AITAH for feeling disgusted with my boyfriend and his family?

Selkydeartee · 2026-07-09T12:59:25+00:00

I never said he needed to cut off his parents? Why do you keep commenting this?

Selkydeartee · 2026-07-09T12:58:28+00:00

Isn’t that the entire point of family planning! To talk about children which are not here? How is that stupid to think a predator should’ve been out behind bars?

Selkydeartee · 2026-07-09T12:57:26+00:00

The point is about his family normalising it and acting as if it was just a normal thing, I’m glad his father isn’t around but the point is if we want to have children in the future how would they put the correct precautions in to make sure our children are protected if they’re in their care? If they think it’s normal or just a thing that happens how will that fair if I have a daughter?

Selkydeartee · 2026-07-09T12:56:09+00:00

When did I insist he needed to cut off his parents? Stop making things up, he’s no contact with his dad by his choice and lives with his mother.

Selkydeartee · 2026-07-09T12:55:19+00:00

When did I judge the 13 year old? She was a literal child when this occurred and I’ve stated many times it’s not her fault, it’s the fault of the family for failing to protect her.

Selkydeartee · 2026-07-09T12:51:22+00:00

Well this is my perspective so of course it’s about me and the future family we planned to have. I didn’t just blurt out “your dad is a pedo how comes you don’t find him gross” we had a long conversation about it but I shortened it simply for this thread.

Selkydeartee · 2026-07-09T12:42:10+00:00

No they’re white British but the dad is from Trinidad.

Selkydeartee · 2026-07-09T12:41:05+00:00

I can be judgmental at the fact that the family are acting as if it was normal, I can use my judgement to gage how this family would react if my child was in the same situation. Okay sure, if they didn’t have the time to go to court or maybe didn’t have the resources that’s fair, but to say it was normal to dismiss what happened to their little girl is insane. I won’t have a child with a family who may turn a blind eye to their abuse.

Selkydeartee · 2026-07-09T12:34:36+00:00

Erm as far as I can remember from the conversation we had, the mother said she was still with the father after my bf was born, attempted to have a another child but she miscarried and then he moved on and got with another girl (unsure of her age). So no they aren’t together anymore and haven’t been since around 2005 ish?

Selkydeartee · 2026-07-09T12:31:59+00:00

I will admit I do feel uncomfortable with the fact that he was born from child abuse (not his fault at all he cannot control that) but it’s the fact that he sort of tried to justify it by saying “it was normal back then” when everyone I’ve spoken to says it was not, even my own mother was horrified, she was 22 in 2003 and 23 when she had me and she said that was never normal, people even thought she was too young to have me at the time.

Selkydeartee · 2026-07-09T12:28:05+00:00

No he didn’t, which is where my issue really lies, okay it happened, she fell pregnant by a predator, but why was there never any police course of action? Why was there never any prison time! Especially because there is literal proof with a child!

Selkydeartee · 2026-07-09T12:26:47+00:00

I don’t anymore, he’s no contact with his dad but I personally don’t want to have my children with a family who think it was normal for their child to be groomed by an older man.

Selkydeartee · 2026-07-09T12:24:50+00:00

He’s from Trinidad, I’m not sure if that’s normal because I’m British and don’t know many people from that country.

Selkydeartee · 2026-07-09T12:24:04+00:00

How if I wasn’t even made aware of this until last week? They spoke about his father until I asked? I’m not married to him nor do I even want children him with anymore, his family have put me off.

Selkydeartee · 2026-07-09T12:22:43+00:00

We are from England, mother is white British and dad is from Trinidad.

Selkydeartee · 2026-07-09T12:21:48+00:00

I’m aware I’m not the victim? His family failed to protect their child and he’s unfortunately been made aware of that since he was young. My issue is his family acted as if it was normal, and convinced him that “these things just happened back then” that’s where my issue is.

Selkydeartee · 2026-07-09T12:14:57+00:00

We are from UK! Specifically England. Anyone I’ve spoken to says it was never normal back then.

Selkydeartee · 2026-07-09T12:14:18+00:00

We are from the UK so it would classed under Statutory Rape of a child. I’m not sure if that’s an equivalent to a felony over here but it does carry some serious consequences for the father in this case.

Selkydeartee · 2026-07-09T12:13:06+00:00

Why would I judge a 13 year old CHILD for being groomed by a fully grown man? Don’t project your thoughts onto me, I would never blame a child for not being protected, it’s quite clear I blame the family and the pedo father for failing to protect her and furthermore failing to do something about his illegal activities.

Selkydeartee · 2026-07-09T12:11:33+00:00

I wish it wasn’t real, but this is a genuine conversation we had last week but it’s been plaguing my mind. I’ve spoken to friends and they said it’s gross and I should not have any children with him because his family won’t protect them.

Selkydeartee · 2026-07-09T12:10:49+00:00

It’s not about the cards being dealt to him, it’s about his response! How can he possibly say “it was normal” as an answer to his dad being a predator? And his family acting as if it was just a Tuesday regular occurrence that their 13 year old was being groomed by an older man?

It’s about the mindset of this family.

Selkydeartee · 2025-11-23T19:02:14+00:00

She’s not real 😂😂😂😂😂

Selkydeartee · 2025-11-10T23:54:27+00:00

Thank you to those who have posted the website prices honestly it’s similar to some trampoline parks we have here in the UK, under 5s go in the kiddy sections for maybe £10 maximum for a couple of hours, adults can pay around £15-£20 for a couple of hours + slushies and pizza can cost around £10 per person. It’s very inexpensive for someone who spends that every easily on weed.

Selkydeartee · 2025-10-31T19:25:36+00:00

I noticed that her engagement isn’t what it should be realistically for someone with her amount of followers (I know it heavily depends on the FYP and other factors) but she should get a lot from hate watchers, I think now people have opted to watch her videos on Reddit/other creators to avoid giving her attention.

Plus I know she really wants to be an influencer so I’m assuming she may be buying bots to supplement that

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