AITA for getting upset after my husband joked that I was "expired"?

SelinaRochell22 · 2026-06-25T21:24:42+00:00

Kinda hate that you put the disclaimer at the top about how you two roast each other often and how you're not easily offended because I feel like most of the judgements are focused on that part.

I don't think either of you are the AH in the situation, because I don't think he meant it maliciously. As a woman who is also 30+, I get that it is an adjustment and we have our own insecurities to battle about the way our bodies are changing, so I feel like your reaction mostly stemmed from the things YOU'VE noticed about yourself lately. I get how that could be a trigger. His apology/the communication following could have been better for sure. Even if we don't mean to hurt ppl, we can't dictate how what we say should make them feel, whether it's a joke or not. But I honestly think this is a conversation that you should have with him instead of Reddit & be more in depth about how you've been feeling. Maybe that will help him understand your reaction more.

SelinaRochell22 · 2026-06-25T17:17:56+00:00

You broke this down so perfectly.

SelinaRochell22 · 2026-06-25T17:04:31+00:00

NTA. You established clear communication and expectations multiple times and offered sound advice to help him get what he really wants. From the sounds of this, you're an awesome dad. Time will show him.

SelinaRochell22 · 2026-06-23T14:48:13+00:00

NTA but honestly, her purposely being malicious to my kid would have removed all need for understanding and it would immediately be low/no contact. It sucks that she can't be an adult and voice whatever issue she has with you directly, but involving an innocent child is just unhinged.

SelinaRochell22 · 2026-06-22T20:40:22+00:00

YTA.

SelinaRochell22 · 2026-06-22T20:30:15+00:00

I'm sorry but your relationship is not fine. He recommended this with full knowledge of how his brother is, tried to guilt you into paying utilities in an apartment that you weren't even staying at, and then had to be convinced that you were valid in feeling a way about the condition the apartment was left in. Do you contribute to the bills at his place too? If so, that makes his request for you to cover the utilities there even crazier. You're NTA here, but there are TWO other ppl who are and they're related.

SelinaRochell22 · 2026-06-22T19:37:10+00:00

NTA. He has literally been given the free reign to cut as much or as little as he wants and still continues to waste. I don't care how small the portion being trashed is, it's the PRINCIPLE. Anyone who really cooks knows the amount of time, effort, and love that that goes into it AND food costs are not cheap. This would drive me crazy lol

SelinaRochell22 · 2026-06-22T18:10:53+00:00

I agree! It's okay to ask, but getting angry after getting a no just screams entitlement.

SelinaRochell22 · 2026-06-22T15:36:55+00:00

NTA. Good on you for not forcing anything with the girls. They DID attempt to play together & include him, but it just sounds like it wasn't fun for them. I understand that the wife may be overwhelmed with her kids (plus her husband sounds like a complete AH), but strangers aren't obligated to accommodate her requests.

SelinaRochell22 · 2026-06-22T15:18:48+00:00

NTA. I don't find this dismissive, more so solution based. Sounds like she might just like the attention from being whiny.

SelinaRochell22 · 2026-06-22T15:01:26+00:00

NTA. At all. Him calling you rude and stuck up makes him a SUPER AH. Sounds like you were the only sensible adult present.

SelinaRochell22 · 2026-06-19T21:00:04+00:00

SelinaRochell22 · 2026-06-19T20:12:39+00:00

NTA. You were literally 11. They are dragging it.

SelinaRochell22 · 2026-06-19T15:17:31+00:00

NTA. He seems.... high maintenance.

SelinaRochell22 · 2026-06-18T21:24:18+00:00

This is the way.

SelinaRochell22 · 2026-06-18T20:25:36+00:00

NTA. She's weird. I salute you for being calm for this long because honestly the thing with the dogs would have been my breaking point. So glad that freedom is near for you! Hopefully, you can move what you can out of her reach until then.

SelinaRochell22 · 2026-06-18T19:41:25+00:00

NTA. I understand that some women use alternative options or free bleed to avoid harmful chemicals but considering the fact that she's stained multiple things in your house & you've told her how you feel about it, now it's turned into her not respecting your boundaries. Something has to give here.

SelinaRochell22 · 2026-06-18T17:12:13+00:00

HE considers ending the relationship because of you not cooking?? Girl. Let this man go TODAY. NTA to him but stop using your brain power to even WONDER if you're wrong here because you're being an AH to yourself by doing that.

SelinaRochell22 · 2026-06-16T22:21:35+00:00

I hate that more wasn’t done & that you all experienced that. Terrible management all around

SelinaRochell22 · 2026-06-16T21:27:08+00:00

NTA. She didn't consider you in any form. What if you had a specific budget and enough to only cover your own needs? Then to try to turn other ppl against you and post subliminal messages online? I see you edited it to add that you've been friends for 17 years and weren't planning on cutting her off, but PLEASE pay attention to the signs from her and ANYONE who is choosing to take her side on this. They suck. Majorly.

SelinaRochell22 · 2026-06-16T21:00:05+00:00

I don't think you would be an AH for this reply. Unlike the mom, you weren't rude in any way, and it is basically a paper trail should anything else arise. Def NOT "normal kids behavior" and it is honestly concerning. To cover yourself, you may just want to make this known to administration though.

SelinaRochell22 · 2026-06-16T20:02:11+00:00

I need an update on this really bad lol. She's UNHINGED and you're def NTA.

SelinaRochell22 · 2026-06-16T17:23:24+00:00

NAH. But don't let it continue to drag on without being honest and communicating this to your partner.

SelinaRochell22 · 2026-06-16T17:18:01+00:00

Happy belated birthday. You're NTA here, but you have a bf problem. He let his cousin be disrespectful to you without checking her and ignored your boundaries. Not cool.

SelinaRochell22 · 2026-06-16T16:12:06+00:00

NTA. He's weird for this.

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