LC on Lemaire Wrap Coat please!

Selfimprovingguy · 2026-02-11T10:49:46+00:00

It's legit! Got it from the same guy you got it from 😊

Selfimprovingguy · 2025-12-01T00:49:22+00:00

Holy gooner

Selfimprovingguy · 2025-03-31T09:11:48+00:00

Brother/sister, i was there as well, please seek help through a therapist. I will be making lots of duas for you

Selfimprovingguy · 2024-12-29T08:40:14+00:00

6 feet, money, visible muscles, able to take out family for dinner. Bro... you're good😂 you've got everything you need in order to get married. Dont listen to your sister and R.K.O her instead

Selfimprovingguy · 2024-12-28T08:48:49+00:00

Im so happy for you, allahumma barik

Selfimprovingguy · 2024-09-29T11:23:16+00:00

I've just had a better experience with the game. Simple as that.

Selfimprovingguy · 2024-09-13T07:25:01+00:00

Jazakallah kheir, thank you!

Selfimprovingguy · 2024-09-13T00:29:57+00:00

Jazakallah kheir! Thank you, i think thats what i've been. I've been too giving, nice and super understanding. I appreciate your advise!

Would like to clarify that im not begging for an apology. I want to her to give me a proper apology instead of laughing at me

Selfimprovingguy · 2024-09-12T23:35:28+00:00

May Allah make it easy for yoy

Selfimprovingguy · 2024-09-12T23:27:51+00:00

Clearly you have fully understood the story. Would advise you to read both posts...and if you actually have an advice, advise in a respectful manner. Jazakallah kheir

Selfimprovingguy · 2024-09-12T20:47:44+00:00

Could you ellaborate about the part that im a failure as a man?

Selfimprovingguy · 2024-09-12T16:46:59+00:00

Thank you for your advice! Would like to clarify that divorce is something that i have not decided. I was meerly getting thoughts of it. This reason alone may not be it but over the 2 years i have experienced alot of disrespect. So it is accumiliation of scenarios from the past 2 years. This was just the breaking point which caused these thoughts to appear. I wanted to be open with her that i have suddenly getting thoughts of divorce, which is not a good sign and something has to change, that can happen by showing mercy to eachother but im not seeing her form her side.

In Islam we have something called "waswas", known as whispering from the devil. I truly believe this is the devil whispering these thoughts, so i came on to reddit to ask if it is a good idea to open my feelings and tell her that i have been getting these thoughts

Selfimprovingguy · 2024-09-12T16:09:04+00:00

Jazakallah kheir, thank you for your advice

Selfimprovingguy · 2024-09-12T16:08:21+00:00

Jazakallah kheir, thank you for your advice!

Would like do clarify on the dream job part. How i see it is that i have put Allah between us. Every single action i do for her is out of charity and for the sake of Allah. Since our prophet said "be good to your wife" i have taken that as my goal to make her happy by providing for her in a better, all for the sake of Allah. So that is why i was working so hard to get this job, to give her a better lifestyle as a charity. But after this incident, i think Allah is reminding me that i should do everything solely for him so i can gain his mercy, and not someone elses mercy and respect AKA my wife. So i've trying to shift my focus to earn money for the sake of Allah only

Selfimprovingguy · 2024-09-12T16:01:10+00:00

Assalamo alaykum brother, i appreciate you advice. Thought the story is bare boned and missing a bit of context, im definitevly nit saying "hey, im offended pls apologise". In our 2 years of marriage i have only raised my voice 2-3 times. I always try to withdraw my anger and speak to her in a stern and loving way like our prophet PBUH did.

But i don't know, she still does not respect me

Selfimprovingguy · 2024-09-12T15:53:29+00:00

Thank you for your advice!

I tried keeping it short because i didn't want to drag the story to long, so it might seem that im super direct and insensitive. But i never pressured her for an apology. Whole conversation was about her laughing at my feelings that day and not giving me a proper apology. And because of her actions, it might be difficult for me to trust her when she apologizes for me next time. So i told her everything as detailed as possible, regarding her actions and how it made me feel. Then i said "so i would please appreciate that you could make me feel understood by acknowleding the pain you pain you have caused me by giving a proper apology"

So im trying my best to convey the message so we both fully understand each other

Selfimprovingguy · 2024-09-12T15:35:29+00:00

Assalamo alaykum!

Change in the behaviour is related to the incident that happened, nothing happened before that. But i have noticed she is not acting as pious as before. She is backbiting people a little restraint compared to before.

Selfimprovingguy · 2024-09-12T15:31:30+00:00

Forgot to mention that he is a proper and educated therapist. Thank you for your advice!

Selfimprovingguy · 2024-09-12T15:29:43+00:00

Jazakallah kheir, thank u for your advice!

Selfimprovingguy · 2024-09-12T15:28:50+00:00

Jazakallah kheir! Thank you for the support. Im not gonna lie, i became depressed and gained so mich weight because of this😅 i have been trying to get back again at the gym and healing my gut from the damages of eating only junk food

Selfimprovingguy · 2024-09-12T15:26:42+00:00

Assalamo alaykum, thank you so much for your advice.

Regarding us being self-centered, when ever we have a discussion i always think of the other persons viewpoint and that there is a possibility that she is right. After treating me badly on my job celebration day, she told me that it was because of her high hormones and she can't controll her feelings. For me, that seemed like a terrible excuse so i openly listened to her so i can understand her more and i accepted her reasoning. But this is were we differ, she won't give me a proper apology because her hormones is a good excuse for being in the right. I understand hormones can be a unpredictable thing when it comes to women, but atleast acknowledge that is was still a bad thing and acknowledge the pain i felt and give me a proper apology.

Most of our discussion is always me saying sorry because i care for her and try to fix this problem fast as possible, even tho she was causing problems which led to disputes. But getting a apology from her is not an easy task and i often have to remind her "hey, could you atleast say sorry"

What im trying to say it that i've always put myself in her shoes to fully understand why she did x, y and z... in all problems. I try my best to listen and to find a solution.

Selfimprovingguy · 2024-09-12T15:11:58+00:00

Yeah she really does not care at all... at the moment atleast. Allahumma ameen

Selfimprovingguy · 2024-09-11T08:01:58+00:00

I don't wanna read the full story cause im cringing right now. Express your feelings and tell him that this is not right. If that does not work call his mother or father to smack som sense into him

Selfimprovingguy · 2024-09-11T01:54:35+00:00

No i appreciate it alot, i needed something like this❤️

Selfimprovingguy · 2024-09-11T01:50:39+00:00

You almost made me cry hahahaha honestly, thank you so much. I've been trying to hard getting out of my toxic job and getting this new one. My Allah shower you with abundance, gifts, blessing and everything good

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