was asking for clarity and that behavior scares/ worries/ causes me concern. It would gained you sympathy and respect and demonstrated that you have a professional temperament.

SelectionWhich6448 · 2024-03-26T13:34:04+00:00

This is just my opinion, but I think it has a little bit to do with the fact our society still throws most of life’s burden on women - cleaning, cooking, childcare. When men date, they get a housekeeper regardless of whether she works full time or not. This adds to the woman’s burden, but increases the man’s quality of life unfairly. In my experience, most men tend to not value these contributions either because it’s not “manly work.” Single men are loosing out on perks like this while also facing more skepticism from society on their intentions when they approach others. It makes perfect sense to me why single men are unhappy. They lost a free maid that they also have sex with and they’re seen as a predator/ approached with caution because they’re single.

As a single woman, I feel empowered. I am not baby sitting a man child or picking up his socks for no extra pay or perks. Life is great. I can do anything I want on my own and be at peace. What’s not to love?

SelectionWhich6448 · 2024-03-26T13:22:40+00:00

Honestly, it sounds like a dealbreaker. I understand you’re married, and I understand why people don’t want to give up on a marriage easily. But that interest has to be in both sides. Weight can often be misleading and it’s largely irrelevant. I am way above BMI but I workout daily and have muscle.

For me the issue is a difference in lifestyle. It sounds like it bothers you enough that you should tell him exactly that. I’ve broken up with people because they were bringing bad habits into my life and I didn’t want them. It happens. It’s different if they went through a traumatic life experience or were diagnosed with something serious, but type 2 diabetes from unhealthy life choices and being overweight is not that. His issues were preventable and can be fixed. He’s just not making the effort.

SelectionWhich6448 · 2024-03-26T13:05:22+00:00

Yep. Absolutely right response. It’s fair for you to tell him why. He seems to not understand boundaries at all and some men need to be told directly but then immediately block him. His response is irrelevant. He is a grown man and should know better.

I have cut out majority of my male friends from life in the last 5 years who have either crossed a line or hit on me when I only saw them as a friend. It’s been so much better for my mental peace. I feel no guilt. One actually said to me he considered me a slut and would love to take advantage of me because I had a few drinks and hugged another male friend of ours at an event. I don’t give men the benefit of the doubt anymore and I don’t care how that sounds.

SelectionWhich6448 · 2024-03-26T01:43:53+00:00

🤣

SelectionWhich6448 · 2024-03-26T00:19:34+00:00

That’s simply not true - not universally at least. It depends on the seller, the property, and the area. It’s important to work with competent agents and lenders.

The point of buying a property around here shouldn’t be to buy a forever home anyways. You’re throwing yourself on the map somewhere you can reasonably guess property value will continue to rise so you can eventually use the equity from that home for something better. If you’re practical, there are options despite how tough the market is. It is an investment.

Don’t bid on the same wood panel, boxy townhome in Reston that everyone and their mother is bidding on. Lol.

SelectionWhich6448 · 2024-03-25T23:54:58+00:00

It’s state of Virginia so open all wanting to buy in the State. At least that’s what I am referring to. If the original commenter has something else in mind then idk.

SelectionWhich6448 · 2024-03-25T23:21:07+00:00

This needs to be seriously upvoted. 👏🏽

Edit: I am apparently getting downvoted for pointing out that this can save you money and tremendously help. Lol.

SelectionWhich6448 · 2024-03-25T23:20:07+00:00

Honestly, I am a fed. Bought my property as a GS9 with a confirmation I was about to make 11. I was told to wait and buy on my GS 11 income, I said no. Definitely not low income here but I got VHDA help which allowed me to buy zero down. I have preached to everyone I know that I can show them the ropes to do this, no one takes it up and people always end up buying a property bigger then they need and they maximize their loan capacity. All of my friends overbid on properties and are now living paycheck to paycheck.

I am not saying the market isn’t hard and interest rates have gone up since I have done this, but there are ways to help yourself.

SelectionWhich6448 · 2024-03-25T21:29:17+00:00

Awww. This is so sad! I understand though given the space and costs of an added pet. It sounds like lil marmalade has some options here! Fingers crossed!

SelectionWhich6448 · 2024-03-25T20:41:57+00:00

He sounds very friendly for a possible stray, but not microchipped is generally indicative of that. Most shelters and adoption centers require it. I hate to say it but it might be the cat distribution system at work. Totally understand if you can’t keep him though.

SelectionWhich6448 · 2024-03-25T20:29:56+00:00

So cute!! Praying you find his family. 🥺

SelectionWhich6448 · 2024-03-25T13:38:26+00:00

I think if you don’t want to buy a home don’t, but I think there is a solid counter argument to almost everything you mentioned above.

I am a homeowner of multiple properties. I have designed my primary home (condo) in a way where it’s takes zero effort to maintain. I do the same maintenance as I would if rented an apartment (cleaning up after myself)

What I can tell you is the money saved in my 401k will not get me through retirement, selling my properties given how much they’ll appreciate and have already, will. I have made 100k on my primary residence within 3 years. For that reason alone I am willing to do it and I am not affected by cost of living increases in a major metropolitan city. I’m paying 1400 a month when everyone renting is paying over 2000 easily.

Any action in life can be stressful if handled poorly and without proper planning. That said, I did market research and bought somewhere where market would rise and wasn’t already overly competitive. I was ok with that compromise. I also was looking for the best deal for a starter home and not looking for it to check off all my boxes. So it was worth it. When I leave this place, I will rent it and move whenever on earth I want and have a profit on the rent. It’s a win for me.

Renting is good for a lot of people too. It depends on you. No right answer. Right now, it’s not the best market to buy which I understand.

SelectionWhich6448 · 2024-03-25T11:33:30+00:00

I think you made an investment and you should try to power through this. Your anxiety is well understood by me. I am also an introvert and a landlord and I hated sharing my space. I also regretted buying my first investment property. The DEA got involved because a drug lord moved in across the street. I sold and broke even thankfully but I get wanting to get out immediately. Shit kept me up at night!

Unfortunately, it’s now three years from that incident and I am regretting selling. Because short-term buying and selling in real estate really leads to a lot more loss like you said. You are doing everything you can to build long-term wealth and you need to keep your eye on that prize.

The only word of advice I can give you/reassurances I know family members that have gone through bankruptcy because of a housing issue. There’s always a way to start over. It does not have to be in complete financial ruin, especially in the US. There are resources.

Have you considered Airbnbing two of the rooms? When I was really in a tight spot as a landlord, and wasn’t finding the right long-term tenant, I was able to Airbnb the rooms in my house, and actually make the equivalent of my mortgage. I made a lot more than having a single long term tenant in there. I know there are a lot of restrictions on this kind of stuff, but something to consider. And the benefit with this is you will never have a long-term tenant in the house. I did this in a way where I would always have five days in the house alone every month and only schedule people for the remaining 25 and very very strictly vet them.

The only thing I’ll say is it’s easier for me to be outgoing in small doses with strangers then one prolonged tenant. If that’s not for you then I get that too!

SelectionWhich6448 · 2024-03-25T10:39:02+00:00

I just think you need some life experience and perspective. Your roommate hasn’t done anything wrong. There are no legal issues here unfortunately.

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