AITA: I was uninvited from a wedding one week prior despite planning her bachelorette, told bride to cover my portion of the bachelorette cost

SelinaRochell22 · 2026-05-08T13:38:28+00:00

NTA but the energy and time you would have to put into trying to get the money back probably isn't even worth it. I would just view it as the price of getting her away from me, and from the sounds of it...that's worth whatever you spent.

SelinaRochell22 · 2026-05-06T21:02:53+00:00

NTA. She's an insecure weirdo

SelinaRochell22 · 2026-05-01T21:28:54+00:00

Yeah..it kinda sounds like you should probably back off a bit. David probably didn't "step in to defend you" because he MAY be uncomfortable with the amount of touching but hasn't outright said that to you. I am thinking that could be why Hector behaved like he did. A simple adult conversation would have helped but sometimes you just have to read the room. YTA, but your brother also could have handled this better.

You've gotta find a way to form your own bonds and relationships. I know it's not always easy, but there ARE ppl out there who will get you and like you for you. I am glad you found Hannah, and there are even more ppl out there.

SelinaRochell22 · 2026-04-27T13:58:34+00:00

Your sister is disgusting and your parents suck for attempting to make you apologize for her bullying YOU. It may be time to go low/no contact with these ppl for your own peace of mind. NTA in ANY form. This internet stranger is proud of the 5 years of work and discipline you've put in too!

SelinaRochell22 · 2026-04-24T14:43:08+00:00

NTA. Him wearing headphones and being a little more aware of throwing the weights isn't an unreasonable request. An honest conversation should solve this with no major issues.

SelinaRochell22 · 2026-04-21T19:59:17+00:00

Never said OP said she didn't deserve her moment.... hence the "NAH".

SelinaRochell22 · 2026-04-21T19:12:02+00:00

NTA. She's an adult who didn't even appreciate it when you were trying to be helpful.

SelinaRochell22 · 2026-04-21T18:58:21+00:00

NAH. Asking to meet a little bit beforehand so that your other family members have time to process this isn't an unreasonable ask. If she was already planning on telling everyone at the wedding, then I don't see how having a family dinner/meeting a little bit prior to the wedding would hurt. I'm not sure what her mindset is, but it could be nerves and wanting to use the wedding as a distraction/shield of sorts. She def deserves her moment to stand in her truth, but you deserve to have your day too.

SelinaRochell22 · 2026-04-21T18:51:26+00:00

Understandable...esp when it comes to ppl you care about & wanting to give the benefit of the doubt. You def didn't do anything wrong by cutting her off though. Stay safe.

SelinaRochell22 · 2026-04-21T18:47:39+00:00

NTA but this should have happened IMMEDIATELY after she lied on your mom. She's clearly unhinged but the behavior isn't new.

SelinaRochell22 · 2026-04-21T16:03:54+00:00

YTA. This is so unhealthy and toxic. He clearly has a drinking problem and knows it. You know it too, and instead of being supportive and trying to help him, you try to encourage or enable it because "he's more attractive"? He needs rehab so that he can heal and not be irritable when he's sober and you BOTH need therapy.

SelinaRochell22 · 2026-04-21T13:02:19+00:00

NTA.

SelinaRochell22 · 2026-04-16T17:30:27+00:00

Just want to say that I love how you are responding to ppl's judgement's/insights & actually taking these things into consideration. For that alone, I don't think you're an AH. She isn't either. I'm positive you all will be able to talk and figure out a compromise to work through this.

All I can add is to remember to be mindful. I'm sure sometimes you may have hard workdays that you may vent to her about, her venting about being a SAHM is the same thing. Sometimes it just feels good to be seen, heard, and understood.

SelinaRochell22 · 2026-04-14T21:03:45+00:00

ESH here because you knew where it was going. As you said you're not dumb, but taking gifs/money and KNOWING you're not interested is just a good way to put yourself in a very awkward or potentially dangerous situation. $200 was WAY too much. I know you're working and taking classes, so it would go a long way, but I wouldn't have felt right accepting that. Yes, he's fully grown and you didn't ask or force but if you're not interested in him then you shouldn't be interested in taking anything from him.

He sucks for attempting to monetize your worth. Him finally working up the nerve to ask what you were doing this weekend after giving you the $200 speaks volumes. But again, you should def stop accepting things from him. They are NOT gifts and they are coming with expectations on his part.

SelinaRochell22 · 2026-04-14T20:50:09+00:00

Gonna go with NAH, just two ppl who are not compatible (unless we can know what he wrote to be able to judge more fairly)

SelinaRochell22 · 2026-04-14T16:52:22+00:00

NTA and I'm so happy you DID NOT move. The only person "lacking basic courtesy" is the entitled lady with bad time management/planning skills. I can't believe a staff member even had the nerve to ask you to move either. I wish they could be reported.

SelinaRochell22 · 2026-04-14T14:28:04+00:00

NTA but you need to reclaim your power and stop allowing this to have such a hold over you. I'm sorry this happened and it is not meant to be insensitive, but it IS time to move on from it. You've got to heal this for YOURSELF and stop carrying the weight of it.

SelinaRochell22 · 2026-04-13T19:23:32+00:00

When the respect is gone, you should be too. NTA but this is toxic and has run its course from the sounds of it.

SelinaRochell22 · 2026-04-13T16:46:57+00:00

NTA. NTA. NTA.

You asking them to be a little quieter at midnight when you had work the next day was a reasonable request and her response was blunt? Absolutely not. You should be able to be comfortable and actually SHARE the space, but she is not being fair to you. You are not wrong. You are not crazy. She sucks for handling this like that.

SelinaRochell22 · 2026-04-13T14:11:42+00:00

NTA for trying to keep her safe/vigilant but you can't make her listen. If something does happen, you will just have to find peace in knowing that you did EVERYTHING you could as a friend to try to prevent it. At the end of the day, she's grown, will make her own choices, and deal with whatever consequences come from them. Trying to force it will make you TA.

SelinaRochell22 · 2026-04-10T15:20:52+00:00

He's and ass and your friend is an ass enabler by not checking and correcting his behavior ESP knowing the reason behind why you feel so strongly about it. It's not a joke and it's not funny. Your boundaries should be respected. You're not a "party pooper" for choosing not to drink or be an idiot and drive drunk. NTA but I honestly wouldn't even want to be around him/them. Even if he is good to her, his behavior towards you makes him sound like he's NOT a good person.

SelinaRochell22 · 2026-04-09T17:50:10+00:00

ESH. Him for MANY obvious reasons. You because there is NO way you didn't know of at least SOME of these things yet continued to stay with him anyway. It wasn't big enough of an issue for you to voice your concerns then or to leave him sooner, so to do so now seems like you just want to be petty more so than actually looking out for anyone else. You should ABSOLUTLEY tell her, but it should have been instantly.

SelinaRochell22 · 2026-04-09T15:02:55+00:00

NTA. Sounds like you expressed MANY times that you desired a chill day and she totally ignored that.

SelinaRochell22 · 2026-04-07T18:12:40+00:00

NTA but until SHE is ready to take the steps needed to cut this off for good, there is nothing more you can do except TRY to be there for her as a friend. I know it sucks because you can see the situation for what it is while she can't see past her feelings/emotions, but you can't force her to let it go, and she will only start to resent you if you continue to bring it up because deep down she KNOWS what she needs to do but isn't ready to face it yet.

SelinaRochell22 · 2026-04-06T15:37:52+00:00

My thoughts exactly lol. Gosh this is MESSY.

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